Ashima33
Junior Member
Salaam Alaikum,
I have talked about this with a few people before... but I'm still struggling with it. Since I am a convert, I have transitioned from a life of dating to specifically finding a marriage partner. Although I'm not currently looking for someone to marry, I still have anxiety about how I will meet this person, how I will know it's right, etc. There is a brother who could potentially propose to me, but that's very up in the air. I find myself getting fixated on the idea of being with him, because I knew him and were friends before I converted... so I know him pretty well. And his family is like my 2nd family. I struggle everyday with the thought of, "What if I don't end up with him?" I tell myself I'll be okay, but I get anxious when I think about how I would find someone else? Sometimes it seems like people meet each other get engaged and married in a matter of 2 months and I know I just couldn't do that.... but I know I will be ready for marriage soon and don't feel like waiting FOREVER to get to know a person again. So I guess I would just like to know how my fellow converts have dealt with this transition. Sometimes I feel like I'm not putting enough trust in Allah, and I think, "well I will make sure to pray istikhara." But then I think, "what if I misinterpret?"
Thank you
Wasalaam.
I have talked about this with a few people before... but I'm still struggling with it. Since I am a convert, I have transitioned from a life of dating to specifically finding a marriage partner. Although I'm not currently looking for someone to marry, I still have anxiety about how I will meet this person, how I will know it's right, etc. There is a brother who could potentially propose to me, but that's very up in the air. I find myself getting fixated on the idea of being with him, because I knew him and were friends before I converted... so I know him pretty well. And his family is like my 2nd family. I struggle everyday with the thought of, "What if I don't end up with him?" I tell myself I'll be okay, but I get anxious when I think about how I would find someone else? Sometimes it seems like people meet each other get engaged and married in a matter of 2 months and I know I just couldn't do that.... but I know I will be ready for marriage soon and don't feel like waiting FOREVER to get to know a person again. So I guess I would just like to know how my fellow converts have dealt with this transition. Sometimes I feel like I'm not putting enough trust in Allah, and I think, "well I will make sure to pray istikhara." But then I think, "what if I misinterpret?"
Thank you
Wasalaam.