kayleigh
Junior Member
Salaam brothers and sisters,
I have been given an exceptionally daunting task, which I'm sure you're all going to have to help me with. a good friend of mine was having a chat with his cousin (both are Muslim), and his cousin told him that he was concerned because his girlfriend was raised as being Muslim, but hates Islam and disagrees with a lot of it. His cousin asked him if he could get me to talk to her, and of course I agreed. I guess they both think she's more likely to listen to a girl, and a convert.
So, how do I go about reviving someone's interesting in Islam? I know all things happen by the will of Allah (swt), and I am praying about it, but I need tips on what to say/what not to say from those who have done a lot of dawah.
I DON'T want to talk to her about how she shouldn't be dating. There's no point in talking about it since I know it'll just push her away again. I need to get her to stop hating Islam, not hate it more. The dating thing she'll have to come to terms with later when she has enough faith to care. She knows it's against Islam, otherwise she wouldn't hide it from her parents. She just doesn't care.
I'm pretty sure one of the contributing factors to her split with Islam is that she wants to take on the "fun" Western culture (which she sees as being non-Muslim in this case), and forget about her "stuffy" Eastern culture (which she sees as representing Islam). I know part of the problem is that she wants to be a hip, fashionable college student, who's free to make out with her boyfriend, and have no one to answer to. So I think I need to somehow show her that you can live a normal life, and have fun, yet still do/believe all the fun Muslim-y stuff (lol). I have to show her that it won't totally ruin her life to give up a few things that are against Islam, in time, and come back to it.
So yeah, advice would be much appreciated. and if you can't think of anything (or even if you can), I would ask that you pray that this girl can be guided back to Islam.
Wasalaam
PS - Sorry, I think I posted this in the wrong section.
I have been given an exceptionally daunting task, which I'm sure you're all going to have to help me with. a good friend of mine was having a chat with his cousin (both are Muslim), and his cousin told him that he was concerned because his girlfriend was raised as being Muslim, but hates Islam and disagrees with a lot of it. His cousin asked him if he could get me to talk to her, and of course I agreed. I guess they both think she's more likely to listen to a girl, and a convert.
So, how do I go about reviving someone's interesting in Islam? I know all things happen by the will of Allah (swt), and I am praying about it, but I need tips on what to say/what not to say from those who have done a lot of dawah.
I DON'T want to talk to her about how she shouldn't be dating. There's no point in talking about it since I know it'll just push her away again. I need to get her to stop hating Islam, not hate it more. The dating thing she'll have to come to terms with later when she has enough faith to care. She knows it's against Islam, otherwise she wouldn't hide it from her parents. She just doesn't care.
I'm pretty sure one of the contributing factors to her split with Islam is that she wants to take on the "fun" Western culture (which she sees as being non-Muslim in this case), and forget about her "stuffy" Eastern culture (which she sees as representing Islam). I know part of the problem is that she wants to be a hip, fashionable college student, who's free to make out with her boyfriend, and have no one to answer to. So I think I need to somehow show her that you can live a normal life, and have fun, yet still do/believe all the fun Muslim-y stuff (lol). I have to show her that it won't totally ruin her life to give up a few things that are against Islam, in time, and come back to it.
So yeah, advice would be much appreciated. and if you can't think of anything (or even if you can), I would ask that you pray that this girl can be guided back to Islam.
Wasalaam
PS - Sorry, I think I posted this in the wrong section.