salam aleikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh
Dear brother,
When I married my husband he didn't have any dollar (ytl, coz he´s turkish). He was sad about that and asked me what I want to have. I told him, give me a rose. That was my weddinggift and I still have this rose. It is the most beautiful gift I ever got in all my life. Even he dont have any salary. But that was for me no reason to cancel our marriage. My own salary is enough for us. We arent rich but very happy and Allah gave us everything we needed. And He still do! We didnt have a weddingparty. Why we should. We told the family that we married and they were very happy for us. I had a lot of money before (not as much as the rich people in Dubai, but anyway) and I knew people in Palestine needed too much for food and medications. I found a way to help with this money. Why I did? Coz I know that they needed more than I needed. If I didnt do, I could affort myself and my husband a big villa and the most beautiful car, but I cant, coz I will feel ashamed myself all my life and in the Day of resurrection Allah wil ask me about this. Im afraid that people in rich country´s are forgotten what is sunnah.
Pray for help to Allah, but never pray for money. If you do and Allah dont love you, he will give you money as much as you want, but if Allah love you, he will not give to you. And you will know why. This dunya is not our goal. Our goal is to be in Paradise. Ask Allah for wisdom and sabr. Two most importants things for us as muslims. And to have sabr is the best.
You told you were praying a lot of time Istighara. Also I did when I needed help from Allah. I did 4000 times. And after a month Allah gave His help. Many hours I was praying, day after day. My mouth was dry from praying, but I didnt stop. Why I didnt stop? Because I had faith and confidence in Allah and I trusted Him and I told Allah that I will accept what He decide, coz Allah know the best what is good for me.
I never told this to anyone before and Im also not proud to tell, but maybe it will help you and to think about what is going on with this family. I can give you the garanty that they will never have enough, its real blackmailing. They are using you. Be carefull please, brother. I saw too many times bad things in my life. Dont be a victim of theire greed. Also this girl can talk with her mother that she dont accept what she want from you. If she realy love you, she will marry you in the most simple way, like Mohammed, salla allahu aleyhi wa salam, told us how it have to be. If she isnt in real love with you she will listen to her mother and she will wait what happen.
If her parents are real practicising muslims they will know what is wright and wrong. And to ask u so a big amount is not from the sunnah, don't forget this brother, its haram! And Im sure deep in your heart you will know what is the right thing to do. Be a man and so say NO to her mother, I cant affort myself this big amount.
Insha´allah all will be ok for you in the future, with this girl or with someone else. In the posts above you can read, its a test for you, but not only for you, also for the woman who you want to marry.
Show them that you are a strong muslim and that you want to follow the sunnah, Insha´allah her mother will understand what is the most important thing in her daughters life.
And ask by yourself, What is the most important for me? That Allah is pleased or that her mam is happy coz she can do a big party in a 5 stars hotel.
Imagine that you lost your job in the future and that it will be too most difficult to find a new job. Your mother in law will order her daughter than to divorce you?
Again my dear brother, be carefull. I say this to you because I love you for the sake of Allah and I dont want you will fel down.
I cant sleep this night, coz of your problem. I asked Allah to help me so I can write the right words for to give you any support.
Take care of yourself and even what happen, never forget that Allah knows the best and say everytime, Alhamdullilah.
May Allah forgive me if I said wrong things.
your sister in Islam
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