I've been in love with a catholic boy for a little over a year now. We graduated together and now we're starting college. I'm turning 20 this year.
In islam, to prevent fornication shouldn't two people who want to get married, be married as soon as possible?
He wants to convert to marry me, but I've told him that he can't just convert for me and he has to believe in the muslim life style. He gets it. I've already spoken with him and showed him the beauty and higher understanding of our religion and he sees it. This is good.
This is just really hard because I'm so sure that this is who I want to marry, and at the speed my parents are grasping that fact I'm afraid that I would have committed fornication already just by being with him or spending time with him. They already have a hunch, but I feel like I should actually sit down and talk to both of them about it. I'm just nervous about my father because there was a proposed marriage to me in the past from a boy born into Islam but I said no. I'm nervous because my father sees that boy as more favorable... I don't want to hear, "You're too young, there is plenty of time, or what is the rush?" I am ready for marriage.
I want to please Allah, and I want to stay chaste and I want my husband to be a muslim. My parents have told me that I can get engaged after high school to anyone I want, but I can't get married until I finish some sort of education. I know they're just trying to protect me from financial crunches and they don't want me to regret a decision made in haste.
I'm just thinking that using this time would be good for him to learn more and be prepared to convert and do all that a good muslim man does. I know that he's with me on this. And he has said to me that his religion doesn't make sense to him and the more that I talk to him about Islam the more he agrees.
I don't want anymore guilt above my head from being with him as two namahram. This is my main cause.
I feel guilt for being in love. I love him.
What do I do?
In islam, to prevent fornication shouldn't two people who want to get married, be married as soon as possible?
He wants to convert to marry me, but I've told him that he can't just convert for me and he has to believe in the muslim life style. He gets it. I've already spoken with him and showed him the beauty and higher understanding of our religion and he sees it. This is good.
This is just really hard because I'm so sure that this is who I want to marry, and at the speed my parents are grasping that fact I'm afraid that I would have committed fornication already just by being with him or spending time with him. They already have a hunch, but I feel like I should actually sit down and talk to both of them about it. I'm just nervous about my father because there was a proposed marriage to me in the past from a boy born into Islam but I said no. I'm nervous because my father sees that boy as more favorable... I don't want to hear, "You're too young, there is plenty of time, or what is the rush?" I am ready for marriage.
I want to please Allah, and I want to stay chaste and I want my husband to be a muslim. My parents have told me that I can get engaged after high school to anyone I want, but I can't get married until I finish some sort of education. I know they're just trying to protect me from financial crunches and they don't want me to regret a decision made in haste.
I'm just thinking that using this time would be good for him to learn more and be prepared to convert and do all that a good muslim man does. I know that he's with me on this. And he has said to me that his religion doesn't make sense to him and the more that I talk to him about Islam the more he agrees.
I don't want anymore guilt above my head from being with him as two namahram. This is my main cause.
I feel guilt for being in love. I love him.
What do I do?