Salam
I think the question should have been "What is the most difficult thing about GETTING married?" not "What is the most difficult thing about marriage?"
Honestly, for you young 'uns who haven't been married yet - FINDING a wife or husband is definitely NOT the hardest part of marriage - the hardest parts start WHEN you get married.
Think about it - you have to learn how to live and interact everyday, in the most intimate (and most mundane) ways with a person you barely know. Everything EVERYTHING must now be a part of a partnership - you must learn to compromise (both men and women) on many things in order to be happy, because you didn't marry yourself, and everyone is an individual.
Learning the likes/dislikes of another person; dealing with social issues (everyone has them - those things that you learned from your family that are different from what your spouse learned from theirs while growing up); learning the styles & body language; and, AND being able to sleep with someone else - I am not even talking about sex, I am meaning just sleeping! What if he snores and you are a light sleeper? What if she snores? Your spouse is a blanket hog and you end up freezing every night!
And these are just some of the LITTLE Things - when kids come, there are a whole new set of adjustments you will need to make!
So, I wish you all luck in finding spouses, insha'Allah, but be realistic - the hard work starts once you are married.!
Lana
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