questions on islam

ropak

New Member
From my research and discussions of islam, there a few issues that need to be addressed in my mind that i dont understand, so please enlighten me on the topic.

1) 4:34===Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has made one of them to excel the other, and because they spend (to support them) from their means. Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient (to Allah and to their husbands), and guard in the husband's absence what Allah orders them to guard (e.g. their chastity, their husband's property, etc.). As to those women on whose part you see ill-conduct, admonish them (first), (next), refuse to share their beds, (and last) beat them (lightly, if it is useful), but if they return to obedience, seek not against them means (of annoyance). Surely, Allah is Ever Most High, Most Great.

I dont understand how wife beating of any sort is apart of the true religion, common sense tells me that a man should never physically harm a woman (unless in self defence of course.) Ive heard some sources tell me that the beating is with a toothpik sort of thing (cant remember the name) but that doesnt make any sense so it sounds as if they are just trying to cover it up.

2) The idea that life is a test seems so unfair, i dont know why ive never heard anyone bring this up but if life is a test, why do most muslims get to be born muslims and are brought up learning islamic knowledge whilst un-believers have to go against their family (in some cases) learn the religion of islam (prayer's etc) and somtimes face prejudice from other muslims for being differant.

I know its not easy for born muslims, they have to stay strong and obey Allah's rules but they dont have to find islam, they are given it to them.

3) hellfire, it just seems so unfair, the idea of un-believers skin being burned of and re-grown just to have it burned of again in exstreme torture just because they made a mistake seems just plainly so unfair, why do they deserve such a punishment? there are hundreds of millions of kind-hearted, honest, genuine non muslims but all that doesnt matter and they deserve to be roasted for eternity?
 

ropak

New Member
I also forgot one more thing (its annoying you cant edit posts on these boards.)

mohammed was apprently meant to be such an amazing individual and muslims are meant to follow in his example correct? But looking at his life whilst he did do noble, kind deeds, he does not seem to be such a perfect individual.

for example Aisha his 9 year old child bride, whilst i know marrying children was a common practise during those times, mohammed being the prophet of god should of known better than marrying a 9 year old child and consummating their marriage when surely a 9 year old girl is not biologically ready for sexsual intercource.
 

AdamMuslim

Junior Member
Asaalamou Alikom Warhmatou Allah,


First of all Eid Mubarak to all my brothers ans sisters in Islam :SMILY259:

To answer your first question I have to say that the notion of LUCK does not exist in Islam to begin with!

Now, the logic behind: why some (supposedly lucky!) people were born Muslim while others (supposedly unlucky!) were born unbelievers seems flawed to say the least. Indeed, it seems to me (it is a fact!) that people (and all other creature by the way!) do not come from an assembly line where all “units” are standardized and look absolutely the same (with respect to their appearances and their genetic identities). Among us, HUMANS (Muslims and non Muslims) you can find the black, the white, the tall, the fat the slim, etc etc...How do you explain the wisdom (or may be you would like to call it otherwise) this biological fact, even before we start addressing Islam issues ???

We are inherently different and hence unequal (with respect to a given characteristic): If we consider height I might be taller than you, if we consider intelligence you might be smarter than me and so on . In religion too it so happens that some people are born Muslim (which does not guarantee anything by the way!) while others are not.

Violence against women:
There is a huge prejudice that associates Islam with violence against women which is sad and laughable at the same time. Here is some facts about percentage of ever-married women ages 15-49 ever beaten by spouse or partner (source: Kishor, S. and K. Johnson. 2004. Profiling Domestic Violence: A Multicountry Study.):

1.Zambia:48%
2.Columbia: 44%
3.Peru: 42%
4.Egypt: 34%
5.Nicaragua: 30%
6.Haiti: 29%
7.Dominican Rep.:22%
8.India:19%
9.Cambodia:17%

Only one Muslim country is present (Egypt)! Among these countries it seems to me that the common divisor is rather poverty and low level of education and may be other socio-economic factor that allows violence to thrive. Hence, a priori, Islam has nothing to do with it.

Is hell fire really unfair?
Your third question is about how unfair hell fire is !
It is amazing how we, Muslim and non Muslim, have this tendency to take too many things for granted. The very air we breath, the water we drink, the sight, speech, our lives, food, good health, our families, ..and I can go on forever!

