Salam alaikum,
my mum told me last year I could do it all this year but now she's saying im too young, i get too tired, there is no sin upon me, etc.
I cried so much when my mum forced me to eat yesterday.. I had to break my fast so I have to fast 30 days extra because of that..... So next year I have to fast like 90 days so that I don't have to earn the days in jahannum. im really sad..
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Asalaamu Alaikum and jazakallahu khayr for sharing your issues with us. My sister it is clear your parents do have concern for you as their daughter but they must realise that once a person has reached puberty then fasting, praying etc becomes obligatory upon them. So if you have reached puberty then fasting is obligatory upon you. But if you have not then it is not obligatory.
The Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) said:
“The Pen has been lifted from three: from the insane person who has no control over his reason until he recovers, from the sleeper until he wakes up, and from the child until he reaches puberty.” (Abu Dawood: 4399)
You should give them evidence of the fact that fasting is obligatory upon a person who has reached puberty although i think it would be better if you got a respected member of your family who has Islamic knowledge to inform them of this as it would have more weight coming from them rather than you as they will just think you are a child and you do not know.
Also you do not have to fast the extra 60 days kaffarah as you were forced to eat and drink to break your fast and did not eat voluntarily eat or drink to break your fast. All you have to do is make up for the days that you were forced to break your fast.
You must not shout or raise your voice at your parents for they still deserve the highest honour and you will be rewarded abundantely for showing them utmost respect regardless of how they treat you.
Make sincere dua to Allah as much as you can crying to him asking for help and assistance from him to make your parents aware that fasting is an obligation to you so that they don't stop you from fastig but actually encourage you from doing so.
May Allah enable your parents to allow you to fast and may he reward you for your patience and intentions and give you the best of this world and the hereafter. Ameen