Amina 1
Junior Member
:salam2:
I just wanted to post some of the personal problems I have had due to the culture I was raised in.
I have a hard time not making eye contact my whole life I was taught that it was rude not to make eye contact especially when talking to someone.
Shaking hands I was also taught to shake someones hand when you meet them.
Then there is the no talking to men thing I have diffucluty because growing up I always had boys as friends I used to play football ,climb trees , wrestle and play in the creek. I was not very lady like at all.
If I am out with my husband and a women I know comes to talk to me I was taught it was very rude to not introduce her.
I was also taught that If my husband meets one of his friends it is rude if he does not introduce me.
If I ignore his friend and don't even look at him or at least say something I am considered very rude.
I don't believe in these rules anymore but It is hard to control my actions sometimes because these reactions come to me naturally.
But I am trying my best to change them.
Well I guess I am writing this because I feel guilty, I have been going to the halal market to buy my food and there is a brother who works in the meat department nice beard ,handsome.
Anyway I have to talk to him to order my meat or if I have a question.
I also crack jokes alot, (I used to be a clown for two years yes I was a clown my name was twinkles)
I never went out of my way to talk to him, but all of a sudden he would come to the register every time I went to check out. About the third time this happened I all of a sudden started liking him very much (Satan is very evil) So now I send my husband to pick up the food.
I don't know if this guy actually started liking me or not but I sure started liking him. It was wrong for me to make direct eye contact when talking I am sorry I hope Allah can forgive me.:shymuslima1::tti_sister:
I just wanted to post some of the personal problems I have had due to the culture I was raised in.
I have a hard time not making eye contact my whole life I was taught that it was rude not to make eye contact especially when talking to someone.
Shaking hands I was also taught to shake someones hand when you meet them.
Then there is the no talking to men thing I have diffucluty because growing up I always had boys as friends I used to play football ,climb trees , wrestle and play in the creek. I was not very lady like at all.
If I am out with my husband and a women I know comes to talk to me I was taught it was very rude to not introduce her.
I was also taught that If my husband meets one of his friends it is rude if he does not introduce me.
If I ignore his friend and don't even look at him or at least say something I am considered very rude.
I don't believe in these rules anymore but It is hard to control my actions sometimes because these reactions come to me naturally.
But I am trying my best to change them.
Well I guess I am writing this because I feel guilty, I have been going to the halal market to buy my food and there is a brother who works in the meat department nice beard ,handsome.
Anyway I have to talk to him to order my meat or if I have a question.
I also crack jokes alot, (I used to be a clown for two years yes I was a clown my name was twinkles)
I never went out of my way to talk to him, but all of a sudden he would come to the register every time I went to check out. About the third time this happened I all of a sudden started liking him very much (Satan is very evil) So now I send my husband to pick up the food.
I don't know if this guy actually started liking me or not but I sure started liking him. It was wrong for me to make direct eye contact when talking I am sorry I hope Allah can forgive me.:shymuslima1::tti_sister:
