Do not talk to oposite gender on tti-all Must read-

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BrotherKhalid

Junior Member
I'm glad I came upon this thread because it reminded me of a question I have.

Is there any way I can tell whether a contributor is a brother or sister? Since I am new here I have not yet learned the method to knowing this.

That being said, a lot of good points made here, masha Allah. To anyone who still do not understand remember that God does not place upon us any measure, limit or prescription except that it is good for us. We may not always understand why this is halal or that is haram but rest assured that God is the knower of all things (He knows us better than we do) so it will only benefit us to do our best to keep halal.

Wa salam.
 

revert2007

Love Fishing
hi, um i found this note :Assalamu alaykum, Brothers and Sisters, Please do not post Visitor Messages or Private Messages to any person from the Opposite Sex. -- Make your friendships with your own Gender! This website is for Learning Islam. Please Fear Allah. -
Jazak Allahu khayr ! -- And sisters please be careful! Learn Islam from the good sisters only.-- Make sure you dont have men writing on your profiles or sending PMs.

I've logged on after a loooong time and does that mean i should delete any pm's i got from a bro. I've never talked to a male member thru pm but i keep getting msgs (no offense) about them helping me. So i shouldnt reply to them and just delete them? confused.

P.S The pm's from bros weren't offensive just asking me if i needed help:)


walikumsalam.....


welcome back sister.well there are many good sisters on the site.you do not need any help from any brothers.as long as there are sisters offering you help,u do not need any help from any brothers.from now onwards,just ignore any brothers who pm you.do not reply them.we can't stop them from writing to you but you can stop yourself from writing to them.
 

AmeliaJohnson

Convert sister....
welcome back sister.well there are many good sisters on the site.you do not need any help from any brothers.as long as there are sisters offering you help,u do not need any help from any brothers.from now onwards,just ignore any brothers who pm you.do not reply them.we can't stop them from writing to you but you can stop yourself from writing to them.

Thanks for the advise sis:) U always give good ones....:ma: Yeah i wont reply. Trying to keep my slate clean from any sins alhamdulilah :)
 

revert2007

Love Fishing
I'm glad I came upon this thread because it reminded me of a question I have.

Is there any way I can tell whether a contributor is a brother or sister? Since I am new here I have not yet learned the method to knowing this.

That being said, a lot of good points made here, masha Allah. To anyone who still do not understand remember that God does not place upon us any measure, limit or prescription except that it is good for us. We may not always understand why this is halal or that is haram but rest assured that God is the knower of all things (He knows us better than we do) so it will only benefit us to do our best to keep halal.

Wa salam.


yes there is possiblity becaise i was in a notehr islamic forum and they used the same software/tool to do the forum and they tell the gender according to the universal gender code.u know what i mean.so it is possible and inshaAllah the moderators will look into this matter soon....once we know the person is male or female,then we should stop pm or even look into their(opposite gender) profile.

Curiousity Kills the Cat

I hope all tti members know what i mean
 

Kakorot

Junior Member
:wasalam:

I asked sheikh salim aal 'amry if it is permissable to give my msn to non-mahram and he said 'Do not do something which will displease your Lord'. He also spoke about the shaytaan and how he deviates ppl and tricks them etc. So this was enough for me :) Alhamdulillaah I am happy that this step was taken and now there will be lesser fitan and ppl can concentrate as to why they are here in the first place, which is to learn about Islam :)

Alhamdulillaah! :D
 

abubaseer

tanzil.info
Staff member
What if were outside and we see someone we like who isn't covered up?

We Lower our gaze as Quran tells us...


Tell the believing men to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts, etc.). That is purer for them. Verily, Allâh is All-Aware of what they do.
The Noble Qur'an - An-Nur 24:30

The Prophet peace and blessings of Allah be upon him said, "Beware! Avoid sitting on the roads." They (the people) said, "O Allah's Apostle! We can't help sitting (on the roads) as these are (our places) where we have talks." The Prophet peace and blessings of Allah be upon him said, "If you refuse but to sit, then pay the road its right." They said, "What is the right of the road, O Allah's Apostle?" He said, "Lowering your gaze, refraining from harming others, returning greeting, and enjoining what is good, and forbidding what is evil."


Hadith - Sahih Muslim 5372, Narrated Jabir ibn Abdullah
I asked Allah's Messenger (peace be upon him) about the sudden glance (that is cast) on the face (of a non-Mahram). He commanded me that I should turn away my eyes.
 

abubaseer

tanzil.info
Staff member
Couldn't have said it better myself.