Shouldn't we be thankful for all of this? If we think there is a creator (if you think otherwise then there is no point!) who gave us all those wonderful gifts shouldn't we be extremely thankful? ..because all those gifts does not come free of charge! The only thing that Allah is asking in return is to recognize him as our creator and believe in him as the UNIQUE God. Hence, the punishment comes in accordance with God's generosity. He is infinitely merciful but his punishment is beyond imagination!
Hence, those who will be punished were unfair for themselves in the first place!

Wassalam
 

Isra

aka Tree2008
I also forgot one more thing (its annoying you cant edit posts on these boards.)

mohammed was apprently meant to be such an amazing individual and muslims are meant to follow in his example correct? But looking at his life whilst he did do noble, kind deeds, he does not seem to be such a perfect individual.

for example Aisha his 9 year old child bride, whilst i know marrying children was a common practise during those times, mohammed being the prophet of god should of known better than marrying a 9 year old child and consummating their marriage when surely a 9 year old girl is not biologically ready for sexsual intercource.

As salamo alaikome (Peace be upon you)

I take it that you are not Muslim but are searching for information which may help to guide you. This particular topic of your question has been discussed before on TTI and I am posting the link to one of the best discussions for you to read.

http://www.turntoislam.com/forum/showthread.php?t=2585&page=3

I wish you all the luck in your search for the truth and may Allah guide yu to the straight path Ameen.

Wa Salam
 

DanyalSAC

Junior Member
From my research and discussions of islam, there a few issues that need to be addressed in my mind that i dont understand, so please enlighten me on the topic.

1) 4:34===Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has made one of them to excel the other, and because they spend (to support them) from their means. Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient (to Allah and to their husbands), and guard in the husband's absence what Allah orders them to guard (e.g. their chastity, their husband's property, etc.). As to those women on whose part you see ill-conduct, admonish them (first), (next), refuse to share their beds, (and last) beat them (lightly, if it is useful), but if they return to obedience, seek not against them means (of annoyance). Surely, Allah is Ever Most High, Most Great.

I dont understand how wife beating of any sort is apart of the true religion, common sense tells me that a man should never physically harm a woman (unless in self defence of course.) Ive heard some sources tell me that the beating is with a toothpik sort of thing (cant remember the name) but that doesnt make any sense so it sounds as if they are just trying to cover it up.

2) The idea that life is a test seems so unfair, i dont know why ive never heard anyone bring this up but if life is a test, why do most muslims get to be born muslims and are brought up learning islamic knowledge whilst un-believers have to go against their family (in some cases) learn the religion of islam (prayer's etc) and somtimes face prejudice from other muslims for being differant.

I know its not easy for born muslims, they have to stay strong and obey Allah's rules but they dont have to find islam, they are given it to them.

3) hellfire, it just seems so unfair, the idea of un-believers skin being burned of and re-grown just to have it burned of again in exstreme torture just because they made a mistake seems just plainly so unfair, why do they deserve such a punishment? there are hundreds of millions of kind-hearted, honest, genuine non muslims but all that doesnt matter and they deserve to be roasted for eternity?

Lets start with the Qur’an surrah (or “book” if you prefer) in question. Surrah 34, “An-Nissa” (The Women). Ayat (or “verse” if you will) 34: “Men are in charge of women, as Allah has made one of them superior to the other, and because men spend their wealth for the women; so virtuous women are the reverent ones, guarding behind their husbands the way Allah has decreed guarding; and the women from whom you fear disobedience, (at first) advise them and (then) do not cohabit with them, and (lastly) beat them; then if they obey you, do not seek to do injustice to them; indeed Allah is Supreme, Great” This verse is known among Muslims as the Qawamah verse (“Family Leadership”).

First of all, bear in mind that the Qur’an is not nor was it ever written in English. What you get here is what is called an English interpretation of the meaning. Islamophobes and others can pretty much interpret it any way they like – and they often do. In this case, the word that brings the most concern is wazribuu-huun. This word can be interpreted in several ways.


