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Assalaamu 'alaykum!
O Fathers, how longer will you keep your daughter 'locked-in', awaiting for that doctor to come along with a milllion pounds in his bank account? As the Prophet (saw) (the one you claim to love and folow) said, "When your daughter reaches the age of puberty, look for a a suitible partner for her."
<But my daughter hasn't asked me to lok for anyone yet.>
Ummm, yeah. But maybe that's because she's shy...
<So who should I look for then? If a doctor is not good for her?>
Well the Prophet (saw) said:
[Tirmidhi, Nasa'i & Ibn Majah]
So the best husband for your daughter is a pious man with good manners.
<Well, but my daughter is the type of girl who doesn't talk to boys, she doesn't even come downstairs to greet her male cousins. Hence why I don't think she likes to get married yet.>
Shaykh (elder), the fact that she doesn't talk to males is more of a reason that she needs to get married off. A female, by nature loves to be loved and cared for.
Everywhere you look women have partners, and your daughter is here, keeping her chastity and her honor preserved. For how much longer will you keep her away from her halaal bond of love awaiting her in her pious partner?
If she doesn't talk to males, that doesn't mean she does not want to get married. Everyone else is fulfiling their desires ina haraam way, hence why they are not bothered that much about marriage, but your daughter is restraining herself. And a human being can only restrain oneself for a certain period of time.
<Yes, but a doctor can provide for her better than someone who just sees everything as 'haraam'>
No doubt a doctor can provide more money for her, but a pious man with god manners will treat her well. Likewise, there will be more of a bond and connection between the two of them.
<But my daughter hasn't asked me to lok for anyone yet.>
Ummm, yeah. But maybe that's because she's shy...
<So who should I look for then? If a doctor is not good for her?>
Well the Prophet (saw) said:
"When someone with whose religion and character you are satisfied asks your daughter in marriage, accede to his request. If you do not do so, there will be temptation on Earth and extensive corruption."
[Tirmidhi, Nasa'i & Ibn Majah]
So the best husband for your daughter is a pious man with good manners.
<Well, but my daughter is the type of girl who doesn't talk to boys, she doesn't even come downstairs to greet her male cousins. Hence why I don't think she likes to get married yet.>
Shaykh (elder), the fact that she doesn't talk to males is more of a reason that she needs to get married off. A female, by nature loves to be loved and cared for.
Everywhere you look women have partners, and your daughter is here, keeping her chastity and her honor preserved. For how much longer will you keep her away from her halaal bond of love awaiting her in her pious partner?
If she doesn't talk to males, that doesn't mean she does not want to get married. Everyone else is fulfiling their desires ina haraam way, hence why they are not bothered that much about marriage, but your daughter is restraining herself. And a human being can only restrain oneself for a certain period of time.
<Yes, but a doctor can provide for her better than someone who just sees everything as 'haraam'>
No doubt a doctor can provide more money for her, but a pious man with god manners will treat her well. Likewise, there will be more of a bond and connection between the two of them.