Assalamu Aleykum Warahmatullahi Wabarakaathuh sister Hannah.
In the name of Allah (SWT), the Compassionate, the Most Most Merciful. All praise belongs to Allah (SWT), we praise
Him, seek his aid, ask for his forgiveness, and we seek his guidance. Whomsoever Allah (SWT) guides to the Haqq
(His way, which is the Deen of Islam), none can misguide, and whomsoever he allows to go astray (because they
follow their desires), none can guide. And I testify that none deserves to be worshipped but Allah (SWT), that He
has no partners or similarities, and I testify that Muhammad (SAW) is his final Rasul.
Sister, how many children do you have from your ex-husband?
only the one son
How many boys/girls do you have from him?
one boy
How old are they? (And also, have they going through/finished puberty?) he's
almost 7
Please explain about your ex-husband (nationality also please) (including the negative stuff: drug abuse, domestic
violence, etc.)
This is all in the past i know he is not a bad person in those ways anymore. he's from mexico, here illegally
Please explain the kind of relationship that your son (or other children) have with your ex-husband?
He hasn't seen him for atleast a yr. and before that it was like twice a year if that, very sporadic
Did he ever abuse or attack them, treat them badly? etc.
He never hurt my son, only me.
How many years have you been divorced with him?
we've been divorced since 2005
How much does your son (or other children from your ex) love him? Ex: not that much, a little bit, doesn't really
like him, hates him, etc.
Well i've asked my son if he wants to see him and he says no, but how can he answer that, he doesn't even know him.
Is your son (/other children from him) desperate/eager/excited/longing to see/spend time with him?
no, he's nervous, but it's going to be at my job so i'll just be around the corner from the kids library area.
How far does he live from you, and how many houses does he live in (ex. one in Mexico, one in Delaware, etc.)?
he lives in delaware, like 15 min from me, and he has gone to mexico illegally atleast 3 times since i've known him.
Does he continue to use drugs or those bad stuff?
He doesn't do any of this, or drink at all.
Sorry for all the questions, but I just needed some background information so that I can understand the type of man
that your ex-husband is, and the possible things that can be done in order to solve this issue, please forgive me.
Sister, for now, the best advise that I can give you is to make dua to Allah (SWT), and ask Him to do whatever pleases HIM the most, and you should do Salatul Istikhara:
https://www.turntoislam.com/forum/showthread.php?t=6612
And remember to put your full Tawakkul (Full Reliance and Trust) in Allah (SWT), because only those who have Tawakkul in Allah (SWT) will be able to receive His Favour and Mercy.
I'll also make dua for you, and hopefully, this sitution will be solved in the best manner, Inshallah Ta Alla.