1. Beat or hit them in a gentle manner or lightly. Some scholars prefer to use the word ‘strike’ instead of beat or hit.

2. Distance yourself from them

3. Have sexual intercourse with them.


To shed more light on this issue, I would like you to consider some facts:

- In many places in the Qur’an, Allah SWT advises husbands to treat their wives in a very kind and dignified way, even during the most difficult times of a relationship, such as times of separation and divorce (Q2, V228, V231, V233) (Q4, V19)

- Numerous teachings of the Prophet Mohammed salallahu alayhi wa’salaam emphasize being gentle and kind in all dealings and particularly in the marital relationship. Here are some examples:


A. “Kindness and gentleness are not found in anything, but they add beauty to it, and if they are withdrawn from anything, it is defected” (Muslim)

B. “Those who are deprived of leniency are deprived of all good” (Muslim)

C. “Allah is kind and He loves kindness in all affairs” (Agreed upon)

D. “Allah is kind, and He loves kindness and confers upon kindness that which He does not confer upon severity and does not confer upon anything else but it (kindness)” (Muslim)

E. “A believing man (husband) must not dislike a believing woman (his wife). If he dislikes one of her traits, he should remember that there are other traits that he likes” (Muslim)

F. “The believers who show the most perfect faith are those who have the best character and the best of you are those who are best to their wives” (At-Termedi)

G. “The best of you is he who is best to his family, and I’m the best among you to my family” (At-Termedi)


- The Prophet Mohammad salallahu alayhi wa’salaam use to be in the process of serving his family, but when prayer was called, he would go out for prayer (Al-Bukhari).

Upfront, we – as Muslims – refuse to believe that the meaning of the word wazribuu-huun is an order from Allah subahanhu wa ta’ala and a license for men to beat, hit, or strike their wives even lightly. Our rejection of this meaning is based on the Prophet’s practice (salallahu alayhi wa’salaam). As reported in Sahih Muslim, he (salallahu alayhi wa’salaam) never laid a hand on a lady or a child. Had this been an order from Allah swt to use, the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa’salaam would have been the first to comply.

The Qur’an does not promote spousal abuse.

(For more information, see “The Message International”, Aug/Sept 2009 issue from which much of this was taken).
 

besmiralalbani

Think for yourself
salam alaykum

We Muslims believe that Allah does not make INJUSTICE, we don't make effort to follow the right path:

And the Book (one's Record) will be placed (in the right hand for a believer in the Oneness of Allah, and in the left hand for a disbeliever in the Oneness of Allah), and you will see the Mujrimun (criminals, polytheists, sinners, etc.), fearful of that which is (recorded) therein. They will say: "Woe to us! What sort of Book is this that leaves neither a small thing nor a big thing, but has recorded it with numbers!" And they will find all that they did, placed before them, and your Lord treats no one with injustice. (Al Kahf 18: 49)

"Who set up another ilah (god) with Allah, then (both of you) cast him in the severe torment." His companion (Satan devil)] will say: "Our Lord! I did not push him to transgress, (in disbelief, oppression, and evil deeds) but he was himself in error far astray." Allah will say: "Dispute not in front of Me, I had already, in advance, sent you the threat. The Sentence that comes from Me cannot be changed, and I am not unjust (to the least) to the slaves." (Qaaf 50: 26-29)

If only there had been among the generations before you, persons having wisdom, prohibiting (others) from Al-Fasad (disbelief, polytheism, and all kinds of crimes and sins) in the earth, except a few of those whom We saved from among them. Those who did wrong pursued the enjoyment of good things of (this worldly) life, and were Mujrimun (criminals, disbelievers in Allah, polytheists, sinners, etc.). And your Lord would never destroy the towns wrongfully, while their people were right-doers. (Hud 11: 116-117)


We have to think on this important issue, in this question that we find in the Qur'an and it is a question that a human being must do to himself...

"Did you think that We had created you in play (without any purpose), and that you would not be brought back to Us? (Al-Muminoon 23: 115)

And Allah gives us signs, showing His justice, His help, His mercy toward us, How much are we grateful... !!! :

We will show them Our Signs in the universe, and in their ownselves, until it becomes manifest to them that this (the Quran) is the truth. Is it not sufficient in regard to your Lord that He is a Witness over all things? (Fussilat 41: 53)
 

arzafar

Junior Member
hello ropak.

i can completely understand your concerns about the issues you have pointed out. However, my advice to you would be to first and foremost study Islamic theology instead of focusing on minor issues.

the reason why these issues are minor is because they are not obligatory to to follow. you dont have to marry a young girl or beat your wife but you must believe that Allah is completely Just; perfect and unique in all His attributes.

so ill only address the issues with regard to the basic beliefs

The idea that life is a test seems so unfair, i dont know why ive never heard anyone bring this up but if life is a test, why do most muslims get to be born muslims and are brought up learning islamic knowledge whilst un-believers have to go against their family (in some cases) learn the religion of islam (prayer's etc) and somtimes face prejudice from other muslims for being differant.


