About Women....

[haris123p]

:salam2:

i just wana asking that why today's women not wearing hijaab, why they don't cover their head, thr whole body through proper cloths..??? why they prefer a bad cloths and why they use so thin cloths..???

Today our sisters why don't use dupatas on their head even when they are at home..??? why they follow the european culture instead of our nice religion ISLAM.....????

thanx you brother....

 

[hayat84]

:salam2:
brother,I answer you from the point of view of a reverted person.I wasn't born in a muslim family,so when I reverted to Islam,I did everything step by step,because first of all I didn't know arabic language to study Quran,neither the meaning of those verses about hijab.I got married in 2006 but in 2008 I started to wear hijab because I was aware of my belief.when I saw those females muslims with no hijab I didn't feel identified with them,so I still wearr my hijab with proud and I also pose to myself the same quastion of you.many women are getting influenced from mass media and they are tempted to imitate the behaviour of non muslim women.at these times it seems that the real faith for Allah is being exchanged for the pleasures of terrestrial life.the devotion towards Allah is being forgotten,while it is prefered to follow the "easier" way.no matter if a woman doesn't wear hijab at home,if there is only her husband or her children.out of the walls of home there is a world of "wolves" ready to catch as more victims as possible,and unfortunately many of them are those females muslims who prefere not to wear hijab because they "want"to be ready for that step.:shymuslima1:

 

[kashif_nazeer]

Brother you have raised a very good question.
Hijab is meant both for men and women though.It's because of decrease in haya or shame.It is also because of the times we live in ,our interaction with western society and adoption of their ways.Although as muslims,we should not ape the ways of kuffar,but as sister mentioned earlier,influence that the mass media has on our mind is also contributing towards it.We are constantly bombarded with images,videos etc in the name of freedom of expression etc.I was hearing a lecture by Dr Bilal Philips in which he mentioned that in Darwinian principle shyness is considered a disease so people are encouraged to get rid of shyness.It totally contradict the pricnipal of Islam.What I mean is there is excess of exposure to western ideas and philosophies in relation to Islam and it's knowledge.Majority of people in our part of the world i.e south asia consider those who 'practice' Islam as orthodox and backward.Now they have a new name called 'extremist'.My cousin who wears a niqab mashaAllah was denied doctorate in a reputed so called muslim university in India and was always treated badly just because she wore niqab.The guide as herself a muslim,who considered such people 'extremist'.Another one of my acquaintance who is mashaallah a good practicing muslim was troubled by his teacher who is also a muslim,just because he had a beard and thus was an extremist by 'default' thus he left the doctorate course in between.The point is such attitude within our own muslim society acts as a deterrent for those who really want to practice Islam.Inspite of that mashaAllah there are good practicing youths who do practice Islam well and wear hijab and a beard in case of men.If we have to rise above these fears then we have to fear Allah alone and no one else.This is deciding factor.
Sorry about the rant.

 

[JenGiove]

My cousin who wears a niqab mashaAllah was denied doctorate in a reputed so called muslim university in India and was always treated badly just because she wore niqab.The guide as herself a muslim,who considered such people 'extremist'.Another one of my acquaintance who is mashaallah a good practicing muslim was troubled by his teacher who is also a muslim,just because he had a beard and thus was an extremist by 'default' thus he left the doctorate course in between.

:salam2:

That's awful! To be denied a Doctorate just because she wore a Niqab?!?!?! I find Niqabi women to be incredably beautiful and I love the oppertunity to see those women <we don't have alot here in my community but I've seen them in DC>.

I don't understand people's thinking. Just because a person is a Muslim does NOT mean they are "extremist" and CERTAINLY not a terrorist...preposterous! Your acquaintance is the one who lost out.

 

[Idris16]

Do the majority of women who wear hijâb even pray Salât!?

 

[ShahnazZ]

Do the majority of women who wear hijâb even pray Salât!?

I beg your pardon? What's THAT supposed to mean?

 

[Aapa]

Assalaam walaikum,

As we approach Ramadan we need to time to reflect. We need to demonstrate that we indeed have kind hearts.

We do not know all women. We can not answer for all women. We can not make speculation. We are told not to speculate.

Make dua that more Muslims, women AND men adhere to Islam. Do your part with salat, zakat, and good deeds.

And quit blaming the West. It has nothing to do with location. We have to examine the contents of our hearts.

 

[Abu Talib]

Do the majority of women who wear hijâb even pray Salât!?

Assalamu`alaykum

Akhee you know what your asking? Thats defamatory

 

[ShahnazZ]

I'm still waiting for clarification on that statement.

 

[kashif_nazeer]

:salam2:
I agree sister Aapa,we have to improve ourselves first.It's not the location,it's the philosophy and the ideology followed,but yeah we are the one to be blamed for our own actions and not give in to our lusts.

Akhi Idris,Most of the sisters I know who wear hijab perform salat ( all of them)even a few who dont,perform salat.Then again hijab is both for men and women.

 

[Aroosak]

:salam2:

Today our sisters why don't use dupatas on their head even when they are at home..??? why they follow the european culture instead of our nice religion ISLAM.....????

thanx you brother....

Isn't the dupatta a ino-pakistani "cultural" tradition ...
Just trying to make things clear between differences in Religion and culture.

