Dear brothers and sisters in islam..i would appreciate your help very much.
At present i am going through very testing times and i am having difficulty keeping faith.
My problem is that i have been married fir 4 years, our marriage was arranged but we both gave consent. My marriage was not perfect, we did not communicate too well, but he has always said that i was a very good wife. anyway a while after i got married, i discovered my husband was still in a relationship with his ex-girlfriend. He apologised and said he has moved on. A while later i found out this was not the case, and he was still with her, his ex is a divorcee with a 9 year old child. As i knew he was lying, i told his father, he spoke to him and he made the same promise again. Now 4 years into the marriage, he tells me he has married his ex. He told me 1 year after marrying her. He did not take consent, nor was his family aware of this. His parents are very nice people:ma:. So when i found out, i told him to divorce her and he said he will not divorce her. A month after telling me about his marriage, he told me he won't leave her because she is pregnant, however as he has told his family and me so many lies, i dont know if to believe him as he has a fertility issue.
It was very difficult for me but i had to leave his house and his family which was my life for me. More than anything i would like to go back as i am not divorced but i don't think i could cope with him having a child with someone else. I just need some advice and any dua that could help me. He has committed a grave sin by having a relationship with her but believes it is right now that he has done nikah. Please help, any advice would be greatly appreciated!
At present i am going through very testing times and i am having difficulty keeping faith.
My problem is that i have been married fir 4 years, our marriage was arranged but we both gave consent. My marriage was not perfect, we did not communicate too well, but he has always said that i was a very good wife. anyway a while after i got married, i discovered my husband was still in a relationship with his ex-girlfriend. He apologised and said he has moved on. A while later i found out this was not the case, and he was still with her, his ex is a divorcee with a 9 year old child. As i knew he was lying, i told his father, he spoke to him and he made the same promise again. Now 4 years into the marriage, he tells me he has married his ex. He told me 1 year after marrying her. He did not take consent, nor was his family aware of this. His parents are very nice people:ma:. So when i found out, i told him to divorce her and he said he will not divorce her. A month after telling me about his marriage, he told me he won't leave her because she is pregnant, however as he has told his family and me so many lies, i dont know if to believe him as he has a fertility issue.
It was very difficult for me but i had to leave his house and his family which was my life for me. More than anything i would like to go back as i am not divorced but i don't think i could cope with him having a child with someone else. I just need some advice and any dua that could help me. He has committed a grave sin by having a relationship with her but believes it is right now that he has done nikah. Please help, any advice would be greatly appreciated!