:salam2:
i hope to find you all in best of health and imaan
i have a question bothering me since a long time now
first, about my education, i 'm just completing my MSC engineering (masters) and currently i'm doing my internship as a consultant in Business Intelligence field
i have to do it because without completing my internship i can't get the diploma, but when i look at the job, how hard it is, the hours, the hard work you need, i don't imagine working after i get my diploma.
it's not an impossible job, but to build the best career for yourself, you need to devote many time to your work like in any field, but it's even more important in this
now my parents are looking for a person to marry for me
but what we see in europe is that more and more, the boy wants his wife to work, especially if she is educated
i have really few criterias that i told my parents for choosing a boy, but one of them is that the boy or his family don't ask me to work
but my parents say they won't accept, plus if you have a degree of course they will ask you to work
and perhaps, at least in the beginning you will have to work one or two years to support him, especially i he comes from back home and it will take time to him to settle down in europe
so my questions are:
1.is it a bad deed and thing if i apply this criteria and only accept to marry if i'm not forced to work?
2. in islam, is it better for a woman to work or to stay at home and take care of home tasks?
people tell me it's sad that you waste yur education, plus some say that you can do dawah going outside etc... but i 'm not satisfied with these things, when i go outside, i have to take the bus, train and as an engineer i can be working until usually 7 or 8 pm which i find incorrect for a woman
plus if i do job otside, how can i take care of home tasks
i don't understand what i should do because people tell me life is hard in europe if you don't work, especially if your husband hasn't good a great job and doesn't earn a lot etc.. ..and isn't well settled
should i accept to work if i need to, because my future husband will need my financial help, even if i really don't wan't to do job?
thanks for advice, it's really really important for me
wassalam
i hope to find you all in best of health and imaan
i have a question bothering me since a long time now
first, about my education, i 'm just completing my MSC engineering (masters) and currently i'm doing my internship as a consultant in Business Intelligence field
i have to do it because without completing my internship i can't get the diploma, but when i look at the job, how hard it is, the hours, the hard work you need, i don't imagine working after i get my diploma.
it's not an impossible job, but to build the best career for yourself, you need to devote many time to your work like in any field, but it's even more important in this
now my parents are looking for a person to marry for me
but what we see in europe is that more and more, the boy wants his wife to work, especially if she is educated
i have really few criterias that i told my parents for choosing a boy, but one of them is that the boy or his family don't ask me to work
but my parents say they won't accept, plus if you have a degree of course they will ask you to work
and perhaps, at least in the beginning you will have to work one or two years to support him, especially i he comes from back home and it will take time to him to settle down in europe
so my questions are:
1.is it a bad deed and thing if i apply this criteria and only accept to marry if i'm not forced to work?
2. in islam, is it better for a woman to work or to stay at home and take care of home tasks?
people tell me it's sad that you waste yur education, plus some say that you can do dawah going outside etc... but i 'm not satisfied with these things, when i go outside, i have to take the bus, train and as an engineer i can be working until usually 7 or 8 pm which i find incorrect for a woman
plus if i do job otside, how can i take care of home tasks
i don't understand what i should do because people tell me life is hard in europe if you don't work, especially if your husband hasn't good a great job and doesn't earn a lot etc.. ..and isn't well settled
should i accept to work if i need to, because my future husband will need my financial help, even if i really don't wan't to do job?
thanks for advice, it's really really important for me
wassalam