Hijab is a command from Allah t'ala that some sisters might neglect. But if we all look to ourselves I am sure we all have some command we are not following or we need to improve. Let's pray and educate each other so we can follow all of Allah's commands the right way inshAllah!

 

[Asja]

Do the majority of women who wear hijâb even pray Salât!?

Assalamu allaicum wa raahmatullah wa baarakatuhu

Dear brother, why do you use those words for your Muslim sisters, Astagfirullah,and can you please explain us the meaning of your words?

Wallahi I am hurted a loot by your words because you are a Muslim, as I often hear simular words from non Muslims for me or other Muslim sisters who are saying that we wear hijab only to show that we are Muslim girls, but that in reality we do worst and haram things Astagfirullah.

May Allah guide us all to the right path,and guide all Muslims sisters to wear hijaab. Allahume Ameen.

 

[Tabassum07]

Do the majority of women who wear hijâb even pray Salât!?

:salam2:

You know, this is actually an idea I've heard many times over from South Asians. Either it's an excuse, or people have come across such cases of hijabis, but there's a very incorrect idea floating around here that people who wear hijab, abaya and niqab are "very bad muslims. That they don't actually practice at all, don't pray, and just want to show-off that they're oh so religious." My mother has an acquaintance (who's muslim) who she was once talking to on the phone. This was around the time I had started wearing hijab, so my mother had mentioned this to her. And the Auntie said: "what's wrong with her? She's being brainwashed. I see so many muslims nowadays who've started wearing these hijabs, and they're giving all muslims a very bad name. Somebody really needs to walk up to these extremist people and slap them really hard to knock some sense into them."

Astaghfirullah.

Everywhere in the world, I've seen non-muslims are actually more tolerant of the hijab, and the most opposition I've ever seen or received is from fellow muslims.

Back to the topic, so there's this notion in many non-hijabi muslim women, that to wear hijab is to "show-off" so they think they're much better keeping their religion private. A concept of flawed thinking, if you ask me.

 

[hayat84]

Do the majority of women who wear hijâb even pray Salât!?

:salam2:
brother,it's a hurting question...may Allah forgive me for my misguidance,but you touched my weak point.I've sinned in the past when I was ill,I was pride and sometimes denied what I accepted,so,dear brother I must be honest,there was a time in which I wore hijab,but didn't pray.now it's different,I'm healthy and "fanatic".please,tti members,don't be angry with me,finally I could confess my sin.maybe you judge me hipocryte,but there was a periode in which my soul wasn't in peace because of bad things between my real faith and my troubled mind.:shymuslima1:

 

[Just a Guy]

:salam2:

This reminds me of something I heard from brother Neuman Ali Khan not long ago. He was talking about this very thing, about how the young brothers with beards and the young sisters with hijab are considered "extremists" even within their own Muslim families. Not being from a Muslim family, I really didn't relate to what he was saying, but now I am seeing it now in this very thread, and I understand now what he was talking about.

He has said something else too which relates to this topic. Apparently a lot of young Muslim sisters suffer from a crisis of confidence, which is why they try to imitate the Western girls with their revealing clothes and not wearing hijab. They see these girls get attention from guys and naturally they want that, so they imitate it.

That tells me that we as Muslim men are failing in our jobs to educate our younger sisters. I won't pretend to know the answer. I'm not a father and I don't know much about Islam yet. I'm just repeating what I heard a more educated brother saying about the topic.

 

[ShahnazZ]

Isn't the dupatta a ino-pakistani "cultural" tradition ...
Just trying to make things clear between differences in Religion and culture.

Yup, it's a cultural tradition, not a religious one.

Brother Haris, dupatta does not equal hijab. It's origins are cultural, mainly from Southeast Asia. Hijab is something else entirely. Plus, hijab is observed by Muslim women from all over the world, while dupatta is mainly observed by desis. Therefore, it isn't accurate to use the term "dupatta" when referring to hijab.

Sister Tabassum, you're so right. There are so many Muslims from the Suncontinent that are threatened by the idea of hijab. I personally feel it's because it further points out their own flaws when they refuse to wear it themselves. When people think of Muslim sisters, they usually think of hijabis and this aggravates them as they think it makes them less Muslim. I say these are their demons, not ours, and it isn't our problem what they think.

In the end, I truly believe it stems down to jealousy. Plain and simple.

 

[Aapa]

Salaam,

Sisters we are almost there. Shytan is going to be where he belongs.

Let us uphold each other, please. For the Love and Fear of Allah. Please.

 

[Precious Star]

I know many muslim women who do not wear a headscarf yet read salaat.
In fact, I am one of those women. I practice hijaab but not in the form of a scarf on my head. I also read salaat, give zakaat, obey my parents, fast, etc.

And if in the future I decide to cover my head, it certainly will not be in the form of a dupatta.

 

[ShyHijabi]

I never really understood the point of dupattas, especially in one's own home. Dupattas don't cover appropriately and what's the point of covering your head in your own home?

 

[Aapa]

Assalaam walaikum,

Sister, in your home..they can be helpful. I keep one around in case someone knocks on the door and I am running around the house without hijab.

Sometimes in moments of calling to Allah or remembering Allah it does not hurt to cover your head.

I cover my head when I clean.

Also they increase a sense of modesty. A woman with an ample bosom does not want to exhibit it in front of the opposite sex.. a duputta hides things in your home.

A duputta can be used with an under-scarf for hijab.

Come on now sisters...lets chill.