1) The islaamic belief is that every human being is born muslim i.e his natural inclination is to worship the only true God, Allah (swt). However, the surrounding environment may lead him astray.

2) Muslims must do dawa i.e. invite others to islaam and jihad which includes overcoming forces (physically or other wise) that deny this cause of dawa (inviting people to islam) so that non muslims get awareness of islam.

3) When a nonmuslim reverts to Islam, all his previous sins are forgiven. However, if he owes somebody money he must pay it.

4) Islamic belief is that guidance comes from Allah alone. Being born muslim or born kaafir has little to do with it. Any human being can ask God for guidance. in fact id encourage you to that. Muslims also ask guidance from Allah alone. that's the first chapter of the quraan.

5) Allah created man to worship Him alone. Actually all His creations (planets , angels, animals etc) worship Him i.e obey His laws. However, humans have been given intellect and freedom of choice by Allah. They are sent to this to find out which ones willingly submit to Allah; Other creations (except jinn) dont have this choice. He has sent many prophets and revealed scriptures to guide us. The one who follows Allah's commands despite the trials of this world is a muslim. He is loved by Allah and will be rewarded by Him in the next life.

hellfire, it just seems so unfair, the idea of un-believers skin being burned of and re-grown just to have it burned of again in exstreme torture just because they made a mistake seems just plainly so unfair, why do they deserve such a punishment? there are hundreds of millions of kind-hearted, honest, genuine non muslims but all that doesnt matter and they deserve to be roasted for eternity?

1) Allah owns everything. He is the boss. He owns you and me too. He has given us everything we have including health, wealth, intellect, freedom of choice, prophets and scripture. Therefore the arrogant and ungrateful and those who reject His guidance deserve to be punished.

2) Allah is very merciful. He loves to forgive, so if anybody asks for forgiveness for mistakes he will be forgiven. But he must do that before his death.

3) The billions of non muslims who are kind hearted, honest and genuine are that way because of Allah so He deserves all the praise not the people. These people will be punished for eternity because of no 1

Kindly read the belief in divine decree (the good of it and the bad of it).
 

AZAM_SIDDIQUI

Junior Member
its so easy to avoid hell that why anyone shud not repent
The Mercy of Allah in Regard to Forgiveness

"O son of Adam, as long as you call upon Me and put your hope in Me, I have forgiven you for what you have done and I do not mind. O son of Adam, if your sins were to reach the clouds of the sky and then you would seek My forgiveness, I would forgive you. O son of Adam, if you were to come to Me with sins that are close to filling the earth and then you would meet Me without ascribing any partners with Me, I would certainly bring to you forgiveness close to filling it."

In this Hadithi Qudsi, Allah gives hope to mankind more than any other narration. It displays the quality and attribute of Allahs mercy. Indeed, He is ar-Rahman, the Most Compassionate, and ar-Raheem, the Most Merciful. In this Hadithi Qudsi, Allah tells man of the greatness of His forgiveness and mercy so that no one would despair due to the amount of sins he may have committed. This is supported by the following verse of the Holy Quran:

Say: O My servants who have transgressed against their own souls, despair not of the mercy of Allah. Indeed, Allah forgives all sins. Truly, He is Most Forgiving, Most Merciful. (Surah az-Zumar 39:53)

This hadith teaches us the importance of realizing Allahs mercy, having faith and hope in Him especially when making dua, calling to Allah alone for forgiveness, and the importance of repentance in the life and faith of a believer.

Allah catches the attention of mankind by calling out, O son of Adam! This is a call to every human being. Why didnt Allah say, O mankind or O People? The significance of this specific call is because it was the first human being, Adam (alaiyhis-salam) who committed the first sin. Adam was an example to all humans of the consequences of sin and how to turn to Allah for forgiveness of ones sins. This gives hope that even after committing a violation, ones sins can be forgiven if one repents to Allah sincerely the same way that the father of mankind sinned, repented, and was forgiven by Allah.

