I myself mashallah Have Beard and will only like to marry girl with hijab .if i ever marry born muslim then for sure if she is wearing Hijab and if she is reverted from any other faith then i will ask her and inshallh make sure that she wears hijab or else i will look for other girl and not really want to marry girl with no hijab and By hijab i dont mean Girls wearing scarf and then on bottom they wear Skin tight Pants or they wear shorts T-Shirts , so short that when they sit somewhere she is exposed . mostly in south east Asia part of world i have noticed . i wont like girl with this behaviour cuz i myself wont do it. i used to be Western moron but alhamdulila after learning about islam i dont wanna get into that kind of sinful life where every minute you are entitled to commit a sin small or big ..
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The Prophet said, "A woman is married for four things, i.e., her wealth, her family status, her beauty and her religion. So you should marry the religious woman (otherwise) you will be a loser." Volume 7, Book 62, Number 27: Narrated Abu Huraira.
i dont think i have to say much ..... brothers ..... if u choose a pious sister then she'll follow the ayah that tells women to cover ..... and sister if you choose a pious brother then he'll follow the ways of the Prophet (s.a.w)
and Allah knows best
Asslamo Allaikum,
The most important consideration for me would be to marry a sister based on “her religion” & I accept that wearing Hijab is a manifestation of her religion; BUT…
I am an odd-ball and if I was to get married, I would construct a “psychological profile” of the sister (& I did of every single sister when I was going to get married, maintained a spread-sheet & so on***) and if I genuinely believe that she is “inclined towards practising” then I would marry her & if she was not wearing Hijab then I am sure that she will (Insha’Alla) in the future
Based on cold, hard and dispassionate analysis, there are plenty of Non-Hijabi sisters I would ABSOLUTELY marry!
Based on cold, hard and dispassionate analysis there are plenty of Hijabi or even Naqabi sisters that I would ABSOLUTELY pass!
Fortunately my wife was always practising…
Based on cold, hard and dispassionate analysis, Istikhara, Shura & 6 years of married life I would marry her (my wife) EVEN if she was not wearing a Hijab everyday & twice on a Sunday…but I know that she would have NEVER even considered me f I didn’t a beard
*** P.S: Since I actually told every single sister that I was considering about my “System”; some of them actually asked for detailed feed back (can you believe it???) so I sent them long e-mails explaining and stuff…(It was funny at the time) & in turn appreciated it
I actually had a system of saying “No” politely (loop-backs i.e. how to handle problems) because I didn’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings
Some may think that I am a nutcase and they may be right but I always plan things and create a system and analyse everything I (it’s just in my nature I suppose)…
AsSalamu aleykom
hard to judge any brother based on wether they have beard or not. but I would prefer a brother who is pious Insha'Allah.
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With regards to the brother who said that the beard is not mandatory well I have news for you it is. The reason for this is that; let me break it down for you. If you had a child and told him not to move from a spot but he does how would you feel? upset? because he did not listen to you, now lets think that father was the Prophet saw and we are that child. Also we are told in the Qur’an, to take what the Prophet saw tells us and to stay away from what he forbids us.
And Allah knows best if I have made a mistake it is from me.
asalaamu alaikom waramatullahe wabarakatuh,
ok, I wear hijab and though I wanted to wear niqab I did not because it is very hard for a single sister in the US to wear..... I thought once I got married I would wear niqab because I then had the protection of my husband but he does not allow me to wear niqab.... he says only hijab is mandatory according to the Quran...... I am still trying to talk him into allowing me to wear niqab........ (as we have only been married for 2 weeks!) but the biggest reason he was interested in marrying me was because I wore hijab and practiced our deen fully......
He however does not wear a beard but otherwise he also practices our deen fully, I am also still trying to talk him into wearing a beard but he is afraid I think to stand out too fully as a practicing muslim here in the US...... the day after I came to my husbands work wearing hijab ( I had to go there this was not something I could avoid!) he was told not to come into work for a couple of days because there wasnt enough work that week..... but he was the ONLY person laid off for a couple of days!!!!!!
you have to look at the situation a person is in before you can judge why they are not wearing a beard or hijab or niqab....... Allah swt is the ONLY judge!!!!!!!!