Question about Muslim families

kayleigh

kayleigh

Junior Member
This may seem kind of dumb, but I've never met a Muslim family. Ever. Actually, I haven't met any Muslims since I converted.

I was told to contact a man at the local mosque who's job is to help converts (among other things). He gave my number to a girl at the university here. I'm supposed to meet her tomorrow and she's supposed to become a sort of mentor, I guess. She's going to take me to her house and introduce me to her family and help me with praying, etc.

Is there any special way to act? Are there things that may seem rude or looked down upon based in Western culture? I've been reading as much about Islam as possible, but obviously I still don't know that much (especially compared to the girl I'm meeting). I'll try to act as I know a Muslim is supposed to, but I'm worried I may do something that I didn't know about that would offend them. And I really don't want to do something wrong because I want them to help me and they're really going to be the first connection I make to the Muslim community in my area.

I know my question is very general, but any help would be appreciated.
 
uzeshan

uzeshan

S.O.A
:salam2:

Welcome to the Family and TTI..

Just act normal..

Males are not allowed to handshake with females (unless they in blood or husband {Mehram}).. just tell them u r a new Muslim... InshaAllah everythign should be alright...
 
proud2bemuslim

proud2bemuslim

ALLAH HU AKBAR
:salam2:

Insha'Allah everything will go fine sister. Do not worry too much and again act normal. I'm thinking that the girl you are meeting may be thinking the same. She might be worried about doing something that might offend you. Again just act normal and I'm sure she wont might anything you do.
 
zeneesha

zeneesha

~trini_muslimah~
:salam2:
:SMILY206: to TTI sister.
And um..don't switch into panic mood.
Insha Allah, all will be fine. Take your time, be yourself, and maintain respect.
 
dna1987

dna1987

Muslim Guy
Salam alaikum.

Don't be nervous, and be yourself. It's just like meeting any another family...

InshAllah you will get through it fine and dandy, have a good time, and make some new friends.
 
virtualeye

virtualeye

Tamed Brother
AssalaamuAlaikum,

I think the family of that girl knows you are new Muslim, so they will be understanding InshaAllah. You will be a precious sister to them InshaAllah.

At the end of the meeting you can mention them that you are a new convert so you might do something wrong so ask them a pardon in case. Thats all.

Wassalaam,
VE
 
R

revert_north

NEW MUSLIMA
kayleigh said:
This may seem kind of dumb, but I've never met a Muslim family. Ever. Actually, I haven't met any Muslims since I converted.

I was told to contact a man at the local mosque who's job is to help converts (among other things). He gave my number to a girl at the university here. I'm supposed to meet her tomorrow and she's supposed to become a sort of mentor, I guess. She's going to take me to her house and introduce me to her family and help me with praying, etc.

Is there any special way to act? Are there things that may seem rude or looked down upon based in Western culture? I've been reading as much about Islam as possible, but obviously I still don't know that much (especially compared to the girl I'm meeting). I'll try to act as I know a Muslim is supposed to, but I'm worried I may do something that I didn't know about that would offend them. And I really don't want to do something wrong because I want them to help me and they're really going to be the first connection I make to the Muslim community in my area.

I know my question is very general, but any help would be appreciated.
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I can't think of anything that would cause offence purely based on the fact that you're used to 'Western' customs. All decent people are in possession of basic manners, even those who have not yet embraced Islam, and I'm sure you're no exception! As for "I'll try to act as I know a Muslim is supposed to", please don't do that! Aldhamdulillah the commitment that you have shown Islam thus far in even considering befriending and trying to learn from other sisters and brothers proves that you seem to be a good Muslim already! There is no need for an act sister, be yourself and shine :)

If you DO happen to make any 'mistakes', I am sure they will be insignificant, and that your new friends will politely and respectfully give you some tips on these. You're not expected to be an expert, and likewise for your hosts, no living person is an expert on Islam anyway. We are mere humble servants of Allah, learning each and every day on how best to serve him, and the fact that you're turning to another sister and her family for guidance shows that you are already humble and willing to acquire knowledge.

Insha'allah everything will go just fine. Good luck, I hope you enjoy yourself! :)
 
Mabsoot

Mabsoot

Amir
Staff member
:wasalam:

Muslim families, if they follow and love Islam are very friendly and welcoming, you will feel part of the family!! and you will never want to leave!! You'll not only be their guest, but their sister and daughter :)

so, dont worry and just be happy inshaAllah.

wasalam
 
visionusman

visionusman

being content
revert_north said:
I can't think of anything that would cause offence purely based on the fact that you're used to 'Western' customs. All decent people are in possession of basic manners, even those who have not yet embraced Islam, and I'm sure you're no exception! As for "I'll try to act as I know a Muslim is supposed to", please don't do that! Aldhamdulillah the commitment that you have shown Islam thus far in even considering befriending and trying to learn from other sisters and brothers proves that you seem to be a good Muslim already! There is no need for an act sister, be yourself and shine :)

If you DO happen to make any 'mistakes', I am sure they will be insignificant, and that your new friends will politely and respectfully give you some tips on these. You're not expected to be an expert, and likewise for your hosts, no living person is an expert on Islam anyway. We are mere humble servants of Allah, learning each and every day on how best to serve him, and the fact that you're turning to another sister and her family for guidance shows that you are already humble and willing to acquire knowledge.

Insha'allah everything will go just fine. Good luck, I hope you enjoy yourself! :)
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Took the words right out of my mouth (or may be my keyboard).

Sister kayleigh, the only one being u should be afraid of offending is the being of the creator; Allah SWT. I'm sure I would'nt be offended by any decent person because of their culture; muslim or non muslim.
 
kayleigh

kayleigh

Junior Member
Thanks for your replies, everyone. I met with most of the family today and they were very kind. After everyone had left the grandmother had asked me that I consider them like my family and that I consider her like another mother. They let me borrow some books and asked that I come over next week.
 
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Love my islam

Junior Member
Alhumdulilah thats good

You were worried for nothing sister, but its always good to talk it out.
Enjoy reading and learning. May Allah help you. Ameen.
 
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