Ashima33
Junior Member
Salaam Alaikum,
I'm not trying to exclude anyone, but I'm really only interested in responses from converts because I really just need to hear advice from people who know about this from experience. This is a topic that is extremely ssensitive to me and I just need to know how converts have dealt with it in the past.
In my new muslim class yesterday we had our discussion on the hereafter... I was doing okay until he started talking about what happens to our bodies in the grave vs. what happens to non-muslims bodies. I really don't want to talk about what was said... but I just want to know how people have dealt with this in relation to their families.
How do you deal with your feelings of family alive and deceased being non-muslim and thinking about the hereafter. We couldn't even get through the rest of the discussion because I was so upset just thinking about my family. To people who were born muslim they don't have to worry about it in the way converts do, because it is said that all muslims will eventually go to heaven after being cleansed in the hellfire...
I really don't think I'm ready to learn all about the hereafter right now. I thought I was... but I don't think I can take it all right now. I can handle thinking about what will possibly happen to me, but it's my family that I can't bear the thought of. Even if I just read about paradise I can't handle it because all I think about is the fact that my family may not be there with me. And I'm going to be honest... and I hate that it does this... but learning about the hereafter actually makes me have doubts. I know that for some people it may confirm things for them... but for me it creates doubt. I can't think about these things without feeling nauseous and tearing up... So I really need some help from some fellow converts... and I am not meaning to exclude born muslims... but right now I just don't think I can be fully open to their response. Please forgive me if this seems rude... I really hope to change this.
Thank you.
I'm not trying to exclude anyone, but I'm really only interested in responses from converts because I really just need to hear advice from people who know about this from experience. This is a topic that is extremely ssensitive to me and I just need to know how converts have dealt with it in the past.
In my new muslim class yesterday we had our discussion on the hereafter... I was doing okay until he started talking about what happens to our bodies in the grave vs. what happens to non-muslims bodies. I really don't want to talk about what was said... but I just want to know how people have dealt with this in relation to their families.
How do you deal with your feelings of family alive and deceased being non-muslim and thinking about the hereafter. We couldn't even get through the rest of the discussion because I was so upset just thinking about my family. To people who were born muslim they don't have to worry about it in the way converts do, because it is said that all muslims will eventually go to heaven after being cleansed in the hellfire...
I really don't think I'm ready to learn all about the hereafter right now. I thought I was... but I don't think I can take it all right now. I can handle thinking about what will possibly happen to me, but it's my family that I can't bear the thought of. Even if I just read about paradise I can't handle it because all I think about is the fact that my family may not be there with me. And I'm going to be honest... and I hate that it does this... but learning about the hereafter actually makes me have doubts. I know that for some people it may confirm things for them... but for me it creates doubt. I can't think about these things without feeling nauseous and tearing up... So I really need some help from some fellow converts... and I am not meaning to exclude born muslims... but right now I just don't think I can be fully open to their response. Please forgive me if this seems rude... I really hope to change this.
Thank you.