Slave Of Ar-Ra7MaN
#Islam #Oreos
Assalam Alaikum brothers and sisters, Insha'Allah yall are in the best of health and strongest in Emaan. It has sure been ages since i last posted a thread or replied to any threads!
Anyways, I have a question... Just last week i told my family that i was going to get married to this brother but guess what my family said? NO! They said no, when they didnt even meet him, you all must be wondering what made them say "NO". Well, they ONLY said No because we are from different cultures, because I'm African (well mix with arab but w.e) and he is white.
He is a very good practising Muslim, but apparently, that doesnt matter to my family. They think that I have brought ashamed to them because some of my extended family know that I'm talking to a white brother! (stupid pride thingy) Subhan'Allah!! My family studied Islam and yet decided to act so Jahil (Ignorant). I even told them what our beloved prophet (pbuh) said, that no Arab is better than non-Arab and no non-Arab is better than Arab (of course in this case, no Black is better than White and no White is better than Black) except in FAITH, but they didnt want to listen at all. A lot of people said that I have the right to still get married to him (having an Imam to be my wali) and all... But i dunno... my family said that If i marry him, then they would literally disown me... I mean I love my family but i also love him, and i dont know what to do... I'm pretty sure that i wont get married without my mom's approval...i love her to death... but i also feel bad because I know what she is doing is wrong, and if i accept it, wouldn't that mean, I'm also wrong? SubhanAllah...
I guess I'm looking for some suggestions and advice.... Jazakomallah khairan wsalam alaikum!
Anyways, I have a question... Just last week i told my family that i was going to get married to this brother but guess what my family said? NO! They said no, when they didnt even meet him, you all must be wondering what made them say "NO". Well, they ONLY said No because we are from different cultures, because I'm African (well mix with arab but w.e) and he is white.
He is a very good practising Muslim, but apparently, that doesnt matter to my family. They think that I have brought ashamed to them because some of my extended family know that I'm talking to a white brother! (stupid pride thingy) Subhan'Allah!! My family studied Islam and yet decided to act so Jahil (Ignorant). I even told them what our beloved prophet (pbuh) said, that no Arab is better than non-Arab and no non-Arab is better than Arab (of course in this case, no Black is better than White and no White is better than Black) except in FAITH, but they didnt want to listen at all. A lot of people said that I have the right to still get married to him (having an Imam to be my wali) and all... But i dunno... my family said that If i marry him, then they would literally disown me... I mean I love my family but i also love him, and i dont know what to do... I'm pretty sure that i wont get married without my mom's approval...i love her to death... but i also feel bad because I know what she is doing is wrong, and if i accept it, wouldn't that mean, I'm also wrong? SubhanAllah...
I guess I'm looking for some suggestions and advice.... Jazakomallah khairan wsalam alaikum!