Just a Guy
Reinventing Myself
yes..what a hot topic..left here for two hours..and so many replies....thanks shy hijabi...
yes it seems many single men for example new converts looking for good muslim wife..so why men need to marry more than one
yes it is allowed in islam..but it is stipulated you must be equal to both..do you know how hard that is..... also it is reported.. that the prophet said
"whoever has two wives and leans towards one of them,will come onthe day of judgement with one side of his body leaning"
( sahih sunan abi dawad)
also polygamy is encouraged in special circumstances:
1. when a wife cannot bear children
2, if the wife is chronically ill and cannot fulfill duties
3. to solve social problenms
ie. in countries with shortage of men,particularly after war,,,in palestine and iraq iheard they are actually calling on men to marry two..that is understandable,,,,with many widowed women with children,,,,,
but is not meant to be just to fulfill mens desires,....
ANYWAY
how many men have the wealth the patience and time to marry more than one ???
:salam2:
This is my impression as well, that polygamy in Islam is an institution to protect women in certain situations. Widows, women who are ill, divorced women, etc; those that would not normally be able to care for themselves or their children. It used to be the same in early Christianity. The Old Testament Bible clearly states that if a woman's husband dies, her brother (if he has one) should marry her. If no brother, then the husband's father would marry her (if he is still alive). This was done to insure that the widow would be taken care of.
Once again, it's all about protecting the women. Contrary to the popular Western belief that Islam oppresses women, it's actually the opposite. I used to have a negative view of polygamy, but after researching it, I understand why it is permissable in Islam.