Hi.I have a problem,that is i can't pray.I don't mean that i can't pray at all.The thing is that the mosque is at 3 minutes distance from my house.When i pray and enter my house,i hear the voice of music and vulgar dialogues.My mom watches indian drama serials and i am not lying,i can't stand indian drama serials.I can stand other things,but not indian drama serials.I hate them.So when i hear the sound of the music and these dialogues,i feel like someone has put a dagger in my heart and it is piercing my heart into two pieces.
It's because of the contrast that i enter the mosque,read the quran,listen the quran,pray and say dua but only after 3 minutes when i reach my home i have to listen to loud music and very vulgar dialogues,that's the reason my heart breaksup.The pain is so intense,it feels like poison or fire.I tried to tell my mom many times about this problem but she doesn't cares about it.So i am asking you,my brothers and sisters,what should i do in this case.
Have you been in any situations like this?What you did to fix this problem?
assalamu alikum brother May Allah bless you plz pray for your mum and make duaa for her ]
try to ask her in a smile face and politely that this situation hurting u
ask her if she can make the sound lower when u back home?
try with her in all ways i mean like bringing flowers to her
try to make her respect u and love u , everything will work step by step
today your mother is beside you and you felt disturbance according to her act how about your feeling tommorow if you lose her?
you will ask allah to bring those days thatyou waste in sadness and anger
even if the rightness with u , and i guess that your mum is a muslim?
alhamdullah
On the authority of Abu-Huraira, who said: I used to call my mother to Islam when she was still a polytheist. One day, while I was calling her she mentioned something about the Prophet , Peace and Blessings be Upon Him, that I detested. So I went to see the Prophet , Peace and Blessings be Upon Him, while crying and told him: I used to call my mother to Islam and she would refuse. I called her today and she mentioned something about you that I detested. Please invoke the blessings and guidance of Allah on her. Then the Prophet , Peace and Blessings be Upon Him, said: O Great Allah guide the mother of Abu-Huraira. So I left full of hope because of the Prophet's supplication for my mother. When I reached home I found that the door was partially closed. My mother heard my footsteps and said: Stay still Abu-Huraira, then I heard the water running; he added my mother performed body ablution, put on her cloths and hurriedly opened the door without her head-cover and said: "None has the right to be worshipped but Allah and Muhammad, Peace and Blessings be Upon Him, is the Messenger of Allah". I went back to the Prophet , Peace and Blessings be Upon Him, crying of joy and told him: I am bringing you good news; Allah answered your prayers and guided the mother of Abu-Huraira. The Prophet , Peace and Blessings be Upon Him, praised and glorified Allah and said: this is good. I said: Oh Messenger of Allah, pray to Allah to make me and my mother beloved by Allah's believing slaves and make us love them. The Prophet , Peace and Blessings be Upon Him, said: Oh Allah, make this little slave of Yours and his mother (meaning Abu-Huraira and his mother) become beloved by your believing slaves and make the believers love them. Ever since, there was not a believer who heard of me, even without seeing me, that did not love me. Reported by Muslim in Sahih Muslim (Muslim Authentic volumes) under # 2491.
On the authority of Saa'd (Ibn Abi Waqas May Allah be pleased with him) who said that verses of the Qur'an revealed his story. He said Um Saa'd (his mother) swore not to talk to him ever nor eat or drink until he renounces Islam. She said: You claim that Allah commanded you to obey your parents. I am your mother and I order you to do this ( to renounce Islam). He said: She stayed with nothing to eat or drink for three days until she fainted because of strain. Then one of her other sons named Umarah gave her water to drink. And she started to imprecate against Saa'd, then Allah revealed this verse in the Qur'an, which translates to the meaning of {And We have enjoined on man to be good and dutiful to his parents; but if they strive to make you join with Me (in worship) anything (as a partner) of which you have no knowledge, then obey them not. Unto Me is your return and I shall tell you what you used to do} Verse 29:8 - Surah 29, Al Ankabut. This Hadith is narrated by Imam Ahmad in his Musnad and in Sahih Muslim in his Sahih under # 1748.
Also, Allah revealed another verse in the Qur'an, which translates to:
"But if they (both) strive with you to make you join in worship with Me others that if which you have no knowledge, then obey them not; but behave with them in the world kindly, and follow the path of him who turns to me in repentance and in obedience. Then to Me will be your return, and I shall tell you what you used to do"( 31:15 - Surah Luqman).
Based on the above stories one can determine how to deal with a non believing mother and can draw the following significant conclusions:
The importance of good presentation of Islam to the mother and to try to kindly persuade her and to strive to convince her as Abu Huraira did (story # 1)
Continue to do good to the mother and to remember that her action does not justify disobedience by the son or daughter and that doing her good does not contradict with your innocence of her as a disobedient, on the contrary as it is stated in Verse 31:15 above, Allah has commanded us to treat the non believing parents kindly even if they strive to make their child a polytheist because of their rights as parents hoping that they will
embrace Islam.
Continue to sincerely pray and supplicate for the disobedient mother hoping that Allah may guide her, as evident in Abu Huraira's story
The divine guidance of Allah may come after continuous strive by the child and strong objection of the mother as in Abu Huraira's story, therefore the son should never surrender or give up but should continue to pray and supplicate for the disobedient mother.
and don't give sahytan a way to build a gape between you and ur mum
your mum is a good respectable person she do not prevent you for going to pray to IN MASJID
Or fighting u in your religion , make duaa for her and be so delicate with her and show her how u will be proud of her if she get close to Allah and etc..
i know i get away from the issue but shaytan want your life in misrable
and to be in a bad relationship between you and mum
do not hate your mum only hate the action and make duaa for her in sujood and Allah wont give you up
this is IKHTEBAR brother from allah keep patience