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My story started just short while ago and it has come to a complete halt.Met a religious committed sister and decided to marry her.She is 24 and i am 22.The age dint matter to me at all ,the reason behind it would be that If Allah hasn't commanded against it than there is no one on this earth who can.Sister has also agreed to marry i just needed to approach her parents.But before that i had to talk to my mom .She has brought me up uptil now after being divorced when i was 3.When i bought topic up she simply said no.When i asked the reason she said you simply cant.I replied but mom Allah and Prophet Muhammad(peace Be Upon Him) dint stop me who else can and why?She replied Allah wont help you in your matter.I Replied mom If i am trying to follow a Sunnah Allah will always help me even if it against my parents.Mom said if you do than you wont live with me or your brother anymore .So i simply kept quiet and said Mom InshAllah Allah will show us who is on the right path.
She said If you want you can marry her at 27.I replied mom what if i don't live that long?What if i fall into zina with someone whos to blame than.And just left quietly as she had no answer to my question.I have controlled myself long time and kept from women.But now day by day its simply is getting out of control.I still dont speak to women but Shaytan is always there to make you talk.
She has no issue with the sister only issue is i should be at 27 or more.IS 27 considered some type of mature age.I can Alahmdulillah Understand every aspect of life i want .Allah has Alhamdulillah given me knowledge which i use to learn my religion understand everything required in family life.I have Alhamdulillah Studied every aspect of life that is required.Mom may see me still as a kid , i already have said mom let me take some decision if i remain under your cover and if Allah has not written long age for you(i always hope he has written long age for her inshAllah)where will i go and whom will i tell ill be like an kid who wont be able to take any decisions and would simply get crushed in this world.Allah knows rest.
So the topic simply ended in excuses of worldy life which simply don't go through my throat.Both are from same country different areas.I simply told my mom if they don't agree than i can find someone else.Allah land is vast there is no lack of people for marriage.But it was just to divert my mind.The thing i always hated from when i learned my religion without using my logic's and only following what the prophet did is matters of society made into religion.Have no idea from when did dowry become religion,not marrying different races became religion and what not.If anyone reading this follow those types of tradition i ask you to fear Allah don't make your worldy matters the religion.Remember the hadith of the prophet of anyone who innovates anything in this religion .
I Alhamdulillah have good job and studying atm.I just wanted to share it so parents and anyone who gets married in future life can atleast think on matters like these and atleast try to do what your religion says and not your society .Have no idea what my future will say but inshAllah i have trust in Allah and he will do what is best for me inshAllah.
Any opinions and suggestions are welcomed.
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My story started just short while ago and it has come to a complete halt.Met a religious committed sister and decided to marry her.She is 24 and i am 22.The age dint matter to me at all ,the reason behind it would be that If Allah hasn't commanded against it than there is no one on this earth who can.Sister has also agreed to marry i just needed to approach her parents.But before that i had to talk to my mom .She has brought me up uptil now after being divorced when i was 3.When i bought topic up she simply said no.When i asked the reason she said you simply cant.I replied but mom Allah and Prophet Muhammad(peace Be Upon Him) dint stop me who else can and why?She replied Allah wont help you in your matter.I Replied mom If i am trying to follow a Sunnah Allah will always help me even if it against my parents.Mom said if you do than you wont live with me or your brother anymore .So i simply kept quiet and said Mom InshAllah Allah will show us who is on the right path.
She said If you want you can marry her at 27.I replied mom what if i don't live that long?What if i fall into zina with someone whos to blame than.And just left quietly as she had no answer to my question.I have controlled myself long time and kept from women.But now day by day its simply is getting out of control.I still dont speak to women but Shaytan is always there to make you talk.
She has no issue with the sister only issue is i should be at 27 or more.IS 27 considered some type of mature age.I can Alahmdulillah Understand every aspect of life i want .Allah has Alhamdulillah given me knowledge which i use to learn my religion understand everything required in family life.I have Alhamdulillah Studied every aspect of life that is required.Mom may see me still as a kid , i already have said mom let me take some decision if i remain under your cover and if Allah has not written long age for you(i always hope he has written long age for her inshAllah)where will i go and whom will i tell ill be like an kid who wont be able to take any decisions and would simply get crushed in this world.Allah knows rest.
So the topic simply ended in excuses of worldy life which simply don't go through my throat.Both are from same country different areas.I simply told my mom if they don't agree than i can find someone else.Allah land is vast there is no lack of people for marriage.But it was just to divert my mind.The thing i always hated from when i learned my religion without using my logic's and only following what the prophet did is matters of society made into religion.Have no idea from when did dowry become religion,not marrying different races became religion and what not.If anyone reading this follow those types of tradition i ask you to fear Allah don't make your worldy matters the religion.Remember the hadith of the prophet of anyone who innovates anything in this religion .
I Alhamdulillah have good job and studying atm.I just wanted to share it so parents and anyone who gets married in future life can atleast think on matters like these and atleast try to do what your religion says and not your society .Have no idea what my future will say but inshAllah i have trust in Allah and he will do what is best for me inshAllah.
Any opinions and suggestions are welcomed.
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