Muslim woman committed suicide

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    Assalamu alaykum wa ramatullahi wa barakatu,

    From Allah we are created, and to Him we return.

    Source: http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/ukn...ide-after-lifestyle-attacked-on-Facebook.html

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    Wow, that person that sent those e-mails is a piece of work and not in a good way. There is no reason to that do, this poor women was mentally unbalanced. I feel for her and her family.
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    You can tell she was feeling inner turmoil because she knew she was not living an Islamic lifestyle. THEN she had depression and it was not treated properly....And he just pushed her over the edge, literally :(

    This was sad to me.

    Make dua, we are allowed to make dua for persons who took their own life.
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    I will, she was not right in the head sadly and I feel for her. To feel as if you have no other option, as she was trying to get help and then outed by that horrible person. I can't even imagine.
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    Its amazing isnt it? May allah swt keep us all on the straight path. Its so important sometimes we dont even realize it...
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    Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi rajioon.

    This is truly tragic. Not just the fact that it was a Muslim woman who resorted to suicide, but that many of her fellow Muslims showed ZERO tact in giving her naseehah. If "hate mail" even qualifies as naseehah.

    I'm wondering if the haters were also Western-based. Most likely considering that they knew the details of her life. If so, why were they even in the place they hated so much? That's logical. Live in the hemisphere you hate and then hate on others who also chose to live in the same hemisphere. Yeah, that totally makes sense.

    We need to remember that as Muslims we need to be extremely gentle and compassionate with one another. Looking down on others and being self-righteous will get one nowhere in this life or in the next. We also need to remember that our iman is a gift from Allah and not from ourselves. Clearly such idiots were lacking true iman, but even if it were true iman, we need to remember that it is SOLELY from Allah and not based on any effort from us. Believing otherwise can get it taken away. This is why we should never look down on those who are weaker in iman then us. And I remind myself first inshAllah.

    Additionally, the woman was looking to be an even better Muslim.

    *Sigh* Astaghfirullah.

    May Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala preserve us and grant justice to her family inshAllah.
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    :salam2:

    This is so sad and tragic. It shouldn't have ended this way - there might have been a million paths to take, and this was the one she was forced to take. I can't believe nobody cared enough and left her to go alone just a day after she tried to hang herself.

    The saddest thing is she was guilty, and realized she was living badly. If only she met the right people, things wouldn't have ended this way.
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    Assalamu alaikim

    I think this calls us to be more caring and loving for others . We should at least smile , say a good word, pray for others.............I pray that Allah make our love for him , hope in his mercy , fear of hell full our hearts and wipe all kind of pain and misery of this ending life . Allahuma forgive all muslimeen and muslemat living and dead.
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    Innalillahi Wainnailaihi Rojiun

    This is truly sad, I'm so sorry to hear that..
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    And [recall] when Moses said to his people, "O my people, indeed you have wronged yourselves by your taking of the calf [for worship]. So repent to your Creator and kill yourselves. That is best for [all of] you in the sight of your Creator." Then He accepted your repentance; indeed, He is the Accepting of repentance, the Merciful. 2.54

    O you who have believed, do not consume one another's wealth unjustly but only [in lawful] business by mutual consent. And do not kill yourselves [or one another]. Indeed, Allah is to you ever Merciful. 4.29

    Sad news to read, especially with the recent Newtown,CT. We must hold on to the knowledge that Allah is most Merciful.

    Imagine the time of the Prophet (sall allahu alayhi salaam) when daughters are murdered and those who turned Muslims after. How can you live with memory of a terrible past if Allah had not inform us that He is the Merciful One?
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    we already established in another thread, suicide is one sin for which you can't repent.

    it's not a question of meeting the right people, she had a whole family to go back home to. It says in the article her family was very religious, not sure how she ended up going the wrong way and engaging in major sins.

