It could be. I'm suppose to have positive influence on my cousins. I'm expected to do what their parents should. It's a responsibilty imposed (By expectations) on me more than I 'think' I can bear. However, I feel I'm doing some good now that I changed my ways. I've put up a chart in my room. It shows a bar. Everytime my cousins do a good act, from salam when they enter the house to prayers or brushing there teeth, I add a green gem in there. Everytime something wrong (fighting, bad mouthing, being stubborn, not doing homework) happens I turn one of the gem black. A good deed changed the black back to green. fast prayers mean one gem, slow beautiful ones mean two. If they reach the mid line, they get a "Shawarma", If they score perfect, they get a juice as a bonus. It's working very well on both my cousins Mashaa'Allaah. One of them is 4 and doesn't know salah, but he's the first to perform wudhu and wait on the prayer rug for his brother (10) to lead him. I'm happy to have started 'some' good. I still have to think of what to do with the girls *sigh*. They are 15 and 12. Can't really think of much right now.