Allah calls out to His servants, a call of forgiveness, mercy, and compassion. For He knows that man was created weak and is prone to fall into sin. After calling out to mankind, Allah informs them that as long as they call on Him and put their hope in Him, He will forgive them and not mind. This statement alone can convince one to have hope and never to despair. When one calls out to Allah or makes dua, he is displaying his need and dependence of Allah. He is demonstrating his weakness to the fact that he has no power to do anything for himself. It is the essence of submission and servitude. It is also a recognition of Allahs attributes of kindness, generosity, forgiving and merciful nature, and His unlimited power and knowledge. Humans are never in a situation where they are not in need of Allah. A believer always turns to Allah to ask for guidance as well as to seek forgiveness of sins and shortcomings.

Allahs says, Call on me and I will respond to you. One of the most important conditions of making dua is that one must completely trust that Allah will respond. One must also supplicate with sincerity, hope, and seriousness. One must not have any doubt at all on whether Allah will respond to ones call or if He accepts the dua. The Messenger of Allah (sallallahu alaiyhi wa sallam) said, Supplicate Allah while you are certain of a response. And know that Allah does not respond to a supplication from a heart that is heedless and inattentive. He also forbade that one say, Oh Allah, forgive me if You will. But he said, Instead, you should ask with will and conviction for there is nothing so great to Allah that He cannot grant it.

When supplicating, one should truly seek Allahs aid and His forgiveness and demonstrate his need for Allah and submit to Him with fear and hope in receiving the desired response. Allah advises in Surat al-Araaf 7:56:

And invoke Him in fear and aspiration (of hope). Indeed, the mercy of Allah is near to those who do good.

Another important condition of supplication is that one must not become hasty and impatient and stop supplicating because he did not receive a response sooner or at all. The Prophet (sallallahu alaiyhi wa sallam) said, You are responded to as long as you do not become hasty and say, I supplicated and it is not being or was not responded to.

And the final condition of ones dua being responded to is that one must make sure he is living off of halal and permissible means.

Allah says, Put your hope in Me. Man was not created sinful, but he was created weak. He is prone to fall into the temptations of sin and the whispers of Satan and when he does, he should always remember to turn to Allah, call upon Him, and ask for forgiveness with hope in His mercy. Allah stated in a Hadithi Qudsi, I am with My servant as He expects of Me. The meaning of this is that Allah treats His servants the way he expects Him to. If one has hope in Allah and trusts Him, Allah will act accordingly to that servants beliefs and faith. And if he does not have faith and is in despair of his Lords mercy, Allah will act accordingly. Not having hope in Allah and despairing of His mercy is a great sin and an act of kufr. Allah quotes Prophet Yaqoob (alaiyhis-salam) in the Quran:

Indeed, no one despairs of relief from Allah except the disbelieving people. (Surah Yusuf 12:87)

One must be hopeful of Allahs mercy and forgiveness and fearful of His punishment. It is this fear that should lead one to seek Allahs forgiveness with hope. Allah says:

Know that Allah is severe in punishment and that Allah is Forgiving and Merciful. (Surat al-Maaidah 5:98)

In the above verse, Allah gives us reason to fear because His punishment is justly severe, as well as good reason to have hope, since He is the Most Forgiving and Merciful. There should be a balance between fear and hope and not too much or too less of one or the other. If there is too much fear, then a person may negate Allahs quality of mercy and ascribe to Him unkindness (Allah forbid!).
There was a sect called Khawaarij, who worshipped Allah only in fear and held the belief that anyone who commits major sins was a disbeliever and would be thrown into the Hellfire forever. This is a gross extremism and straying from the correct path.

Yet, another sect, which emerged within the first century of Islam, had no fear and believed that sins did not affect ones faith and that as long as one believed and testified in Islam, he would enter Paradise regardless of his actions. Both of these extremes lead to a dangerous consequence.

To understand the balance of fear and hope of Allah, let us look at the very first chapter of the Quran, Surat al-Fatiha. The first verse says, All praise be to Allah, Lord of all the worlds. In this verse, love for Allah is expressed. We acknowledge that Allah is our Lord and the Lord of all the worlds. He is the Creator of all things; He sustains and nourishes everything; He gives life and death; anything good that we have is from Him; and everything is dependant on him and nothing can happen unless Allah wills it to happen.
In the second verse we express our hope in Him by stating, ar-Rahma-nir-Raheem. The meaning of which is: The Beneficent, the Merciful. When we mention these two names of Allah, then we have hope, since He is the One, who is full of mercy and we hope He will forgive out mistakes and shortcomings. We should never lose hope because there is no reason to.

