SwordofAllah16
Heros of Islam
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It will be useful if you can or some one else can provide the procedure of arrange marriage.
It is extremely important to understand the proper procedure or method and to recognize the difference between the 3 marriages.
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There is another question that pops up. How you can marry some one you dont know? What about if he/she does not like you?
Ok the question about how can you love someone you don't know...and what if that person doesn't like you
first of all when a guy approaches a mahram of the sister he wishes to marry, there will be a point when the sister and the brother have a chance to talk to each only when her mahram is present in the room [this is when the parents usually meet], at this point the sister is allowed to be looked at only once without hijab, for the sake of the brother to see if he likes what he sees, but the main thing the brother and the sister look for is first piety, then beauty, then wealth then family.
this is a point for both of the people get to say whether they like the person or not and because they barely know each other it makes it easier for them to say no, and it saves them from developing some inappropriate feelings for each other.
And later once they get married they have all the time they need to get to know each other, if they get married for the sake of Allah then they will start off with the one thing they have common, which is the deen...sooner or later they will get to know each other and the rest we make du'a for Allah to make it a successful marriage, if you get married for the sake of Allah then you will learn to love each other for the sake of Allah...similarly if two enemies where to come into islam they infact must love for their brother what they love for themselves, because Allah says "the believers are nothing but brothers.."
if however they try but fail then thers the concept of talaq (divorce) which is a whole different topic in it self.
i will be searching for a scholory description of the proceedure of marriage rather than putting it up maself i know it but my explanations is like a kids compared to theirs
hope that answered the question you posed if not then i'm sorry i couldn't be more clearer
detail of love marriage not being a part of the sunnah is in the seerah of the Prophet Muhammad i suggest the book "the sealed necter" for brothers and sisters...its a fat book but very benificial
p.s just because you don't know a person before getting married to her doesn't mean we need to get to know the person before marriage and go against Allahs orders (not suggesting that you implied this) this ummah will only be successful when they stick to the Qur'an and sunnah even if somethings don't make sense to us, Allah is the knower of everything and knows what is best for us in all circumstances