And I tried (I asked the same question one page back).

:salam2:

1.Click on the username for example click on "abubaseer"

2. Then click on "View Public Profile", it will take to the public profile of the user.

3. On the Public profile page There is tab called "About Me"

It has the gendre info of the user as follows:

About abubaseer

GenderEdit Value
Male
Religion/BeliefEdit Value
Islam
BiographyEdit Value
N/A
LocationEdit Value
N/A
InterestsEdit Value
N/A
OccupationEdit Value
N/A


4. Add me to your friends lists if you are Male...just kidding :)
 

Muslimah16

ServantOfAllah*
:salam2:

Im SO happy to have come accross this thread ukhtii, may Allah reward you the best reward in the world and aakhira. :)

To check whether a member is a male or female, you need to be an active user. * I think you need like 30+ posts to become "orange" So get posting! :)* Then click on their user name and view profile. Hope this helps inshaAllah

Wassalaamu'alaykum
 

Fatima S.Ar

Happiness = Islam
Assalamu Alaikom

It's a good step but please don't be very strict , for e.g. I always recieve msgs asking me to do translation and such as things , I don't thing it's a bad thing ? as well as many members when they ask me to discuss about Islam via MSN I say no , PMs are enough , but now no PMs ?? :(

Islam is not a strict religion .. However it's up to you :)
 

Kakorot

Junior Member
When I like a woman I need to make sure she likes me and my parents but from what I'm being told on here
That's not the impression I'm getting. It seems like a muslim sister is willing to marry anyone she is paired up with
And a lot of non-muslims think the girls get treated badly. That's what I'm told.

I don't find islam evil or I wouldn't be talking to you. I just find it very weird. Sorry I come from a western country :(

In Islam force marriage is not allowed but arrange marriage is. Now what is the difference? Well, force marriage is when for instance, the parents say to their daughter "We found this dude for u to marry, u will marry him and that's final". So the poor girl has no say. Whereas, arrange marriage is for instance, "We found this guy and we want you to marry him. You can get to know him a bit by asking questions whilst we (the parents) are present. And if u want to marry him then u can, and if not then it's completely up to u". That's the difference.
And in Islam force marriage is not allowed, actually if u study further u will come to know that force marriage is not even considered marriage in Islam :)
There is no place in the holy Qur'an where God says that parents are allowed to force their children to marry those ppl they choose. Nor is there any hadith (sayings of prophet Muhammad pbuh) that says that parents can force their children in marriage.
Yes, Muslims may practice force marriage, honour killings blah blah blah but that is culture and not Islam :) But of course when ppl who are not Muslim see this they get confused and blame Islam :)
So if my parents came to me and forced me to marry moi cousin brother I will definately refuse. I wouldn't mind if my parents do arrange marriage. If by the age of 25 I don't find anyone, then I'll put pressure on moi parents to find me someone and give them description of what type of person I want etc. So I don't mind arrange marriage :D

I hope that cleared things up a bit, if ur still not sure I can explain further I don't mind, it;s our duty to explain Islam. But I can't reply right away because I'm in college and should be doing work :D
 

revert2007

Love Fishing
:salam2:

1.Click on the username for example click on "abubaseer"

2. Then click on "View Public Profile", it will take to the public profile of the user.

3. On the Public profile page There is tab called "About Me"

It has the gendre info of the user as follows:

About abubaseer

GenderEdit Value
Male
Religion/BeliefEdit Value
Islam
BiographyEdit Value
N/A
LocationEdit Value
N/A
InterestsEdit Value
N/A
OccupationEdit Value
N/A

4. Add me to your friends lists if you are Male...just kidding :)


it only works for full members those with orange colour.New members can't view profile
 

revert2007

Love Fishing
Assalamu Alaikom

It's a good step but please don't be very strict , for e.g. I always recieve msgs asking me to do translation and such as things , I don't thing it's a bad thing ? as well as many members when they ask me to discuss about Islam via MSN I say no , PMs are enough , but now no PMs ?? :(

Islam is not a strict religion .. However it's up to you :)

well have u ever read something it starts with smile then look and towards zina..i can't explain well but i guess it is in the hadith..so it will start with pm,then msn and who knows what else...why do u want to give chance to syaitan..i am elder than you and i have gone through a lot in this life and i know what i am saying.even if you know your intention but we can never know the intenation of the opposite person.if that person like you or any sister because of kindness and so on,then we should be responsible because we allow it in the first place...

