Assalam Aliekum - it's not as bad as all that! I am not forcing my husband to do anything! We have a dishwasher, we have a washer & dryer, we send all the clothes out to be ironed, and we have a maid that does all the actual cleaning-cleaning once a week. My husband loves to cook and finds folding laundry a very soothing, relaxing task. Also, he brought the cat into the house, so I feed it, he cleans up after it (besides, women of child-bearing age should not get anywhere near cat feces). Some of the replies make me think that you think I am a bad wife.
I work at a prestigious college-prep school and if I did all my work at school, my husband would never see me! I work (including after-school hours and weekends) an average of 60 hours per week during the school year - If I spent all that time at school it would be worse on my marriage. That said, being a teacher I do get a lot of extended blocks of time off - I am much more the "housewife" during those times. My husband makes way more money than me and has a job that he only needs to work about 20 hours per week.
If our my husband and I are happy with our situation, I don't see why anyone else should criticize us.
Lana