Amanda.Green
I once was blind...
Salaam everyone. I hope you are in the best of health and mind.
I am a recent convert and am having many problems with the people around me. Actually in truth it is only my mother that is having a melt-down. I just wanted to know if anyone else has dealt with this and how. I also haven't told my father and not sure how.
So this is my rant :angryred:: My mother absolutely hates me right now. She wants me to be only allowed to wear hijab in a style that makes me look like a cancer patient, whenever I am with her. She doesn't what me to go to prayer on Friday's (in truth she doesn't want me praying at all, but door locks are helpful). I want nothing more than to be happy (which I am) with where God (SWT) has brought me, but it is very hard to live in a house that doesn't want you to have anything to do with God (SWT). She actually told me to be atheist "because they are normal". Though she won't tell me directly, I truly believe she is atheist. I know the Qu'ran says not to be friends with non-believers, but this is my mother and I am not old enough (well rich enough) to move out and live with friends. I feel horrible everyday. She told me that she felt like a failure as a mother because I am Muslim. She also has compared me to a hooker, as in I am asking for trouble. She said that it was a slap in America's face and a slap in her's (because of the war in Iraq). I am so conflicted inside because I know that "this" God in the best for me, and I don't want to keep making her mad. Oh, one last bit. She thinks that I am going a terrorist sect and being brainwashed SMILY27.
End of Rant
I need help to explain this to her in a calm rational way. I need help explaining that Muslim are not terrorist (though evident, just not to her). And I need help explaining to a parent that now matter the child's decision you should be supportive (unless it was life-threatening). Also would like help to break it to my father (which would happen over a phone call or e-mail).
Thank you to anyone that can help.
SALAAM ALIKUM,
Amanda
I am a recent convert and am having many problems with the people around me. Actually in truth it is only my mother that is having a melt-down. I just wanted to know if anyone else has dealt with this and how. I also haven't told my father and not sure how.
So this is my rant :angryred:: My mother absolutely hates me right now. She wants me to be only allowed to wear hijab in a style that makes me look like a cancer patient, whenever I am with her. She doesn't what me to go to prayer on Friday's (in truth she doesn't want me praying at all, but door locks are helpful). I want nothing more than to be happy (which I am) with where God (SWT) has brought me, but it is very hard to live in a house that doesn't want you to have anything to do with God (SWT). She actually told me to be atheist "because they are normal". Though she won't tell me directly, I truly believe she is atheist. I know the Qu'ran says not to be friends with non-believers, but this is my mother and I am not old enough (well rich enough) to move out and live with friends. I feel horrible everyday. She told me that she felt like a failure as a mother because I am Muslim. She also has compared me to a hooker, as in I am asking for trouble. She said that it was a slap in America's face and a slap in her's (because of the war in Iraq). I am so conflicted inside because I know that "this" God in the best for me, and I don't want to keep making her mad. Oh, one last bit. She thinks that I am going a terrorist sect and being brainwashed SMILY27.
End of Rant
I need help to explain this to her in a calm rational way. I need help explaining that Muslim are not terrorist (though evident, just not to her). And I need help explaining to a parent that now matter the child's decision you should be supportive (unless it was life-threatening). Also would like help to break it to my father (which would happen over a phone call or e-mail).
Thank you to anyone that can help.
SALAAM ALIKUM,
Amanda