ShahnazZ
Striving2BeAStranger
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i dont know why all sisters here are opposed to the concept of taking care of mother and father in law? . in my culture it is necessary , like i love my mother (my father is no more) , so if my wife wants to be close with me or wants me to admire her then she should love and care for my mother. if she doesn't love and care for those whom i love and care ( obviously mahram here ) then how can you people except to have a long lasting relationship and love among the spouses? . this seems totally unacceptable in my culture. i am not saying that it is obligatory for her to take care of her mother and father in law but it is a main source for her to get close to her husband if her husband gives preference to this act of hers .i think this is because of different cultural backgrounds, in west i think it is not accepted or obligatory but in our societies in indopak this is a MUST. about women doing job , i have no objection but i think everyone prefers the wife to be at home and not doing job. job out of necessity is another thing and when a woman does job, she should be following the Islamic values then there is no harm
@sister shahnaz . dont get me wrong sister, this is what i saw here , may be my perception is wrong and u might be correct as i have not lived my whole life in west, it is only 1.5 years lol. i respect your views.
Akhi, my parents were born and raised in Pakistan so I know the culture well. And I can also tell you (with enough experience) that there are some aspects of it that are COMPLETELY INCOMPATIBLE with Islam. Now you seem to hold culture in high regard. In that case, you should exercise extreme caution in making sure that some of the practices do not cause you to transgress the limits of Islam.
You state that your wife must accept what the norms of Pakistani culture are. Would you like for her to be a practicing Muslim as well? I'm sure you would. In that case, which do you prefer she give priority to: culture or religion? If it's the latter, then she is well within her rights to refuse to abide by the rules set by the former. If it's the former, then how can you expect her to teach your children about the true Islam?
Akhi, remember that Islam came to abolish what was before it. This was whatever transgressed the limits set by Allah Subhanu wa Ta'ala. Islam has given us all the rights, rules, and regulations that will make our lives complete and lead us to true happiness. If we continue to adhere to what came before Islam, how are we any better than those who lived in the days of jahilliyah?