    I just hope the harasser has realized the error of his way and feel remorse enough to repent.
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    I apologize for being unclear. I wasn't establishing anything, just pointing out that people who want to kill themselves, especially in this case the person having problems because she's not living a pious life, forgets that Allah is Merciful.

    And yes, the surat regarding Moses (alayhi salam) does not suggest killing yourselves.

    O you who have believed, do not consume one another's wealth unjustly but only [in lawful] business by mutual consent. And do not kill yourselves [or one another]. Indeed, Allah is to you ever Merciful. 4.29
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    This is really sad. Subhanalaah, people now a days...they forget the ettiquetes of advising people. May Allah forgive her sins Amin. But it's obvious that when a person forgets Allah and disobeys Allah's commandments, shaytan will really get to the person's mind until the person feels they have no other choice but suicide. I'm guessing this was the case with that woman. Nevertheless, may Allah forgive her for her sins and mistakes. She was a Muslim after all.
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    True words! Looking down on people is not right and is a sign that one is arrogant. Allah doesn't like those who are arrogant. Shaytan was arrogant and look at what happened to him! May Allah save us from arrogance and all evil diseases of the heart, mind and body. Amin.
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    Salam aleykum

    Attacked on facebook...i dont know if is of any use for me to say this but one measure of protecting our life is to not open this gate of shaytan called facebook, i see absolutely no reasonable benefit for a muslim or any other person to join it.
    Whatever we want to study or get information about, we can do it without inviting hundreds of strangers in our privacy.
    And Allah knows best.
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    “All actions are judged by motives, and each person will be rewarded according to their intention. Thus, he whose migration was to God and His Messenger, his migration is to God and His Messenger; but he whose migration was for some worldly thing he might gain, or for a wife he might marry, his migration is to that for which he migrated.” (Saheeh Al-Bukhari, Saheeh Muslim)
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    To let a tool, rule our lives, is silly.... Keep it in its place.
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    Assalamu'alaikum!
    Greeting,

    Poor woman!
    everything came in at once
    i see she couldn't get lose
    and didn't seek proper help at this point.

    1)She should seek help from islamic's council too,

    2)She could always close and open a new facebook account and stop sharing sensitive
    too personal!


    3)She failed to intentified her enemy which was the very person sending her the hate letter could be the very person
    who was jealous and know who she actually was and waiting
    for her destruction which finally got what they wished.

    She should ignore
    ignore and ignore.

    ...Sympathy and condolences
    to her family and friends.

    ~May Allah swt help,protect and guide all muslims~Amin!

    Thank you for sharing
    sister.

    ~Wassalam.
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    Really?

    What was the biggest challenge to Islam when it was first revealed to the Holy Prophet? The fact that he was preaching in a land of nonbelievers. The struggles of the early muslims were horrendous because they were living amongst nonmuslims whose values, morals and ways of life were so vastly different to the Islamic way of life.

    And did our parents as muslims learn from this? No. Instead, muslims have come "full circle" and have deliberately decided to place the muslim ummah back in the same position as those early Muslims. In the 20th century, we saw a huge migratory trend where muslims left their muslim countries behind to set up their lives in non muslim lands. Starting in the 1960s and 1970s, people left muslim countries to set up shop in the UK, USA and Canada. They gave birth to children and raised their children. In a nonmuslim country. Astaghfirullah.

    What did they think, it would not come with associated ills? Did they think that Allah SWT was smiling down on them, as they packed their suitcases, boarded planes, landed in kaffir lands, and they proceeded to have babies and raise them amongst kaffirs? That surge in immigration from muslim to nonmuslim lands was totally unIslamic. It is especially difficult on the daughters of those parents. The expectations on the daughters have been far, far more onerous, as many of us have not been able to find muslim spouses in the nonmuslim jungle, we have no source of economic or social support, etc.

    The story of this woman is not that unbelievable. She would not have been put in the psychological distress that she was, had her parents remained in their muslim environment. She would never have turned to nonmuslim boyfriends or started drinking alcohol or have been wracked by guilt.
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