Asja
Pearl of Islaam
Assalamu Allaicomu Wa Rahmatullah Wa barakatuhu
I need to say that before saying anything or giving our own subjective opinions we should stict to the Holy Quran and Sunna hof our beloved Prophet s.a.w.s and its saying about Muslim marriege.And it is also very importante to seaperate Muslim marriege and Kuffar marreige.
One sister said that she does not belive in love marriege but I would not agree with that,because Muslim marriege needs to be fullfilled with great love Mashallah,and when you are getting married with someone you are getting married for the persone who you love for the sake of Allah,and every love which is protecteed from Allah is pure SubahnAllah,it is a love which is innocnet and clean from everything which is wrong and from any difficilites,Inshallah.
Islamic rules regarding Islamic marreige are very clear,and Alahdmulilalh Islaam strictly forbides dating before marriege eetc Astagfirullah,which ofcourse does not mean that we can not meet with our future husband but ofcourse with Islamic rules,ethics and normes.
In the time of Prophet Mohammed s.a.w.s.,when beloved Ali r.a. asked a hand of hazrat Fatima( may Allah peace and blesssings be upon them) she did not loved hazrat Ali yet,but after theri marriege was fullfilled with great love SubahnAllah,,with joy,happiness and blessings,and Allah Almighty always protected thier marriege as they were on of the best Muslims,and beloved hazrat Fatimah like one of the best 4 choosen womens in Islaam.
I can not say that love before marriege can not exist at all becasue it can exist litlle part of it Masahllah,but Alhamdulillah taht love need to be pure and above everything which is not which is not comletely clean SubahAllah.And real love comes in marriege,Inshallah te ala.
And"......."he leaves you after that" has nothing to do with our Islaam.
May Allah guide us all