Choices! Choices!
Assalmu Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuhu...
I am seriously in need of an advice. I am a muslim and respect the religion Islam. I really feel very much blessed to be born as a Muslim.
N coming to my problem...I like a non-muslim guy n he likes me too n we want to marry.I know am not suppose to do this.But...
Please help me out in this regard so that i could take a gud decision which would please Allah(SWT) n me...
Allah Hafiz...
W-Salam Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuhu Sister,
I have no idea how old you are but a few things first.
1) When you are younger, hormones are raging and you can easily interpret a CRUSH for LOVE!
2) Depending on your family circumstances, emotional and mental state you can often mistake someone sympathetic towards you (and showing kindness) to mean LOVE!
3) Are you truly in LOVE???
In Islam obedience to Allah (SWT) is paramount to the point that you are SUPPOSED to DISOBEY everyone else for the sake of OBEDIENCE to Allah (SWT), that includes your parents, your relatives, your brothers/sisters, your children & your love.
LOVE in Islam is ONLY permissible WHEN it conforms to the Qur’aan/Sunnah and unfortunately in your case it doesn’t.
Dear Respected Sister in Islam! You have two choices (that is if you are truly in LOVE!):
1) Present Islam to the man and perform Nikah with him and strengthen your bond of love, devotion and dedication to this man of your heart
2) Reject him for the sake of Allah if he rejects Islam & your reward will be paradise with width greater then the heavens & the Earth.
Lets discuss choice (2) first:
Allah (SWT) says in the Qur’aan (first verse of the 4th Juz (Para):
You CANNOT attain PIETY UNTIL you sacrifice of WHAT you LOVE!
Think about the above verse, this could be YOUR TICKET to building a relationship with Allah (SWT). Strong faith, piety requires sacrifice & this is YOUR CHANCE!
A Hadeeth of Rausl-ullah (Sallaho Alaihe Wassallam) says:
Abu Ya'la Shaddad ibn Aws reported that the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, "The intelligent man is the one who subjugates himself and works for what will come after death. The stupid man is the one who follows his own whims and hopes that his desires will be gratified by Allah." [at-Tirmidhi]
Again! Your chance to Paradise as I said is HERE & NOW!
This could become a GOLDEN OPPURTUNITY for you.
Lets discuss choice (1) now:
In my humble and unqualified opinion marrying this guy EVEN AFTER he becomes Muslim presents colossal responsibility, i.e. you have to look after yourself and you have to look after your man (who is new to Islam, new in the community etc. etc. etc.).
Looking after a Revert when they are new is never easy.
Looking after a Revert man is even harder.
If you believe that you are responsible, sensible and mature enough to handle the enormous responsibilities then go for it!