wa'alaikumussalam warahmatullahi wabarakatuh sister
Very sorry for the very late response as I was away from internet yesterday and today until now.
I have read your posts and the replies of others over there. Since it is a full of Urdu laguage thread, I do not understand most of the things over there.
As per the examples you have given to prove that the thread is going beyond the Islamic Guideline and the responses of others for them, I can now very clearly say that you are telling it correctly and alhamdhulillah can assure that you are on the correct track. You have done your job by telling it, as you understand Urdu. So now your job is done alhamdhulillah.
Patience is the key my sister. Do not worry too much. InshaAllah things will be okay.
wassalam 'alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh