Your Future Husband/Wife

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    Asalamualaikum Brothers and Sisters...

    Since Marriage is important to all, or maybe, some of us... Please share what qualities and characters you prefer in your future husband or wife... Maybe it would help all of us in choosing the right person... :)

    MAY ALLAH BLESS US ALL...
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    I want a woman who is:

    Mature
    Religious
    Educated
    Cooks delicious food
    Knows how to run the house.
    And
    Cooperative.
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    Intelligent. I love a good intellectual discussion, and this is something that I would like to enjoy with my life partner.

    Sense of Humor. I like to laugh, and I like to make other people laugh. I think that laughter is important for us to make it through the hard times of life. God gave us a sense of humor, and it's a shame not to use it in my opinion.

    Not afraid to speak her mind. I want her to not be afraid to say what is on her mind. Let her teach me the things that I cannot learn for myself. I want her to tell me what she's thinking, and let me know if she disagrees with something I do or say.

    Strong in her faith, to help me with mine. I am still learning how to be a man, and how to be a Muslim man at that.
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    I think i'm a teeny weeny bit androphobic.
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    Assalam Alaykum,

    I prefer a true believing Muslimah
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    Assalaam walaikum,

    Why would you fear men?
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    salam aleikum wa rahmatulahy wa barakatuh

    good question dear sister, one that i honestly think about alot these days...one of the conclusions i reached is that i want him to be..to be like me, ofcourse in the masculine side....yes, how can i ask more or less then what i can give in exchange...is easy to make a list with a,b, c..but what we do when we face also the defects of the other person ?...

    now the next step is to define ''me'' ; ''myself'' and what can complete the balance...inchallah
    this is what i think.


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    Assalaam walaikum,

    In the Quran..like for like....
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    wa alaykum salam

    very religious and sincere.. clever and pretty ;) inshaAllah
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    I have been phobic of women for a long time now. One thing that drew me to Islam was the seperation of the genders. I feel like I can really concentrate on becoming a better man without the distraction of women.

    I am slowly learning how to deal with women though.
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    Pious, handsome (2 me), someone who made me feel protected, and .....on the same thought process.

    Oh, and had a career.
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    Assalamu alaikum, understanding, drives good, beautiful, loves Allah, isn't overly emotional, fun hahaha..... yeah that's about it, I can cook though so I don't really care about that.
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    Walaikkum assalam wa rahamatullahi wa barakatuhu,

    azwajun mutahharatun ;) , Insha Allah.
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    mashaAllah this thread :)
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    MASHALLAH Brothers and Sisters.... I pray that ALLAH give you ALL "The Special" person that you wish for... AMEEN
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    Walikumusalam Warehmatullahi Wabarakatuhu...

    I agree with you sister... It's a good question that what to do if we face the defects of the other person... I think if a person has a defect we should accept it and look at the good qualities of that person... And also if one wants to see those qualities in his/her life partner... One should also try and improve his/herself... We all lack something...Because, nobody is perfect..
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    I would like to be with my life partner, if I get marrried, in Jannah for eternity...INSHALLAH
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    This is personal for me, because one of my best friends has cerebral palsy and walks with a cane. I really don't even notice it most of the time, because I choose to overlook that and see the person that he is on the inside. I would have no problems being with a sister who has a "defect", because I don't see what's on the outside anyway.
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    MASHALLAH Brother.. This shows how Nice person you are.. You have a good heart... and May ALLAH help your friend and give strength...
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    Actually, he is the only one who really knows about my Islam. I knew he wouldn't care, and he didn't when I told him.

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