Would u marry someone younger than u?

[AZAM_SIDDIQUI]

this questionis for sisters
Would u marry someone younger than u?
and for brothers would u marry someone older than urself.:angryred:
anyone here who have done this and are happy mashallah.

it wud be nice to hear ur answers.:salam2:

 

[BintMuhammad]

Assalaamu alaikum,

Yes, Inshaa'Allaah this month to a brother 2 years younger than me BUT I look waaaaay younger than him Please make Du'a for us. Jazakallaahu Khayran!

 

[AZAM_SIDDIQUI]

assalamualaikum yeah

 

[AZAM_SIDDIQUI]

jazaak Allah ,inshallah,i will pray for u sister goes without saying
inshallah.
really mashallah

 

[Mabsoot]

:salam2:

I am not married, I do not think I would marry someone older than me. I recently turned 25.

Well, yeah I would marry someone younger. At least 3-4 years younger than me.

Its not really a fixed thing. Just you asked and this is my answer in general.

I think these things change over time anyway, someone who is 40 or more is much more mature and will be more accepting marrying a more mature lady. Whilst someone like me, whilst not immature hehe, wants someone same sort of age or younger.

the Prophet did marry Khadijah who was older than him, but this doesnt mean we can not have a choice in the matter. You can be as picky as you want within reason, as long as you look for good Muslim person.

wasalam

 

[Mabsoot]

does anyone think its fun ,2 go against the norm and take care of a young man who is very responsible with the world but has a childs softy heart in here.u know there are ppl like that who are very intelligent and task oriented but at a personal level need a very strong relationship which makes them secure to come ut in their flying colours .mostly suh ppl are extra ordinary and need someones nourishing love tcarry out their taskwhih Allah has put on their shoulders. i think our beloved prophetMUHAMMAD{saw} was one .what do u think ,,orany onewho wud prefer such a marriage.

:salam2:

lol, where are you going with this topic? ?

Also, I do not think you should be commenting on the reasons as to why our blessed Prophet married khadijah or comment on any part of his Life without firm evidence. This is not something for us just to talk about with guess work and ideas. Everything in Islam must be presented with pure evidences

 

[ScotsMuslim]

this questionis for sisters
Would u marry someone younger than u?
and for brothers would u marry someone older than urself.:angryred:
anyone here who have done this and are happy mashallah.

it wud be nice to hear ur answers.:salam2:

Asalamulaykum warahmatullahi bro

the Holy Prophet Muhammad (peace, love and blessings of Allah be upon him) married hazrat kadhija who was older than the Holy Prophet Muhammad (peace, love and blessings of Allah be upon him) so there wouldnt be a problem init nways im not married yet lol but inshAllah in time soon if Allah wills do dua

 

[junaid hasan]

:salam2:

I am not married, I do not think I would marry someone older than me. I recently turned 25.

Well, yeah I would marry someone younger. At least 3-4 years younger than me.

Its not really a fixed thing. Just you asked and this is my answer in general.

I think these things change over time anyway, someone who is 40 or more is much more mature and will be more accepting marrying a more mature lady. Whilst someone like me, whilst not immature hehe, wants someone same sort of age or younger.

wasalam

Akhi inshallah allah will give barakah in your life if you will marry with 25 years old a woman who is 40 years.

i have heard from scholars that allah taala has given barakah in their life.AKhi dont ask me now about daleel.

 

[junaid hasan]

Assalaamu alaikum,

Yes, Inshaa'Allaah this month to a brother 2 years younger than me BUT I look waaaaay younger than him Please make Du'a for us. Jazakallaahu Khayran!

Inshallah sister allah will give barakah in your allah as allah taala has given in the life of prophet mohammad(sw) with his first wife.(because of age difference!)

ameen.

 

[AZAM_SIDDIQUI]

Quote:
Originally Posted by Mabsoot


I am not married, I do not think I would marry someone older than me. I recently turned 25.

Well, yeah I would marry someone younger. At least 3-4 years younger than me.

Its not really a fixed thing. Just you asked and this is my answer in general.

I think these things change over time anyway, someone who is 40 or more is much more mature and will be more accepting marrying a more mature lady. Whilst someone like me, whilst not immature hehe, wants someone same sort of age or younger.

wasalam [/quote]
well assalamualaikum,brother mabsoot ,
i understand ur feelins since u r 25,and thats perfectly alriht inshallh i ll pray for u ,same 2 me ,lol

Akhi inshallah allah will give barakah in your life if you will marry with 25 years old a woman who is 40 years.

Its the perfect sunnah of prophet mohammad(sw) when he first married.
i have heard from scholars that allah taala has given barakah in their life.AKhi dont ask me now about daleel. lol.

but on second thoughts i wud second brother junaid hasan's advice lol

i am 21 and i think i cud marry anyone i wud be comfy with and it probably is someone older than me coz iam more mature than ppl my age and i think someone a bit older wud suit my intelletual ompatibility and i think i am being picky but aln with this that person shud be a child at heart and einstien at mind lol and how about fast bikes for breakfast and bungee jumpin for dinner.

 

[BintMuhammad]

Inshallah sister allah will give barakah in your allah as allah taala has given in the life of prophet mohammad(sw) with his first wife.(because of age difference!)

ameen.

