Assalam-Aliykum
If anybody could help I would really appreciate it.
I come from a non religious family and two and a half years ago married a muslim man, who i now have a daughter with. Over the past few months I have been reading his Quran and studying Islam online and two months ago decided to revert and took my Shahadah. Since then i am finding it really hard and feel as though everybody including my husband has turned against me. My family had no real reaction when i told them I was muslim and didn't seem to mind, until they realized I was going to wear hijab. My father and grandparents will not speak to me and my mother asks that I walk away from her so that nobody knows we are together. She says white people should not be wearing this. Even my husband seems to have a problem with me and he is a muslim. When I told him i wanted to revert he was happy ,but as the weeks have gone on he has become irritated with me, as he barely practiced Islam before. When I ask him anything about Islam he says he doesn't have time to tell me. He tells me to stop wearing my abaya when i go out because he doesn't like it and says i can wear a head scarf with jeans and a longer top,but I believe i shouldn't be showing the shape of my legs. When I ask him to pray he says he is too tired and if I want him to pray I have to go to work instead of him (I currently stay at home and look after our 5 month daughter).
We were happily married before I reverted with no problems at all. Now his favorite phrase is " you are a muslim wife now ,so if you don't do as I say your going to hell" .I'm not talking about disobeying him with things I should be doing. I cook clean ,look after the home and our daughter etc. He says this when I won't remove my abaya or if i ask him to hold our baby so i can pray and he refuses . I have tried talking to him about how I feel and said he should be happy i'm trying to practice Islam properly and the response I got was that if he knew i was going to convert and become soo religious he would not have married me.
My questions are if my husband does not change and start practicing Islam am I allowed to stay with him, because i love him alot and really don't want to divorce and secondly when we married we tattooed each others names on our wrists. We have looked into removing them but cannot afford to at the moment as we were quoted thousands for us both to have them removed and we have very little spare money. My husband is saying that my prayers are not accepted with this tattoo and that when i reverted I was not forgiven for this because it says Mohammud and if it was another name i would have been forgiven. He also says if I die with this on my wrist it will be burning in my grave and I will go to hell. I don't know what to do as i can't afford to laser it off. Is this true ?
Sorry for such a long message I don't know where else to ask. Our mosque does not allow women.
If anybody could help I would really appreciate it.
I come from a non religious family and two and a half years ago married a muslim man, who i now have a daughter with. Over the past few months I have been reading his Quran and studying Islam online and two months ago decided to revert and took my Shahadah. Since then i am finding it really hard and feel as though everybody including my husband has turned against me. My family had no real reaction when i told them I was muslim and didn't seem to mind, until they realized I was going to wear hijab. My father and grandparents will not speak to me and my mother asks that I walk away from her so that nobody knows we are together. She says white people should not be wearing this. Even my husband seems to have a problem with me and he is a muslim. When I told him i wanted to revert he was happy ,but as the weeks have gone on he has become irritated with me, as he barely practiced Islam before. When I ask him anything about Islam he says he doesn't have time to tell me. He tells me to stop wearing my abaya when i go out because he doesn't like it and says i can wear a head scarf with jeans and a longer top,but I believe i shouldn't be showing the shape of my legs. When I ask him to pray he says he is too tired and if I want him to pray I have to go to work instead of him (I currently stay at home and look after our 5 month daughter).
We were happily married before I reverted with no problems at all. Now his favorite phrase is " you are a muslim wife now ,so if you don't do as I say your going to hell" .I'm not talking about disobeying him with things I should be doing. I cook clean ,look after the home and our daughter etc. He says this when I won't remove my abaya or if i ask him to hold our baby so i can pray and he refuses . I have tried talking to him about how I feel and said he should be happy i'm trying to practice Islam properly and the response I got was that if he knew i was going to convert and become soo religious he would not have married me.
My questions are if my husband does not change and start practicing Islam am I allowed to stay with him, because i love him alot and really don't want to divorce and secondly when we married we tattooed each others names on our wrists. We have looked into removing them but cannot afford to at the moment as we were quoted thousands for us both to have them removed and we have very little spare money. My husband is saying that my prayers are not accepted with this tattoo and that when i reverted I was not forgiven for this because it says Mohammud and if it was another name i would have been forgiven. He also says if I die with this on my wrist it will be burning in my grave and I will go to hell. I don't know what to do as i can't afford to laser it off. Is this true ?
Sorry for such a long message I don't know where else to ask. Our mosque does not allow women.