Discussion in 'TurnToIslam Lounge !' started by PeArLL, Feb 2, 2012.
That's how the true friends are....
Not likely to answer as it would start unnecessary debate and ruin the thread.
It comes naturally to me and it will go away naturally too when i reach
my twenties.hope so.
Even after trying out different permutation and combination of chromosomes in a genetic lab i doubt if such a combination of traits would come out to play in the same girl.
Hey wait you are a moder........... i think i got colourblind for five seconds.
p.s. i'm just kidding.
This is interesting.
Religiously commited, smart & pretty
salam aleikum wa rahmautlahy wa barakatuh
yes dear sister, i will overlook his defects if he is religious, smart, respectous and with sense of humor, inchallah
Wa'alaykumussalaam wa rahmatullahi wa barakaatuh,
Hmm.. an interesting thread..
I want a woman who can make feel like the whole world belongs to both of us and everyone else is just freeloading or renting the place!!
Sorry.. just kidding.. just venting my stress..
Already found someone like that insha Allah, though not that dramatic lol we're currently in the process to get married, but are facing many obstacles, especially from her families, but insya Allah everything will be all right in the end.. ameen.
Quoting sister hajjerr
To me she's that person insha Allah, i see her as the other "me", and the other half of the puzzle that i have been searching for all this time.. to make me "whole".
Assalamu allaicum wa rahmatullah wa barakatuhu
I pray to Allah that my husband be good Muslim and Servant of Allah, well-educated, hardworking, helpfull toward other people,modest and humble InshAllah.
And InshAllah he should love Allah more than I love Him.
i pray that my husband be a good Muslim have good manners and love me. i pray that he loves my nature my internal beauty rather than my external beauty.
i request to all sisters and brothers please pray for me.
MashaAllah nice thread.Barakallahu feek.
This reminds me of a joke,
In the 80's
Parents to their son:"Marry a girl who is from the same religion."
In the 90's
Parents to their son:"Marry a girl who is from the same country."
Parents to their son:"Marry anyone,make sure it's a girl!"
Brother.. lol... Funny... But, True!
INSHALLAH.. ALLAH will send a girl for Brother Mabsoot with these qualities..... Who knows she's out there waiting...
You're only going to be an awkward teenager for a few years. Just remember that. This won't last forever.
Excuse for going out-of-topic for a bit, but i just wanted to comment on something.
Being awkward, cautious, or uncomfortable around opposite gender is not a weakness akhee and ukhtee... in fact its one of the biggest blessings that Allah gave both of you as a form of His protection and guidance... its also one of the form of haya' [shyness], and its one of the essential characteristics of a mu'min [higher degree than a muslim] because of hadeeths that clearly states that it is part of our Imaan.
Narrated ‘Abdullah (bin ‘Umar) (raa) : Once Allah’s Apostle (saws) passed by an Ansari (man) who was admonishing to his brother regarding Haya’ (shyness). On that Allah’s Apostle (saws) said, “Leave him as Haya’ (shyness) is a part of faith.”
Belief – Sahih Bukhari: Volume 1, Book 2, Number 24
Yahya (raa) related to me from Malik (raa) from Ibn Shihab (Radiallahu Anhu – Translation: May Allah be pleased with him) from Salim ibn Abdullah (Radiallahu Anhu – Translation: May Allah be pleased with him) from ‘Abdullah ibn ‘Umar (Radiallahu Anhu – Translation: May Allah be pleased with him) that the Messenger of Allah (saws) passed by a man who was chiding his brother about modesty. The Messenger of Allah (saws) said, “Leave him. Modesty is part of iman.”
Good Character: Section: Modesty – Malik’s Muwatta: Book 47, Number 47.2.10
Salim (Radiallahu Anhu – Translation: May Allah be pleased with him) reported on the authority of his father that the Prophet (saws) heard a man instruction his brother about modesty. Upon this the Prophet (saws) remarked: “Modesty is an ingredient of Iman (faith).”
The Book of Faith (Kitab Al-Iman) – Sahih Muslim: Book 001, Number 0057
Source of Ahaadeeth
Now both of you may [or may not] view that characteristic of yours ["fear" of opposite gender] as a fault, or defect in your character because modern psychology view it as that, or because it is not "normal" in society. Let me tell you that "normal" is so overrated, plus knowledge of men [modern psychology in this case] is partial, it only view things from a narrow point of view, while knowledge of the deen is complete, because it encompasses all aspects of life, and judge things from Allah's perspective [based on daleel].
Insya Allah you guys will get over that phobia of the opposite sex naturally, in the right time, when both of you already found the one that Allah prepared for you to be your eternal companion insya Allah.. Allahumma ameen.
Jazakallah khairan for replying.
@brother just a guy.
Hey i'm not that young.I'm 18.I don't remember the last time i talked to a boy apart from forum.I'm happy about it anyways.The thing is that i'm scared of marriage.
Beautiful,pretty, liberal, free thinker,having good manners.
beautiful and pretty.. isn't that the same thing?
You're scared of marriage, and your 18.. so that's normal.. my sister are still scared of marriage, even though the date is set for her wedding.. and she's 31..
Fear of the unknown is part of human nature, and fear of marriage is part of women's nature..
BTW the funny thing is, about criteria of future spouse, everyone seems to have their own preferences, but they seems to have one thing in common.. their future spouse have to be good looking!!
*sigh* i guess there's no hope for us not-so-beautiful people..
What I may find to be beautiful may be ugly to someone else.
I think when asked, people mainly aim for the best.though in reality its not really like that. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder really stands. People with less beauty, defects or disabilities shouldn't feel disheartened. The inner beauty, the character of the person plays a major role in how others view them. A very close friend of mine was about to marry a blind person, with a view that his religiousness would compensate the defect. It didn't go ahead because it turned out he wasn't well practising. So it wasn't the defect that was the hinderance.
I think beauty is in the heart.. if you are beautiful from the inside.. then you're beautiful from the outside...
Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said: “Allah is beautiful and He loves beauty.” [Sahīh Muslim (911)] ... ALLAH Created His Creation Beautiful...
Thats impressive, your friend willing to marry a blind Indeed such a noble, humbling thought!! May Allah bestow a spouse who completes and makes beautiful your friends life... Ameen!
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