:salam2:

Jazakallaahu Khayr brother for your Du'a. Really appreciated!

 

[Mabsoot]

Akhi inshallah allah will give barakah in your life if you will marry with 25 years old a woman who is 40 years.

Its the perfect sunnah of prophet mohammad(sw) when he first married.
i have heard from scholars that allah taala has given barakah in their life.AKhi dont ask me now about daleel. lol.

:salam2: Akhi al karim, my noble brother.

Its not "perfect Sunnah", this is how the Prophet got married. He did not say get married to 40 year old. Rather, we act on what he suggested. That is the Sunnah.

I do not know which "scholars" told you this stuff, but you meant to marry someone you will be happy with !! You are meant spend rest of your life with them and beyond inshaAllah. There is no "sacrifice". And certainly, you shouldnt marry so hastily that you change your mind after a few weeks, months or years. This is one of the Problems with some of our brothers and sisters. They marry without really thinking things through.

Two Hadith from Sahih al Bukhari:

Volume 7, Book 62, Number 17: Narrated Jabir bin 'Abdullah:
When I got married, Allah's Apostle said to me, "What type of lady have you married?" I replied, "I have married a matron' He said, "Why, don't you have a liking for the virgins and for fondling them?" Jabir also said: Allah's Apostle said, "Why didn't you marry a young girl so that you might play with her and she with you?'


Volume 7, Book 62, Number 27: Narrated Abu Huraira:
The Prophet said, "A woman is married for four things, i.e., her wealth, her family status, her beauty and her religion. So you should marry the religious woman (otherwise) you will be a losers.

You should not write anything without firm Daleel. Its best to remain silent if there is none. Our Islam is based on Dalil. Saying dont ask for Dalil is not good dear brother.

So, you must have daleel that it is sunnah for 25 year old to marry a 40 year old! It is not a Sunnah. Its like saying, going into the Cave in Mount Hira is Sunnah, it is not, or going to Bosra Shaam in Syria is a Sunnah because the Prophet went their as a child.


wasalam

 

[junaid hasan]

:salam2: Akhi al karim, my noble brother.

Its not "perfect Sunnah", this is how the Prophet got married. He did not say get married to 40 year old. Rather, we act on what he suggested. That is the Sunnah.

wasalam

Jazakallahu khairan akhi for the difenation of sunnah.

i didn´t knew it.It makes really clear.How could i be so idi... because i haven´t also seen famous scholar who has married a 40 years old woman because of sunnah!
And about 40 and 25? may be you will get more informaiton on the massege of bintmohammed where i wrote that in braket(was those barakah because of their age differences?)Which proves i didn´t get the correct meaning of that scholar, so i also wrote not for ask about daleel.

Akhi hope you got point.And that word" perfect" is mistakenly used by me.i wanted to write combination of marriege age of prophet mohammad(sw) with yours.

:salam2:

 

[ditta]

Asalaamu'Alykum,

If the sister was right then Insh'Allah. Thinking about this issues make me think it will be difficult to find someone who i can relate to or would even want to marry me.

May Allah (S.W.T) upon us pious spouses.

Amin.

Alhamdulilah

Wasalam

 

[AZAM_SIDDIQUI]

brothers u r both correct.
yes daleel is very important yup .no doubt this religion no joke

and at the same time i have read that hazrat Khadija being mature understood the prophet SAW better and with her minds eye knew that he was destined for something big and proved to be a worthy companion for someone of his stature .it goes without saying that had the first wife been a young person much energy wud have lost on whims and fancies and the ask of emotional support .whist here hazrat Khajida stood by him as his emotional support and it is evident from the way the prophet wud spend days in ghaare hira and when he first received the wahi ....whom did he come running to ? and who comforted him with words that can never come from but a wise person,an observant and noble and serene wife for whom the well being of her husband is both her priority and raison de'etre.

 

[ShyHijabi]

Salaam,

I really don't understand why some people focus so muhc on age gaps and who is older or younger. When looking for a mate the males are told to look for four things in a wife and piety is the most important of those four. Not once does it state that her age should configure into the equation. Frankly I think age is a rather shallow thing to focus on when dealing with half your religion.

Obviously the age doesn't matter to me but rather or not the brother in question is a good Muslim if he will be a decent husband and father to me and our children.

Wasalaam

~Sarah

 

[UmmOf3]

Salaam aleikum

My husband is two years younger than me, but its not really an age-difference, i think. We are basically the same age. I have some memories from early childhood that he cant remember, such as some TV-shows or news-stories, but thats about it.

 

[shaheeda35]

:salam2:
I would not mind someone older than me, not too old though, lol!! I'm 35, so no one over maybe 50 or so!! The youngest probably no less than 28. I need a very mature person in my life, not saying that they will not be.Its just my preferance. Allah knows best.

 

[dna1987]

Salam alaikum.

The ladies responses in this thread have been very positive and motivating in this thread. I hope to marry an older lady perhaps between my age to four years older than me. Such a willl have more maturity and independence than someone younger than me (this is a bit of a generalisation though).

 

[IslamIsLight]

salam aleikum
mmmm ok
In my opinion its better to have someone much older then me(10-15 years) ,but for sure NOT YOUNGER ,I dont want to be a babysitter for a husband too Jk

waaleikum salam