there are more brothers in this forum compared to sisters.and why do sisters need to teach the brother about islam?i used to do that but somehow Allah has open my eyes widely and make me repent and make this thread.in islam the obligatory thing is,do not keep in touch with opposite sex if it is not necessary(it means for work or buying selling will be fine) but pm and msn is not allowed.if thsi pm and msn exist 1430 years a go,i belive this would have mentioned in quran.Yet Allah says lower you gaze and take care the stuff between ur tighs.

so syaitan is very smart,smarter than us believe me.and we can never know if our iman is strong or not..many scholors forbidden talking to opposite sex especially on the net..net makes everything sweet even if ur just doing dawah..

let me tell u something about dawah..dawah is compulsary but if u don't do it to the opposite sex,ur not going to commit sin..but if u talk to opposite sex,ur are committing sin...

are we preapered to answer Allah on the day of judgement?

whay did Allah order stricly of avoiding talking to opposite gender?

He knows what we do not know...even the prophet pbuh him keep himself away with talking to opposite gender unsless it is really important and he does it with the presence of sahabahs..if he did it without the presence of sahabahs ,he did with the "presence"of Allah..he is the prophet and we cannot compare ourselves with him.
 

revert2007

Love Fishing
:salam2:

Im SO happy to have come accross this thread ukhtii, may Allah reward you the best reward in the world and aakhira. :)

To check whether a member is a male or female, you need to be an active user. * I think you need like 30+ posts to become "orange" So get posting! :)* Then click on their user name and view profile. Hope this helps inshaAllah

Wassalaamu'alaykum

jazakaAllahu khairan .it is 35 post to be full member
 

revert2007

Love Fishing
How to repent in this situation?

First start deleting all your contact/friends and visitor mesages and pms from opposite gender.

Perform 2 rakaah of salah taubah(I read yesterday whether it si small sin or big sin better do this salaha nd u can do anytime including the time of forbidden to pray)

and keep strongly with you decision of not contacting the opposite gender.

this is not only apply on TTi but through out your life whererever you are.

If you want to talk to opposite gender,make sure there is mahram presence to avoide teh fitnah.

The third person between you and your male/female friend is syaitan
 

Seeking Allah's Mercy

Qul HuwaAllahu Ahud!
:salam2:
jazakallah khaira dear sister.may ALLAH pay you high for this.

this post was really required.i can't exactly point my fingers at others as i myself was involved in this practise of PM talk with brother here:shymuslima1:.however i realised it was useless.i was wasting my time as well as his.so mashallah i stopped gossips and inshallah i take care not to talk to any non mahram brother anymore.YA ALLAH help us carry our good intentions.ameen:tti_sister:

it is necessary for every member to understand what is he supposed to do while one comes on TTI:hijabi:.his purpose should be clear and simple.i've often seen members doing stuff that is totally against what this forum is about.hope ALLAH wil guide us to the right path.ameen.

i suggest every member end their friend ship with the opposite gender.it's not as hard as it seems.INSHALLAH you'll be at peace with this.

again sister :jazaak:
 

Seeking Allah's Mercy

Qul HuwaAllahu Ahud!
How to repent in this situation?

First start deleting all your contact/friends and visitor mesages and pms from opposite gender.

Perform 2 rakaah of salah taubah(I read yesterday whether it si small sin or big sin better do this salaha nd u can do anytime including the time of forbidden to pray)

and keep strongly with you decision of not contacting the opposite gender.

this is not only apply on TTi but through out your life whererever you are.

If you want to talk to opposite gender,make sure there is mahram presence to avoide teh fitnah.

The third person between you and your male/female friend is syaitan
:jazaak:for this again.
 

Fatima S.Ar

Happiness = Islam
what am i suppose to do if i can't talk to the girls? or any other men can't talk to the sisters? what if they are not married?

i think its rather wrong that men can't talk to the muslim sisters but people can talk to a non-muslim.

i keep getting the impression that if i saw someone in the street who is muslim and i was walking down in the other direction and i looked at you and smiled and said "hi" or something and i didnt know much about islam and you didnt talk to me, i would think " oh she is being anti social " or " she is probably in a bad mood and not having a good day ", or if i just wanted to socialise and get to know people which i love doing.

in a country like England thats the impression you would be giving me. im not saying it to be horrible, you are always welcome to chat to me online or offline

:)

Who says a Muslim girl isn't allowed to talk to men ? if you say "Hello " she can reply you
talking with men is allowed , Islam is not a strict religion , but she has NOT to speak softly .

Got it ?
 
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