And in the third ayah of Surat al-Fatiha, fear of Allah is expressed when we recite, Master (King) of the Day of Judgement. When we recite this verse, we remind ourselves of the Day that we will be standing in front of our Lord and be questioned for our deeds, a Most Awful Day. It will be a day in which not even the smallest action will be hidden. This reminder of the Day of Judgement should bring fear to our hearts.

Fear and hope, both should be equally proportioned in our hearts, in our worship, and in our dua to Allah. Allah says:

Call out to Him with fear and hope. (Surat al-Araaf 7:56)
They forsake their beds to call their Lord in fear and hope. (Surat as-Sajdah 32:16)

The Prophet (sallallahu alaiyhi wa sallam) said, The like of these two qualities do not unite in the heart of a servant except that Allah gives him what he hopes for and protects him from what he feared.

In the Hadithi Qudsi that is being discussed in this paper, Allah says, O son of Adam, if your sins were to reach the clouds of the sky and you would then seek My forgiveness, I would forgive you. Here, we will discuss the importance of repentance and seeking forgiveness and its virtues.

First of all, we should never lose hope or stop asking for Allahs forgiveness. Its importance is shown to us in the following hadith of the Prophet (sallallahu alaiyhi wa sallam): O people! Turn to Allah in repentance and seek His forgiveness, for surely I make repentance a hundred times every day. Repentance is such a great act of worship that doing it can totally erase ones sins altogether, as the Noble Prophet (sallallahu alaiyhi wa sallam) said, One who repents from sins is like one without sin.

When a person sins and then sincerely turns to Allah for forgiveness, one will find Allah ready to accept his repentance and to forgive him, as this verse indicates:

And whoever does a wrong or wrongs himself, but then seeks forgiveness from Allah, he will find Allah forgiving and merciful. (Surat an-Nisaa 4:110)

Everyone commits sin and does wrong, but Allah is always willing to forgive and He always gives them a chance to repent and seek His forgiveness. A believer should never forget the fact that Allah is so forgiving. If Allah had willed, He could have held everyone accountable for his or her sins, but He has decreed that He shall allow His servants to seek His forgiveness and that He shall in fact forgive who and what He wills. In fact, Allah commands that His servants seek His forgiveness:

And seek Allahs forgiveness. Certainly, Allah is Forgiving, Merciful.
(Surat al-Muzzammil 73:20)

Repentance is an act, which purifies the soul and brings the servant closer to His Lord. It puts the heart at rest from guilt. It protects one from falling prey to his desires and lusts and increases his faith.

Allah then says in the Hadithi Qudsi that is being discussed, O son of Adam, if you were to come to Me with sins close to filling the earth and then you would meet Me without ascribing any partners with Me, I would certainly bring you forgiveness close to filling it. Look at how great Allahs mercy, compassion, and love is! The least Allah asks for is that one not ascribe any partners and gods with Him, for, He is alone in His Sovereignty. And after that if one commits sins and seeks sincere forgiveness, Allah will forgive him and shower His mercy upon him.

However, one is not forgiven if he seeks repentance from Allah at the time of death when he sees the angels or when the sun rises from the west at the approaching of the Day of Judgement. This is confirmed by the following verse:

And of no effect is the repentance of those who continue to do evil deeds until death faces one of them and he says, Now I repent, nor of those who dies while they are disbelievers. For them, We have prepared a painful torment. (Surat an-Nisaa 4:18)

Allah also does not forgive one who commits shirk, which is the association of partners with Allah. Forgiveness will only come to those who die while adhering to tawheed and avoiding any form of shirk.

Verily, Allah does not forgive that partners should be set up with Him, but He forgives whatever is less than that for whomever He wills. And whoever sets up partners with Allah has indeed invented a tremendous sin. (Surat an-Nisaa 4:48)

Verily, Allah forgives not the setting up of partners with Him, but He forgives whom He pleases whatever is less than that. And whoever sets up partners with Allah has indeed strayed far away. (Surat an-Nisaa 4:116)

We must ask ourselves this question: Would we be willing to forgive anyone who hurts us and disobeys us constantly as easily as Allah is Able to forgive? Most probably, the answer would be no. But our Creator is the Most Kind and He is the Most Perfect.

