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SubhanaAllah I have been reading this topic for awhile, and Ya Allah how many times does this happen in life, MashaAllah. My advice and I hope it is good advice InshaAllah. Many people who are in love tend to not see the point of view from their parents. First of all, I believe and I could be wrong, they are not out to hurt you (your parents I mean), they love you, so they are trying to protect and trying to give you what's best, or what they think it best. They could be wrong but throughout your life you only have one mother and one father, and Allah (SWT) says lower the wing of humility to your parents. If your parents are not telling you to commit shirk then your good.
Another thing about this is we as Muslims or just people never see that we bring certain things onto ourselves. I am not saying this toward ANYONE please do not take it out of context, InshaAllah. I'm trying to say before marriage some Muslim men and women talk without a wali, this is haraam. When you talk before marriage all you are doing is digging a hole for yourself, meaning you are creating feelings for this person and these feelings get deeper and deeper until you...burst
But if we follow how Allah (SWT) has taught us to get married then we would not be in these situations because we would not have feelings for the other person because we don't know them, so when our parents say no then we can be like okay. For instance, my friend, she is from India. Her parents found a guy for her to marry. Her wali and herself went to talk to the man and she did not prefer him so she said no, why? Because she had no feelings for him because she did the right thing. How can we anger Allah (SWT) by doing the wrong thing then want Him to help us? SubhanaAllah we must be careful of shayteen surely he is our clear enemy.
Another thing, Prophet Muhammad (SAW) married Saffiyah Bint Huyaay and she was hebrew (a jew) NOT ARAB, so of course there is nothing wrong with marrying outside of your race, but sometimes marrying outside your race is hard. Why? Because you go into that marriage with your customs and he comes into the marriage with his customs and they probably will clash, which will perhaps cause some problems so no it's not haraam marrying outside your race but sometimes it's difficult. I know because my sister married an Albanian, Alhamdullilah they been married for two years and everything is good Alhamdullilah but when she first married him somethings were hard to get use to because the different cultures, but just make Dua'a and InshaAllah Allah will help you. Ameen.
Lastly, the only thing you could do is have trust in Allah (Tawakal3laAllah). Allah (SWT) says in the Qur'an that you may like a thing but it is not good for you and you may dislike a thing but it is good for you. Only Allah know the unseen, so we should really put our Trust in Him and continuously turn to Him and make Dua'a. Then make Salatul Istikhara, if you get a good sign then be patient perhaps Allah will bring you to together, but you first have to do what Allah wants and loves (like not talking before marriage and being patient) then Allah will reward you. In life we go through trials and we must be patient. We should not be like the people Allah (SWT) describe in Surah Al-Fajr when He says when He is generous and favors a man the man say my Lord has honoured me, but when he restricts His provision from me the man says my Lord has forsaken or humiliated me.
With All of that said, InshaAllah if I said what is right then it is from Allah, and if I gave wrong advice it was from myself and may Allah forgive me. Again I did not write this to upset anyone nor to argue, nor to make anyone cry, but the truth is the truth and in order to be successful in the dunya and Akhira we have to adhere to Allah and the Sunnah, and the Sunnah is a marriage is invalid without the wali. I hope one day everyone sees that what is with Allah is better than love on this Earth. We should strive to gain the love of Allah first in order to make it to Jannatul Firdous and then once we have achieved that Great Achievement then we could have whatever pleases our eyes and whatever our hearts desire. I'm telling you this dunya is nothing, we must wake up and see that. I'm sorry for rambling, but may Allah Guides us All Ameen.
And sister if Allah want you to get married to this brother, and he is a good brother and a good muslim and you would be happy with him then May Allah grant you him and may Allah bless your marriage. Ameen. Ameen.