sweetshaama
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Assalaamu Alaikum, Dear Brothers and Sisters,
This is my very first post on this website. I am a girl who has reached the age of marriage and wanting a man who is pious and follows the Quran and Sunnah. Looks aren't my priority, but he must be educated and capable enough to bear the responsibilities of a family. My parents searched a partner for me and our families met for the first time. I was given the opportunity to speak to the groom at the presence of a maharram. After the meeting the guy immediately communicated to his family that he likes me and would be willing to go into marriage. His family was happy and so were my parents. The problem is I am not able to make a decision. The guy was good as a person, he sounded religious and comes from a very religious family background, has a stable job, sounded responsible and good looking too, but strangely I did not develop any liking towards him. I had already seen his picture and I was happy to meet him, but when I met him I did not feel any interest towards him even to have a conversation with him. It was like I spoke to him because I had to at that point of time. We spoke for a while but I was not keen on asking any questions. This was not my first experience meeting a guy for marriage, I have been through this before and there used to be moments when I saw the guy I felt this positive appeal and a liking towards the person, whereby I felt comfortable in carrying out a conversation with him. But those proposals never came through because may be Allah did not have any of them in store for me. But now when something has come through I am not happy about it. Despite of him saying yes I am not excited about it or about getting married to him. Or not even looking forward to get to know him better. I have prayed Salah Istkara, but my state of mind has not changed. My parents are kind persuading me to say yes but I am CONFUSED. That's when I thought I should come here and speak my worry out. I would appreciate your honest responses.
Jazakallah Khair
This is my very first post on this website. I am a girl who has reached the age of marriage and wanting a man who is pious and follows the Quran and Sunnah. Looks aren't my priority, but he must be educated and capable enough to bear the responsibilities of a family. My parents searched a partner for me and our families met for the first time. I was given the opportunity to speak to the groom at the presence of a maharram. After the meeting the guy immediately communicated to his family that he likes me and would be willing to go into marriage. His family was happy and so were my parents. The problem is I am not able to make a decision. The guy was good as a person, he sounded religious and comes from a very religious family background, has a stable job, sounded responsible and good looking too, but strangely I did not develop any liking towards him. I had already seen his picture and I was happy to meet him, but when I met him I did not feel any interest towards him even to have a conversation with him. It was like I spoke to him because I had to at that point of time. We spoke for a while but I was not keen on asking any questions. This was not my first experience meeting a guy for marriage, I have been through this before and there used to be moments when I saw the guy I felt this positive appeal and a liking towards the person, whereby I felt comfortable in carrying out a conversation with him. But those proposals never came through because may be Allah did not have any of them in store for me. But now when something has come through I am not happy about it. Despite of him saying yes I am not excited about it or about getting married to him. Or not even looking forward to get to know him better. I have prayed Salah Istkara, but my state of mind has not changed. My parents are kind persuading me to say yes but I am CONFUSED. That's when I thought I should come here and speak my worry out. I would appreciate your honest responses.
Jazakallah Khair