blackivy393
Junior Member
im super mad. you talk to some people and you would think when talking to some people claiming they live for God or want to be a (christian) minister they would understand people being conservative. i was discussing with this acquintance on the phone who is a guy, and he is going to become a youth pastor. and i was explaning how i dress, and how often times people mistake me as being muslim, when im not wearing headscarf. because i like to wear the embroidery/ beaded tunics and jeans, or ill wear teen clothes and just layer, like a dress over a top and jeans, which is very fashionable right now.
but i told him i dressed very different than when i was younger, clothes were more fitting and shorter but still i dressed that way cuz i liked it and not for a guy; but now since im older i dress differently; and not going to dress differently on purpose in order 2 attract guy , so that maybe he'll date, and years later maybe he'll marry me. but he told me oh well your face is pretty why dont you show off the rest of your body. and i asked him why do i need to show off the rest of my body ? i told him i believe in modesty and that i dont show off my body , i can still dress nice with accesories and not show skin and look feminine. but than he goes on to ask me do i have low self esteem and is that why i dont show my body. err..... western concept of self esteem is very warped. if you dont show your body you must have low self esteem or low confidence, and if you're pretty you're suppose to show your body. and so many christians have been influenced by this society......
but i told him i dressed very different than when i was younger, clothes were more fitting and shorter but still i dressed that way cuz i liked it and not for a guy; but now since im older i dress differently; and not going to dress differently on purpose in order 2 attract guy , so that maybe he'll date, and years later maybe he'll marry me. but he told me oh well your face is pretty why dont you show off the rest of your body. and i asked him why do i need to show off the rest of my body ? i told him i believe in modesty and that i dont show off my body , i can still dress nice with accesories and not show skin and look feminine. but than he goes on to ask me do i have low self esteem and is that why i dont show my body. err..... western concept of self esteem is very warped. if you dont show your body you must have low self esteem or low confidence, and if you're pretty you're suppose to show your body. and so many christians have been influenced by this society......