Lo! Allah is a Lord of Kindness to mankind, but most of mankind give not thanks. (Surat al-Baqarah 2:143)


In this Hadithi Qudsi, mankind is encouraged to seek Allahs forgiveness and repent, but there are five conditions of repentance, which must be met for ones repentance to be accepted. The first and most important is that the act of repentance be sincerely for Allah alone. Secondly, the person must feel remorse and guilt over his actions so much so that he wished he had never done it in the first place. The third condition is that the person must immediately cease performing the wrong and sinful act. Fourthly, the repentant person must have a firm intention to never commit the sin again. And lastly, the person must repent before it is too late, meaning before death approaches.

Allah, Blessed and Exalted, finishes the Hadithi Qudsi with the following words, O son of Adam! If you were to come to Me with sins that are close to filling the earth and you would then meet Me without ascribing any partners to Me, I would certainly bring to you forgiveness close to filling it. Again, the mercy of Allah is clearly demonstrated by His Divine Words. However, there is a condition. One must not associate any partners with Allah, which is shirk. And Allah does not forgive shirk and if one dies without believing in Allah alone as ones Creator, then he will be doomed to the Hellfire for all of eternity. So, Allah emphasizes the importance of calling on Him alone. He has no and needs no partners, associates, wives, children, etc. There is no god, but Allah. None forgives sins except Him, so one seeking forgiveness should seek it only from Allah.

Will they not repent to Allah and ask His forgiveness? For Allah is the Forgiving, the Merciful. (Surat al-Maaidah 5:74)
And who can forgive sins except Allah? (Surah Ali Imran 3:135)

Allah praises the one who truly believes, has hope, and seeks the forgiveness of his Creator, as did his father, Adam:

Say: Shall I not inform you of things far better than those (things of this world)? For the pious, there are gardens with their Lord, wherein rivers flow. Therein (is their) eternal home and pure wives. And Allah will be pleased with them. And Allah is Seer of the slaves. Those who say, Our Lord! We have indeed believed, so forgive us our sins and save us from the punishment of the Fire. They are those who are patient, those who are true and obedient with sincere devotion in worship to Allah. Those who spend (in charity) and those who pray and beg for Allahs forgiveness in the last hours of the night. (Surah Ali Imran 3:15-17)

Allahs forgiveness and mercy is far greater and more vast than the sins of the creation. One must always have trust and hope in Allah in both good times and bad times and especially when seeking Allahs forgiveness. And the believer who calls out to his Lord for forgiveness demonstrates his true weakness and that he is totally dependent on the Creator. When one confesses his sins to Allah and sincerely repents with hope in Allahs mercy, the heart should come to peace and the soul should feel rest. When a person has hope, he has no reason to despair because it only leads to destruction. Allah gives hope to all, especially those who despair that there is no reason to despair because Allah is the Most Merciful of all those who show mercy. Allah praises those who repent and turn to Him:

And those who, when they commit a lewd act or wrong themselves with evil, remember Allah and ask forgiveness for their sinsand who forgives sins except Allah? And they do not persist in what (wrong) they were doing while they knew it. For such, the reward is forgiveness from their Lord and Gardens with rivers flowing through, wherein they shall abide forever. How excellent is the reward of the doers (of good)! (Surah Ali Imran 3:135-136)
 

Aapa

Mirajmom
Assalaam walaikum,

Welcome.

To add my two cents:

1. In intimate relationships emotions go wild. If a man can not restrain himself Islam provides a way for the husband and wife to reconcile. A man is to beat his wife with a blade of grass. It is that specific. A noble and pious man would not even touch his wife with a blade of grass. However, should he have to resort to physical means..a blade of grass. It is that simple.

2. Hellfire: His word is True. It is our choice to believe. He has given us the choice. The onus of responsibility falls on the Believers. We do not know who will be given hellfire. We do not know what He will do with others. We have made the choice to serve Him and Him alone.

3. It is erroneous to think that one born into the faith will not be tested. We are given suras to recite every night to ask not to be tested too much. It is a blessing to be tested. Each ensuing test brings us to rely on Him and Him alone.

4. Many young girls are biologically ready at a young age. We are used to statistics of compairsons today. We generalize in this world. The Prophets marriage to Aisha was the Will of Allah. And the most important thing to remember is she loved the Prophet. Her marriage allowed women to be respected in Islam. We thank the Mother of Believers for her knowledge about Islam. She was a widow for sixty years.
 
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