salamun Aleykum
It seems to me in Islam, that there is a limitation on the amount of wives you can have (four). Even though it is discouraged to have more than one wife, it is permissible. So far from what I understand Islam gives great importance to
family structure, and how you take care of your wife. therefore, there are
restrictions in regards to lusting, and having sexual intercourse with other
women than your wife.
So the question that troubles my heart is that... Does islam give more favor to Man? are women inferior to Man in Jannah because they have to watch their husbands with different women ?
I understand the fact that women have rights over man in some situations and man have rights over in other situations. That is not the point. The point is, Islam forbids the western way of being "COOL" in the sense that, man and women that are married, can go around and have sexual intercourse with other people, and they are totally cool about it, and don't get jealous of each other. It seems that is what is promised in Jannah for man!!!!!
It seems really contradictory that islam on earth would prohibit such a thing,
and than allow it as a REWARD in heaven!!!! Men get at least 2 wives in Heaven, women get one husband and another Pal to share the man that she loved and cherished during her life on earth, and the men that die fighting get 70 maidens, and have their wife from earth as a side of mashed potatoes for their prime rib!!
I don't understand.. what about the women? They don't get 2 husbands? I have heard an explanation that men get rewarded with what their nature drives them, and women get rewarded with jewelery because it is their nature to love make up and other feminen things? I thought women loved a husband who would love them, take care of them, be faithful to them, and make them feel good about themselves more than make up!! Well what if that is true it may be a big generalization and not true for everybody, I hate jewelery and I am sure some men aren't sexual animals with the power for intercourse equivalent to 100 Hulk Hogans... This is in a Hadith that men get the power of 100 men for sexual intercourse...
It seems to my knowledge that Jannah is Paradise, A place of eternal peace and happiness... It is DEFINITELY true that the reason why people who have sex with whatever woman who satisfies their eyes. They are actually really unhappy because such an act only lasts 5 seconds and only gives man Temporary happiness... (of course unless with your wife, and out of love, not just for the feeling). This is Just like a drug... People wondering around nights in bars and strip joints trying to satisfy this temporary sexual satisfaction like
an addiction!!! Then This MAKES NO SENSE that these behaviors that cause only temporary happiness would exist in a beautiful paradise that promises eternal bliss!!!
I have read in many articles that man are rewarded in Jannah with a different
virgin every night, and their wives will not get jealous because there is no
such an emotion in Heaven... SO DOES THAT MEAN ALLAH TAKES AWAY THE FEELING OF JEALOUSY FROM WOMEN SO THAT THEY CANNOT EVEN FEEL THAT THEY ARE BEING INFERIOR? and not feel anything when they see their beloved husbands with different women??... I thought that men and women are EQUAL.. so why should men
get such rewards that are discouraged in earth, and women don't get anything in heaven but seeing their husbands have different wives?? Also, I thought love and being spiritual were so much more important than having beautiful women around you to satisfy yourself..(other than a life long lasting companion in the good and the bad days to support and love each other) which would make women sexual objects in Jannah. That doesn't make any sense.. and what is the purpose of encouraging people with material feelings when Jannah is supposed to be non-material.
Lastly, what is the difference between me and a christian, if I am supposted to believe blindly without questioning, reasoning, or intellagence, where it is encourauged in islam to use your intelligance, and try to find islam?? isnt it controdictory to say that just believe it because you have to, when we judge christians because they dont question the fact that their bible is so much different than what it used to be!!
I am sure that there is a logical explanation for this that I wasn't able to find. I was just troubled with this question because I am not getting any answers directly to my questions..
Thank you very much everbody for tring to help.
W.salamun alaykum!