Asja
Pearl of Islaam
crippled so what? that's not even an excuse. I personally know 2 men who were crippled since childhood and now they support their families alone in a society where people laugh at such persons.
@bold
No. As long the wife obeys her husband and doesnt rebel against him. A little money can make you do strange things you know. In islam leadership belongs to the man.
Assalamu allaicum wa rahamtullah wa barakatuhu
Dear brother, the leadership which you have mentioned can be the cause of many prejudices that can appear in one marriage, like for example that man is more supperior than woman, this offcourse will put in disorder the balance between the two spouses made by Allah and at the end it will bring disorder and disharmony in marriage. Also the word "to obey" should be replaced with the word"respect" becouse respect is consisted of love, honoring, modesty,admiration, and obeying is consited of fear.
The right word to describe the role of man/husband in marriage would not be leadership, but higher ressponsability in Islam is on man, becouse relationship in marriage is different than others and more sensitive as it has huge responsabilities and it is always subjected to different influences and many of them can be very dangerous for survival of one marriage.
Both man and woman in marriage need to be ready on takeing and fulfiling the roles which they may not be performeing at the moment, and since life always test us with different hardships both man and woman, husband and wife need to be ready to overcome them. We have many examples in which woman is in need to be in the same time mother (educator of her children) but in the same time their meinteiner, or from the other side where man is in need to be not only meinteiner of the familly but also in need to perform the role that would belong to woman, like for example in the case when his wife dies and he needs to take all obligations on himselfe.
Marriage is not relationship of superiority and inferiority, but relationship of reciprocity, respect, consultation, mutual goals.
We must not forget that one of the Surahs in Quran is al-Shura- "Counsel
", and we see that counseling is one of the basic characteristics of every believer. Allah sais in Quran :"So forgive them and pray that they be forgiven and counsel with them."
In the ayahs of Surah Al-Shura- counseling is mentioned after "Salah" and before "zakah", what also points on importance of this principle. Quran gives importance to this principle and puts it like one of the basic factors on which is based Muslim society, and before Muslim familly on relation husband-wife, parents-children.
May Alah guide us all. Ameen
Wa allaicumu Sallam wa rahamtullah wa barakatuhu