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BaarakAllaahu feek, I agree about the not pushing ones' own Taqleed. This needs a thread of its own though.
And the second is an interesting point, and I've been thinking about it as well...
When these 'cultural acts of worship' (yes many which are thoughts and superstitions even), are spread like Fiqh rulings, what's the best way to address it?
Because in their view, some treat these 'cultural understandings' as if they are an aspect of fiqh, and any disagreement on it, is a disagreement on fiqh itself to them, due largely to the lack of understanding, misinformation, and word of mouth.
And trust me I've heard my fair share of oddities, especially in regards to women and I've always asked them where the proof is for the action they are doing before. But honestly, I think I'm going to change it to - who said this is part of the religion? If it's from the Hanbali madhab, then khayr - which of the scholars from the Ahnaf said it?
Because I doubt many can get past that point. There's no reliable scholar they can reference these ideas to, and that's where the issue is, the lack of scholarly reference or backing. And if there is a valid answer, then the issue of proofs can be looked into.
Since I think what this does, is prevent a lot of people from going overboard, as when you start asking for proofs or create that mentality that the things you 'feel is wrong' needs to be given proof for or is invalid - sometimes there may be a point where what you feel is wrong culturally, is actually something which has a valid ikhtilaaf - even if it's not strong or even invalid according to the scholars/opinion you follow.
For instance it reminds me of Witr, and how some of the scholars we prominently follow say that it is not permissible to perform witr with three rak'aat together whilst sitting in the second raka'a for tashahud based off their understanding, whereas this is valid according to the Hanafis.
So what some people do, based on the 'lack of proof' they feel is from that opinion, not only speak against it, but go further and denounce those who follow this opinion entirely, as if by following it their salaah is completely invalid, thereby passing their own fatwas almost as well as what you said first about pushing taqleed.
Hmm, just throwing thoughts out there, it's a bit more complex really isnt it?