57 ways of winning your husband’s love

ummu thany

sister in islam
This list, mostly contributed by Muslim women at the MuslimMatters.org blog, is all about winning your husband’s love.


1. Behave like a female, i.e. with all the tenderness of a female.
2. Dress pleasantly and attractively. If you are a home-maker, don’t stay in your sleeping suit all day.
3. Smell good.
4. Don’t lay out all your problems on your husband as soon as he walks in. Give him a little mental break.
5. Don’t keep asking him ‘what are you thinking?’ because
unlike women, men’s thoughts are as random as the results
of a google search. Women on the other hand have thoughts
as organized as a labeled file-cabinet!
6. Stop nagging non-stop before Allah gives you something
really to complain about.
7. Absolutely no talking about your spousal problems to anyone
you meet under the pretense of seeking help, even if you are
the victim. If you think you want to solve legitimate marital
issues then go seek counseling with the right person.
8. Be kind to your mother-in-law the same way you would like
your husband to be kind to your own mother.
9. Learn all the rights and obligations of each other in Islam.
10. Race to the door when he comes home, as if you were
waiting for him. Smile and hug.
11. Keep your house clean, at least to the level that he wants it.
12. Compliment him on the things you know he’s not so
confident about (looks, intelligence etc). This will build his
self-esteem.
13. Tell him he’s the best husband.
14. Call his family often.
15. Give him a simple task to do at home and then thank him
when he does it. This will encourage him to do more.
16. When he’s talking about something boring, listen and nod
your head. Even ask questions to make it seem like you’re
interested.
17. Encourage him to do good deeds.
18. If he’s in a bad mood, give him some space. He’ll get over it,
Insha Allah.
19. Thank him sincerely for providing you with food and shelter.
It’s a big deal.
20. If he’s angry with you and starts yelling, let him yell it out
while you’re quiet. You will see your fight will end a lot
faster. Then when he’s calm, you can tell him your side of
the story and how you want him to change something.
21. When you’re mad at him, don’t say ‘you make me furious,’
rather say, ‘this action makes me upset.’ Direct your anger to
the action and circumstance rather than at him.
22. Remember that your husband has feelings, so take them into
consideration.
23. Let him chill out with his friends without guilt, especially if
they’re good guys. Encourage him to go out, so he doesn’t
feel cooped up at home.
24. If your husband is annoyed over a little thing you do (and
you can control it), then stop doing it.
25. Learn how to tell him what you expect without him having
to guess all the time. Learn to communicate your feelings.
26. Don’t get mad over small things. It’s not worth it.
27. Make jokes. If you’re not naturally funny, find some jokes on
the internet.
28. Tell him you’re the best wife and compliment yourself on
certain things you know you’re good at.
29. Learn to make his favorite dish.
30. Don’t ever, ever talk bad about him with friends or family
unnecessarily.
31. Use your time wisely and get things accomplished. If you’re
a housewife, take online classes and be active in your
community. This will not only make you happy but will
impress your husband too.
32. Do all of the above (i.e. trying to please your husband) for
the sake of Allah and you will see Allah’s blessings in every
thing you do.
33. Spouses are garments for each other; hide your husband’s
faults and help him get over them wisely.
34. Tell your husband you love him, many many times.
35. Have a race with your husband and let him win, even if you
are much fitter than him.
36. Be fit and take care of your health; you will remain a strong
mother, wife, cook and housekeeper.
37. Cultivate good manners. Do not be too loud, whether while
laughing, talking or even walking.
38. Do not leave the house without his permission and certainly
not without his knowledge.
39. Make sure all his clothes are clean and pressed so they
always look fresh and crisp.
40. Ask Allah to strengthen and preserve the bonds of
compassion and love between the two of you, every day in
every prayer. Truly Satan’s most treasured act is to create
rifts between couples to the point of divorce. Seek Allah’s
refuge from Satan.
41. They say the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach,
and that’s really true.
42. Make sure you always have something for dinner.
43. Brush your hair everyday.
44. Don’t forget to do the laundry.
45. Surprise him with gifts. Even necessities can be gifts, like a
pair of new shoes.
46. Listen to him when he’s talking. Don’t interject him and talk
about your own issues.
47. Try (hard as it might be) to take interest in his hobbies
(bowling?). Try not to go shopping too much and spend all
his money.
48. Look attractive and it’s fine, in fact good, to be seductive
towards him.
49. Learn tricks and techniques to please your husband in
intimacy.
50. Prepare for special evenings with him with special dinner
and exclusive time (no children permitted).
51. Take care of your skin, especially the face, which is the
center of attraction.
52. If you are not satisfied intimately, talk to him and help him.
Don’t wait till matters become worse.
53. Never discuss important or controversial matters with him
when he is tired or sleepy. Find the right time for the right
discussion.
54. Learn to compromise.
55. Continue to do things for your husband and don’t take him
for granted.
56. Respect his rights (he’s your road to paradise).
57. Make tea for him or whatever hot drink he likes, it will
soothe his rough edges. – SG
 

AdamMuslim

Junior Member
Salam Sister,
MashAllah !!! your husband must be a very blessed man to have you as a wife. My Allah grant you Jannah for this nice post.

Wassalam.
 

allah is with me

Rabana Wa laqal Hamd
oh sister , so kind and s nice of you , i m so happy , that you gave us all those things wich a girl needs for her husband(jasakallah).. it is very nice for us all, so that we can learn our up coming future, (inshallah).. i am really too happy to read this, and really, husband is the road to paradise...:)..
jasakallah khair
 

Mabsoot

Amir
Staff member
assalamu alaykum

shame its unrealistic to expect anything from anyone these days

nobody really cares about Islaam as it should be.

bleb bleh
 

mufakkir

Junior Member
Salaam Alaikum,

JazakiAllahu Khair. Very beneficial info. However, perhaps the sisters may be feeling unduly left out, so we should have a list of how to win your wife's love, inshaAllah.
I would offer my thoughts, but unfortunately i am not yet married.:)

was salaam
 

Yousef83

Junior Member
where is that woman does these 57 ways at same time,thats why i keep single yet,its just a personal reaction,i really would get marry with who does 20 of them :)
 

stiks

Amatur-Rahman
Asalaamualaykum,

Makes me want no to get married! how in the world are you to remember all this?! its realy daunting! it goes to show the HUGE responsibility that is marriage, Subhanallah!
 

Ashima33

Junior Member
assalamu alaykum

shame its unrealistic to expect anything from anyone these days

nobody really cares about Islaam as it should be.

bleb bleh

Why so pessimistic?

I don't think this is a fair comment. I get the feeling that there are a good deal of people right here who care about Islam.
 
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