Beating Wife

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    :SMILY288: You go sister, I wish the sisters that are been abuse would be like you, strong. I will never let any man hit, I will beat him up myself, or have my all six brothers beat the crap out of him. when you get old, you learn to appreciate your brothers, I know my brothers will beat any man that ever hits me. This one time, I was middle school that guy wouldn’t not leave me alone and I told my big brother, he almost kills that kid. That is really cool having brothers that you know have your back.
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    :salam2:

    There is some more talk on wife beating here:

    Justification of wife beating




    :salam2: Sister Sarah,

    You`re starting to get on my nerves! :lol:

    Just kidding sister! You are always welcome to ask any questions. You are not offending anyone.

    Again, I`m from Saudi. I have been marrid for 7-8 years now. My wife and I have had our quarrels (like any other husband and wife), but I never even raised a hand on her, and never will. I certainly know that my father has also never laid a hand on my mother. My wife tells me that her father also never laid a hand on my mother-in-law.

    I have heard of some women who got beat by their husbands (not relatives), but have also heard of some men who got beat by their wives (yes, in Saudi).

    I think Saudi is like any other place in the world. Unfortunately, wife beating is going on everywhere. If we want to say there is more of it going on here or there, we need evidence for that accusation. It could be true, and could also be false, but let`s not generalize. NOT ALL SAUDI MEN BEAT THEIR WIFE. NOT ALL SAUDIS ARE RACISTS. NOT ALL SAUDIS ARE SEXISTS. (something that has been brought up several times on the forum)

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    Thank you brother for your answer. But if I can't get on your nerves how else will I fill my time? :lol:

    Unfortunately the only exposure I've had to Saudis is through exposure on TV and such. And we know that is probbaly the worst place to look for "facts." I wish they did a National Geographic special or something on the culture.

    ~Sarah
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    :salam2:
    Quranic Perspective on
    Wife beating and Abuse


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    Are some girls/ women train in karate or any martial arts??:SMILY346:
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    Its a shame beat your wife...

    The Prophet(pbuh) never beaten his wives.:astag:
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    I am saudi too (woman) , I have been married for 28 years my husband and i quarrel sometimes but never thought of beating , all my relatives are saudis .....i never heared that any of them beat his wife.....or the wife beat her husband ......actually i read about many cases in the west where women have been beated by their partners or killed (sometimes) ....I am not saying that saudis are angels ......may be there are some kind of bad men who beat their wifes but most of them under the influence of drugs or alcohol (not practising muslems) .......I think that the media is trying to give bad impresssion that saudis are bad people (trying to attack Islam), so please brothers and sisters be carefull in accepting any thing that is promoted to distort our religion. I think after a long experience that Islam if practiced with sincerity can solve any problem in our life. Even this beating that was mentioned in the verse is mentioned for a wisdom that can heal the broken homes if the teachings of Allah swt was followed sincerily (with true intention to please Allah swt .)
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    Salaam,

    I work with victims of domestic abuse. I work see the effects of violence. It is cyclical. It is a sister of poverty. The women who had been sexually abused by families always end up with men who beat them. Usually, in my line of work physical abuse includes trips to the emergency room. I have worked with women who have become disabled, one woman was thrown out of a car on a mountain side. She rolled down the moutain.
    Many of the women are undereducated. They were runaways.
    The most frightening element for me is the lack of trust they have towards other women. It takes me months to build a trusting realtionship. They feel that other women will judge them.
    The beaten woman is beaten in a multitude of ways. She is humiliated. She can not turn to her parents. She will not turn to additional family members. She is alone. She wears shame as her garment. She often feels she is deserving of her circumstances. The police will answer the first two or three times...then they have other and real crime to fight. The women are so scared that social service organizations will take their children from them..as the documentation of domestic violence can work against them in court.
    The abused woman can come from the upper stratas of society and walk into a nightmare. She covers her bruises with make-up; her hairstyle.
    If she is a mother she will cover her marks from her children. She will not want them to suffer. She is alone.
    She can not go to a religious institution. Many organizations will not help but make her feel worse.
    And often, the physcial abuse is easy to handle. The pain disappears in a few days..the burises heal... she needs time to heal for the next go-round.
    It is the emotional abuse that is so difficult to deal with..but that is the subject of another topic.
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    jazak Allahg khairan,. i will add this to the misconception thread later inshallah (note to slef)
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    Some Saudis are among the nicest people in the world like Bro Happy2beA muslim.

    But what can brothers do if our wife start hitting us??
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    Alikomu salam ua rahmetullah Global peace, something for you in particular and for others in general. Alhamdulilah women see male Leadership as Love because Allah a'zawajal has created them that way. As for your karate kuffar style advice of taking classes don't serve them among us here. You are not dealing with disbeliving people ue nayadhu bilah. Those men who raise their hands upon thier wifes must not do so, may Allah guide them period. Second, let me tell you something that you maybe forgotten. Marriage is the exchange of female power for male power expressed as love. When a man fails to lead his family, and allows them to manipulate him, women (and children) feel unloved and consequently have less respect and love for him. Alhamdulilah in reality men and women were created by Allah a'zauajal to complement, love and need each other. So please don't come here with boxing karate type feminist/lesbian kufr style advise. Fear Allah for what ideas you spread and together with you the brothers who raise their hands on their wifes.
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    Are you saying we should only defend yourself against non-believers that is pathetic, defend yourself against anyone Muslims or not, take some defense class sisters, not let anyone beat you up. If the person is good Muslims they should not be beating their wives up. Tell them out cold like globalpeace says.

    Peace!
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    I agree with you sister. :hijabi: I was going to take some defense classes (just to get in shape and protect myself). insha allah i will do it soon.
    salam
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    lol: funny dude :D
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    should be stopped.
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    thanks for sharing
    jazak Allah khayran insha`Allah
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    i am also taking class like that it is suppose start on june 30. i am excite!
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    you shouldn't hit anyone never mind someone your soppsed to love......

    hitting the wife is not allowed in islam...

    alhamduliah

    thanks for sharing with us

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