Walaikum salam warahmatullah
I agree with the sisters, there is always the emphasis on a woman being a good wife but for some reason being a good husband is overlooked a woman not wearing hijab or tight clothes with hijab can attract a lot of comments but a thread about brothers who are clean shaven and trousers below the ankle no big deal after all he is a man and people make it seem like a man's sin isn't really sin probably the woman's fault.
I heard someone say a first role/duty for a woman is to be a good wife and for some unknown reason the first role or duty for a man is to be a loyal servant to Allah I thought first and foremost we have to obey Allah and with our obedience to Allah everything else falls into place. Are women allowed to study in University of Madinah for example or are there any Universities or colleges for Women in Arab countries where we can study to be sheikhs.
What happens to a woman before she becomes a wife, we are a daughters/sisters first is our role then to be the best sister and daughter. It seems like until you are a wife you basically have no purpose.lol. I bought a CDonce about what a woman will have in paradise but he was just 'rambling on' and I never listened to it again. There are male chauvinist sheiks as well. I hear of stories where sisters go and seek advice for marital problems and they are blamed for almost everything, e.g maybe your husband is drinking alcohol because something is lacking in the house, you are not being a good wife etc instead of addressing the issue/ It is almost comical.
The best I have heard and would recommend for all my sister to listen to is
MOTHERS OF THE BELIEVERS,by SUHAIB WEBB( might have spelt his first name wrong) I think it is brilliant and brings things into perspective and also mention why in this century there are not as many female scholars as centuries before, what the problems are. I think it is about 11cds one for each wife and explains what roles they played really significant roles because before I heard that lecture all I had heard was how Asyishah was the most beloved wife and Khadija the most loved in her time and no mention of the other wives but after the lecture you will realise they all had roles some memorised hadith as well.
The sheikh decided to work on this series after the birth of his daughter because he couldn't find proper material on women to inspire his daughter whilst growing up.
I do not know where to buy it, I have the lectures on the hard drive either downloaded or copies not too sure my husband got it but there is a mention of the publication at the beginning. Inshallah when these children take an afternoon nap will try find out the publishers so I can share with you.
Alhamdulillah I found the lectures I was talking about and you can listen to them online, let me know what you think.
http://www.islamweb.net/ver2/engblue/eaudio.php?showfullllist=1&cid=30