Right of Divorce for Women

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    it is sunnah to marry a divorced woman who has her own business???? Where on earth did you get that from? Except for Aisha, all of the Prophet's second wives were either divorced or widowed, and they had children. They all owned their own businesses? What????

    To the contrary, men do have an obligation to carry burdens. Such is life and too bad. If your wife is poor or disabled, or needs help, or you have 5 children or 10 children and you need to support them -- they are your burden. Sorry boys. God has made your lives as providers and caretakers.
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    You are kidding me right, there is no such Sunnah. Prove it. You know nothing about us Western Muslim women other then lies. You don't know what we give up to be Muslims here in the West, our families, our friends,in some cases our jobs to follow Islam. It's sexist men like you that give good Muslim men a bad rep. I pity your wife/future wife/daughters you may have with this attitude. Calling women trash...wow. Have fun telling Allah on judgement day why you dared called your Sisters trash. I am sorry your Mother raised you this way.
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    I think we have a troll here, and maybe a non-muslim one at that.
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    I think some Muslimahs' are pissed off from this post.
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    Lol you think?
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    IslAMERICA, no one is "trolling." I'm basing my thoughts on my experience. Also, I find it offensive to Islam that you integrate a Western country that is responsible for many Muslim deaths in your username. I can understand that you may come from a family of cowards who put up the American flag in their front lawn to avoid persecution, but the rest of us Muslims fear only Allah. The "I am a Muslim" bumper sticker on my car is prominent.


    As for the rest of the Muslimahs, my posts were not towards all Muslim women. Its just those few who lack discipline. I am 100% sure that even you know what I'm talking about, and you would agree with me 100%.
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    My bad. I misread the post. I thought I read "Pakistani women leave Pakistan and MARRY non-muslim western men."
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    Btw, isn't it time for the mods to ban him? i'm sure several Forum rules have been broken already, insulting fellow members, derogatory postings towards women, misinformation of Islam to support own ignorance and false mass generalization to name a few...
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    Under what basis? I have not insulted or abused anyone. And I have not made any attempt to cause fitna. Misinformation? In fact, I was correct. If you tell me to marry a divorced woman, I will follow sunnah and make my first wife similar to the first wife of the prophet, saaw. Also, you and I are equally guilty of contributing vulgar and heartless posts. Re-read your post regarding the muslim girl who committed suicide. But unlike you, I wouldn't ask to have you banned; I prefer you stay here and learn more about islam. I guess that makes me the better muslim.

    Control your anger.
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    after having read some posts,I think ,instead,I'm sure,I'll never get divorced to stay with another partner.it disgusts me.the divorce is a heavy matter,above all if there are children involved in it.Allah too dislikes when 2 people get divorced because their life has become impossible,but life is one,it's useless to waste it into the research of the perfect partner,when Allah has already decided everything.
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    As-salaamu alaikum

    Lets stop using harsh words for it is also not sunnah.
    Lets fear ALLAH.

    Lets not be enemies, shaitan is the enemy...

    Wassalaamu alaikum
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    Still waiting for proof that's it's Sunnah to marry a divorced woman who is sophisticated and has her own business as has been claimed earlier.
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    While I agree divorce should be a last resort, my husband was an abusive alcoholic and i tried to stay with him for the sake of our son. In the end I had to leave due to the abuse and neglect. In cases like that a women should leave.
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    Assalaam alaikum,

    One with Allah, I know you did not read my comments regarding the sisters response on the thread regarding the young woman who committed suicide. Had you taken a moment to ingest what we are saying you would be in agreement with us. If you need it to be broken down, as she did use an idiomatic expression, I will be glad to explain it to you.

    Sister Hayat..out of the mercy of Allah after a divorce Allah has provided many with good partners. He has written that He provides after a divorce. You have no clue what pain divorce brings out. It is not disgusting.

    Sister Islamerica, why not propose a two week ban if the tone does not change. After what I experienced and read the comments of members who supported them, my trust level is almost non-existent. I came back because I am a believer in the truth. And, I am going to write the truth.

    We have to start protecting our sisters on this website. To allow new members to insult them constantly is wrong. I question OnewithAllah. Seems like the same out tricks I experienced. Insults, bringing other posts that have no connection, involved in a discussion without spiritual or historical knowledge, trying to cause rifts for the sake of causing trouble.

    Sister Sabs, you are correct. Go ahead and tell the brother directly.
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    sister Aapa,maybe you misunderstood me.divorce doesn't disgust me,the fact that I may leave my husbad for another man is bad(for me),no offense for anyone.I image how the end of marriage is painful.


    Sister Shak78,in situations like yours is necessary to put an end to a suffering,I'm sorry for you.maybe I also am so devoted to my husband,that even if we have discussions(it's normal to have them,this is life),we remember that we got married because we are in love and for the sake of Allah.I know people who divorced and I assure that it's not easy for them to start form new.don't think I'm unsensible to the matter.
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    Assalaam alaikum,

    It is not only the end of marriage but the stigma of divorce. In our communities we are outcasts. Our sisters are very cold to us. We are never invited to their homes. We live on the edge. I used to have the happy divorce get togethers. On the eids we would hold our own celebrations. It is a very cold world for divorced Muslim sisters. And most of it has nothing to do with faith. Sisters fear if they associate with you they will get your disease.
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    Sister Hayat84, someone like you should never worry about divorce. You have a beautiful heart, you always show kindness and I have never seen you show anger. your husband found a rare gem and may Allah protect you from hassad. You've truly brought honor to your husbands house.

    I request all women here should say Mashallah to not pass their hassad to blessed sister hayat
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    You are an arrogant man, knowing nothing about many of us. I was simply showing that in some cases divorce is necessary, unless you think us women should stay in abusive marriages, and if you do that is all I need to know about you. You are disresepctful to your fellow sisters and it is sad.
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    Not really, sister. My posts were directed towards only ONE group of women, which are the new breed of girls who are pro-corruption, and will never choose to change their habits for the sake of Allah. You, along with other members here, took my words out of context and used your interpretation to pick a fight. I already mentioned that I am speaking out of experience. The girl I was almost going to marry 3 years ago was a divorced Palestinian American-raised woman. She hugs male friends at her university. When I told her it was wrong, her response was "don't change me!"

    Since that day, I've become more cautious with young divorced liberal women. Now, please, re-read my posts from the top and see how I constantly repeat words such as "from what I've gathered," and "from my experience." You'll then know that I'm not generalizing. Next time, take some time to understand before jumping into conclusions. When you rush into accusations and fights, your marriage will run into problems. Be like Sister Hayat84. Her husband loves her and gave her his heart and soul because she is patient and thinks twice before opening her mouth. I am proud to know that Muslimahs like her exist :)

    As for the rest of the members, next time read the thread from the start. I, too, have the habit of reading the last few posts and using them to summarize the thread.
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    Assalaam alaikum,

    You are wrong in directing your hurt onto Believing women. So you had your heart broken; that does not give you the right to be angry at any other woman, period. That is just immature.

    You have not had the experience of marriage nor divorce. Your words are not wise as they are angry and empty. Why you are lumping women who are unsure of their faith with women who are divorced is silly.

    Maintain your caution but do not generalize. Besides what are you doing hanging with all these women? You come across as a bitter womanizer who got burnt and is angry at all women except married ones.

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