assalamualaikum to sisters and brothers who happen to read my post...
I have this dilemma which never happen to me b4....
Its between my beloved mom and husband....
My husband have disallowed me to meet my mom due to the grudge that happen between him and my mother....
its really complicated to explain as to what happen between them....all i could say that my mom disapproved my marriage to my husband and she started to fitnah the both of us of having Pre marital sex and ofcourse because my husband is 30+ older than me...and this is where my husband start to get angry...till now...
i have tried to persuade my husband to reconcile back with my mom for the good...but he refuse saying that my mom have to ask forgiveness from him then will he reconcile back...so in that case i also tried to persuade my mom that the fitnah that she says to the police and made a police report is a sin but she still say that what she say and did was right although the police prove she was wrong after i proved my virginity...she says that is the only way to break my relationship with my husband and she also said that it happens that she doesnt have enough money to engaged a lawyer to summon my husband for conning me which is not right...
My husband is the person who have lead me to the right path...he is the one who encourage me to strenghtened my deen...which my mom doesnt educate me with...and among my family of mom dad (they divorced but reconcile back but live separately),a younger sister and 2 younger brothers...only i am the one wearing hijab...and when i get the chance to meet them last year i was sad to see their way of live,they are far away from iman...i really want to help my family get to the right path b4 its too late..i always dua hoping that my family wont go astray far away from ALLAH....
and as a wife i have to obey my husband wish...and because his wish was that he disallowed me to meet my mom i have to obey....am i right for obeying my husband in this case?
and i am a wife whose husband doesnt allow me to go out of the house alone...i can only go out with his company...he will gave so many reason not to allow me went out with my sister and brother....for this case i truly understand and alhamdulillah i obey his wish...most of his wish i've obey...but i always argue with him bout my mom issue but for now i stop bringing up the issue as he will start yelling at me and i will start shoutin at the top of my voice,which i truly regret yelling at him,and at the same time i cant let him thinking all the bad things bout my mom...how bad my mom is,she is still the person who bring up her children without her husband support...i'm truly proud of her for that being so strong bringing up her children with her own,but nobody is perfect,she doesnt educate all her children with islam...we do pray and learn the quran(halfway only)...but not encouraging enough to understand the true islam...as a daughter i will always pray for her forever...after my husband encouragement then i truly understand how to care and love others from islam way...now i truly pray with all my heart...alhamdulillah..
i still feel i have so much responsibility towards my family,ecspecially towards my father whom i have not met for nearly 3 years,although he have never care for me n my other siblings for years but i truly care and love him so much! how i wish i could just kiss his forehead and tell him that i care bout him and love him so much....
although he is unresponsible towards his family,as a daughter i cant be living in the past and hate him what so ever,and i cant give up to spread the truth of islam to my family...i just hope u guys dua for me to be strong facing my problems...i know my problem is not the worst...
so my question is am i wrong to obey my husband for my mom's issue?
what am i supposed to do?
i'm really blank over this issue...seriously...pls give me opinion which i will consider...thank you.
I have this dilemma which never happen to me b4....
Its between my beloved mom and husband....
My husband have disallowed me to meet my mom due to the grudge that happen between him and my mother....
its really complicated to explain as to what happen between them....all i could say that my mom disapproved my marriage to my husband and she started to fitnah the both of us of having Pre marital sex and ofcourse because my husband is 30+ older than me...and this is where my husband start to get angry...till now...
i have tried to persuade my husband to reconcile back with my mom for the good...but he refuse saying that my mom have to ask forgiveness from him then will he reconcile back...so in that case i also tried to persuade my mom that the fitnah that she says to the police and made a police report is a sin but she still say that what she say and did was right although the police prove she was wrong after i proved my virginity...she says that is the only way to break my relationship with my husband and she also said that it happens that she doesnt have enough money to engaged a lawyer to summon my husband for conning me which is not right...
My husband is the person who have lead me to the right path...he is the one who encourage me to strenghtened my deen...which my mom doesnt educate me with...and among my family of mom dad (they divorced but reconcile back but live separately),a younger sister and 2 younger brothers...only i am the one wearing hijab...and when i get the chance to meet them last year i was sad to see their way of live,they are far away from iman...i really want to help my family get to the right path b4 its too late..i always dua hoping that my family wont go astray far away from ALLAH....
and as a wife i have to obey my husband wish...and because his wish was that he disallowed me to meet my mom i have to obey....am i right for obeying my husband in this case?
and i am a wife whose husband doesnt allow me to go out of the house alone...i can only go out with his company...he will gave so many reason not to allow me went out with my sister and brother....for this case i truly understand and alhamdulillah i obey his wish...most of his wish i've obey...but i always argue with him bout my mom issue but for now i stop bringing up the issue as he will start yelling at me and i will start shoutin at the top of my voice,which i truly regret yelling at him,and at the same time i cant let him thinking all the bad things bout my mom...how bad my mom is,she is still the person who bring up her children without her husband support...i'm truly proud of her for that being so strong bringing up her children with her own,but nobody is perfect,she doesnt educate all her children with islam...we do pray and learn the quran(halfway only)...but not encouraging enough to understand the true islam...as a daughter i will always pray for her forever...after my husband encouragement then i truly understand how to care and love others from islam way...now i truly pray with all my heart...alhamdulillah..
i still feel i have so much responsibility towards my family,ecspecially towards my father whom i have not met for nearly 3 years,although he have never care for me n my other siblings for years but i truly care and love him so much! how i wish i could just kiss his forehead and tell him that i care bout him and love him so much....
although he is unresponsible towards his family,as a daughter i cant be living in the past and hate him what so ever,and i cant give up to spread the truth of islam to my family...i just hope u guys dua for me to be strong facing my problems...i know my problem is not the worst...
so my question is am i wrong to obey my husband for my mom's issue?
what am i supposed to do?
i'm really blank over this issue...seriously...pls give me opinion which i will consider...thank you.