I hope its ok to post this in this forum, I am a little confused on which one to post my story in to get help.
My boyfriend and I just broke up because of the religious differences but it goes further than that. We were together for two years and before I met him I classified myself as Buddhist like the rest of my family. Then after meeting him I realized how little I knew about the religion I claimed to follow. A year into our relationship my house was robbed while I was home and after that I lost all faith and all hope in life. He was also there when it happened and helped me through the hard times that followed. After this incident I realized that Islam was the reason why he was able to move forward in life. He told me things that he learned from his religion that helped me gain my faith back in life and in God. He helped me understand things that I never understood before and he did this by teaching me about Islam. He was never pushy about the religion. He wasn’t one of those people who came to your house with their religion to try and get you to attend their service. He was patient with me. I soon realized that the reasons why I loved him are because of Islam and that he wouldn’t be the man I loved without his religion. His family did not know about me for a while and when they found out they gave him a choice to either leave the house and stay with me or break up with me. He chose me and left the house. The only reason he went back was because his sister was getting married and they called him and told him that he couldn’t do that to his sister. After that I rarely came up and was still kept a secret. I decided that in order to reestablish my belief in God and have hope and faith in life again I needed to find a religion. Islam was what seemed right to me and still is. I have been researching the religion and asking him millions of questions about various things I read. Why this, and why that. Then about a month ago after a fight we had I told him that I felt like he wasn’t on my side and that he wasn’t doing everything he could to help us move forward in our relationship. After this he suggested that we break up. He said that no matter what he did I would always feel like I wasn’t accepted by his family and his community and he felt guilty for lying to his family and hiding me. He said that it would be better for us to break up because even if I converted I would never feel like I belonged. I didn’t understand this because a couple nights before this he called his Mom and asked her about me. He told her how he felt about me and what would happen between their relationship if he wanted to marry me if I converted. His Mom said if I converted for the right reasons then she will doing anything she could to ensure his happiness but she also said it was very, very difficult and rarely worked out. But I still thought this was a step forward then days later he breaks up with me saying that I will never be fully accepted even if I converted. I don’t understand what I am supposed to do. I want to convert but I want to be with him and if I continue to convert and marry a Muslim man, will I never be accepted in his family and community? It’s wrong for me not to be accepted if I was Muslim. Although my family will still be Buddhist and I am not Pakistani like him shouldn’t being a good person that loves him and a devout Muslim be enough? Now I don’t know what I want to do because why would I convert to a religion that comes with a community that will never accept me as an equal? Please help.
My boyfriend and I just broke up because of the religious differences but it goes further than that. We were together for two years and before I met him I classified myself as Buddhist like the rest of my family. Then after meeting him I realized how little I knew about the religion I claimed to follow. A year into our relationship my house was robbed while I was home and after that I lost all faith and all hope in life. He was also there when it happened and helped me through the hard times that followed. After this incident I realized that Islam was the reason why he was able to move forward in life. He told me things that he learned from his religion that helped me gain my faith back in life and in God. He helped me understand things that I never understood before and he did this by teaching me about Islam. He was never pushy about the religion. He wasn’t one of those people who came to your house with their religion to try and get you to attend their service. He was patient with me. I soon realized that the reasons why I loved him are because of Islam and that he wouldn’t be the man I loved without his religion. His family did not know about me for a while and when they found out they gave him a choice to either leave the house and stay with me or break up with me. He chose me and left the house. The only reason he went back was because his sister was getting married and they called him and told him that he couldn’t do that to his sister. After that I rarely came up and was still kept a secret. I decided that in order to reestablish my belief in God and have hope and faith in life again I needed to find a religion. Islam was what seemed right to me and still is. I have been researching the religion and asking him millions of questions about various things I read. Why this, and why that. Then about a month ago after a fight we had I told him that I felt like he wasn’t on my side and that he wasn’t doing everything he could to help us move forward in our relationship. After this he suggested that we break up. He said that no matter what he did I would always feel like I wasn’t accepted by his family and his community and he felt guilty for lying to his family and hiding me. He said that it would be better for us to break up because even if I converted I would never feel like I belonged. I didn’t understand this because a couple nights before this he called his Mom and asked her about me. He told her how he felt about me and what would happen between their relationship if he wanted to marry me if I converted. His Mom said if I converted for the right reasons then she will doing anything she could to ensure his happiness but she also said it was very, very difficult and rarely worked out. But I still thought this was a step forward then days later he breaks up with me saying that I will never be fully accepted even if I converted. I don’t understand what I am supposed to do. I want to convert but I want to be with him and if I continue to convert and marry a Muslim man, will I never be accepted in his family and community? It’s wrong for me not to be accepted if I was Muslim. Although my family will still be Buddhist and I am not Pakistani like him shouldn’t being a good person that loves him and a devout Muslim be enough? Now I don’t know what I want to do because why would I convert to a religion that comes with a community that will never accept me as an equal? Please help.