Sister Shaheedah,
We get upset at times but alhamdulillaah I'm not offended and of course I forgive you.
Shaykh Bakr Abu Zayd, said in a book on knowledge and etiquettes, to make sure you understand the speech of someone fully, before replying to them. Wallaahi I only read this i belive 2 fridays ago, so I'm just trying to encourage the same advice to everyone so that we as Muslims can attain success. I can see why you understand it to be selfish and a not so good excuse to justify polygamy, however the scholars are the inheritors of the Prophets, and their speech contains much wisdom in most cases, which is why I relayed their speech.
It doesn't mean everyone carries out that wisdom correctly, or that everyone understands. But like I said I'm just relaying what the scholars have said. But seriously, I only mentioned what I did that so people can refer back to his book lol. Why becuase sometimes one book on a subject isn't sufficient, we agree right?
Anyway, I don't think I have much to say, Diane I'm sorry but I can't imagine it right now. Likewise there is nothing wrong with desire but its not nice when your mum says all men are blah blah, cos I did such-and-such action which she didn't agree with (but wasn't haraam), when Im like her favourite child lol. If I have offended anyone, then I ask you all to forgive me. And I will close to remind eachother to be nice and discuss objectively. My purpose was to convey, and inshaa' Allaah I have conveyed what I was suppose to.
Wa`alaykum us-salaam warahmatullaah.
We get upset at times but alhamdulillaah I'm not offended and of course I forgive you.
Shaykh Bakr Abu Zayd, said in a book on knowledge and etiquettes, to make sure you understand the speech of someone fully, before replying to them. Wallaahi I only read this i belive 2 fridays ago, so I'm just trying to encourage the same advice to everyone so that we as Muslims can attain success. I can see why you understand it to be selfish and a not so good excuse to justify polygamy, however the scholars are the inheritors of the Prophets, and their speech contains much wisdom in most cases, which is why I relayed their speech.
It doesn't mean everyone carries out that wisdom correctly, or that everyone understands. But like I said I'm just relaying what the scholars have said. But seriously, I only mentioned what I did that so people can refer back to his book lol. Why becuase sometimes one book on a subject isn't sufficient, we agree right?
Anyway, I don't think I have much to say, Diane I'm sorry but I can't imagine it right now. Likewise there is nothing wrong with desire but its not nice when your mum says all men are blah blah, cos I did such-and-such action which she didn't agree with (but wasn't haraam), when Im like her favourite child lol. If I have offended anyone, then I ask you all to forgive me. And I will close to remind eachother to be nice and discuss objectively. My purpose was to convey, and inshaa' Allaah I have conveyed what I was suppose to.
Wa`alaykum us-salaam warahmatullaah.