Sister you have got different responses. At the end of the day we are unique individuals.
Sometimes we do need people to understand us, but we also need people that remind us of the seriousity of an issue.
If we only get understanding people all the time, then we may feel too comfortable to change our ways.
When I first wore the hijab, I was youngish, and I just 'mixed and matched'. Maybe wore a party type top, with skirt not long enough. I didn't know, and there were those around me that were too nice, so didn't want to discourage me.
Then I got a few comments from few individuals that were anything but nice, I guess their intention was. They made me rethink, and want to improve the way I dressed. Yes they could have said them nicer, but maybe they didn't know how to, or probably if they did I may have taken their tiptoe comment not serious enough to to help me progress. A combination helps, and we need not take things too personally.
What's important is the content of what someone is saying; to believe that they are taking the time to write, and they have the best of intentions for you. sister you may feel hijab is not for you at the moment. All will come in good time inshallah. Everything will be easier inshallah. Sister feel free to PM me if you want to talk about anything 1:1. I'll do my best to help inshallah.
salam alaykum sister