asslam o alaikum
brother
i have been through such situation some yrs back and i know how one feels helpless and i know what awful things i did for her..
i would say only one thing and that is going to help u , others won't.
ask Allah for help, Ask Him every time, beg Him, cry in front of Him, Ask Allah Again and again for help,
He is the only one Who is gonna help u.
telling her not to talk or telling your parents i think would do nothing, as such is the condition of mind that one becomes blind and all the powers of thinking don't work , this bloody love is such thing.
so pray to Allah , He can fill sabr in your heart, He can help you.
please pray two rakat of salat ul hajat and beg to Him , tell Him whatever you are telling us, inshAllah your heart will be healed , u will get rid of her,
Finally somebody who have been through the same thing, brother can you tell me how it went etc?
Assalamualaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh,
I just want to know how the starter of this thread is doing. I have just come upon this thread and since it is a VERY serious problem, I just need the assurance that there are changes to the better after a few days inshaAllaah.
Brother, to tell you the truth, when one is in such situation (feeling soo in love with someone - which of course if its a forbidden love), nothing much of what people are advising is of much help. Because at some point, shaitan laknatullah has taken over the heart completely which make one's actually 'stuck' in that world - wanting to repent and go back to Allaah but in the same time not ready to let go of that person.
Sometimes, maybe one's need to learn it the hard way when much of the efforts tried is of very little success. What I meant learning it the hard way is: maybe you need to feel the pain of losing Allaah's love in order for you to repent sincerely to Him instead of doing taubah and then commiting the same unlawful actions again,again and again.
I really hope brother, that things are changing now. Stay away from the internet for some time if thats how you keep in touch with her. Honestly this is serious and such situation can drag you for some time especially when feelings are taking control of you.
I dont wish what I have been through, happens to others too because it just feel so painful of being far away from Allaah. Remember that if you give up something for the sake of Allaah especially something that is truly dear to you, Allaah will replace it with something much much better and inshaAllaah you will feel peace and the bliss of having Allaah's love inside your heart. Every single moment we are being tested by Allaah and only from Allaah we will have the strengths to overcome every single trials and calamities.
La hawla wa la quwwata illa billah.
Waalaykummusalam wa rahmatullah.
I'm still in the ''nightmare'' if we say so...And it's really bad :S I'm sure this will end with I'll do one of the major sins...I've tried everything to stay away and I've stopped to pray
Brother please have a look at this http://www.islamqa.com/en/ref/83724/love%20sickness
All I can say is this is just a work from shaytaan that girl wants to take you away from path of ALLAH. Imagine you do everything to win over her and you would also get her but in the end when you stand in front of ALLAH that will be all in vain because its haraam. Don't you want that you would want to marry a blessed chaste woman?
Try to understand why don't you have the same feeling for ALLAH, he gave you life, parents, earth to live etc... so why you don't you feel depressed when you commit a sin or forget to pray and you say your depressed because of that girl who gave you nothing.
Believe me later on in the future you would laugh at yourself when you think about what all you did for this girl.
Try reading these books it will help you a lot.
http://www.kalamullah.com/lust-
and-greed.html
http://www.kalamullah.com/Books/Dont%20Be%20Sad.pdf
I have been through your similar situation and I can assure its all shaytaan and a sickness. The best cure is to eradicate the problem and repent sincerely or get married.
Thanks for the links but the books didn't worked to open ?
and you were so right when you said ''Believe me later on in the future you would laugh at yourself when you think about what all you did for this girl. ''
I really notice how stupid I were now..
The links are working fine.. for the second link it would open in pdf format you could save the pdf book..