Salam brothers and sisters, and greetings to Yasmeen,
In the end, Yasmeen should benefit from the muslimat discussions on issues of marriage, and why some women feel and act differently than others.
I believe, men, play an important part in marriage, whether or not, their feelings of love and respect, surpasses Islamic Values, or in accordance to them.
We feel bad, that some men, can't do his job as the head of the family, taking care of the wife and the kids, but does anybody know if the man wasn' trying to stir his life, by making it worse, going head to head with westernized wife, who was brought up believing we are all equals, and therefore, we can go anywhere we want without questions from the significant others? Or, not obeying what the husbands want in bedroom, or chores at home, or the suitability of the clothings?
Please take our time to analyse this.
A lot of men are evil, but mostly, we are ignorants too. Same with women.
But, a lot of men are not showing good examples while leaving the obedient sisters questioning the worst scenario that the family is facing. This is vice versa, and along the road, there's bound to be a happy family that we could make good examples of.
I keep asking brothers and sisters to find the best way not to become to controlling with our partners, but not to undermine our responsibility to monitor the family under our custody. This is an ISLAMIC way to avoid "gossips" or fitnah among the members of one's family.
Some people say, we dont' mind fitnah, because it's not going to break us, but that is what's wrong with this world, nowadays. No trust, Adultery, Zina, Torture in Family, sadistic revenge, and many more. Islam has provided ways to create the easy ways to go through all these, but men, as weak as we are, have always managed to ridicule ourselves by creating branches of lifestyle that do not follow the sunnah and Al Quranul Karim.
Trust me people, fitnah is headache to everyone, and we shouldn't think it would not hurt anyone. Because it does.
Wassalam